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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband is the youngest of three brothers, and we were married last of the bunch. My older sisters-in-law have become close friends over the years. They have a lot in common — both are teachers (I work in finance), both are of Swedish descent (I'm Greek), and both have two sons (I have three daughters). We all live in different parts of the country, but spend Christmas in our hus- bands' hometown. I have tried very hard over the years not to feel like the third wheel, but it's hard when they have so much in common and I can't relate to many of their conversations. I have tried to connect with them individually between Christmases, but I'm always the initiator — they never reach out to me. I know they maintain close contact with one another, but I rarely hear from them. I hesitate to bring up that I'm feeling left out because I want them to be in a relationship with me by choice, not make the effort out of obligation. How can I be fair to them, not come off as whiny or needy, and still form a genuine connec- tion with them when there doesn't seem to be room for me? —ThirdWheelSister DEAR THIRD WHEEL » Your narrative gives every justification for these women to be closer to one another than to you — primarily, aside from all they have in common, they have known one another longer. I think you are putting a lot of pressure on this relationship by insisting it be a friendship. The fact is that you are all in-laws. The main thing you have in common with these two women is the fact that you are married to brothers. If they aren't deliberately excluding you, and if your in-laws are amiable enough when you are together, that m ig h t b e th e be st y ou ca n do — and that's a lot! Don't contact them unless you want to, not because you are hoping for a particular response from them. DEAR AMY » My best friend and I are like brothers. We tell each other everything. A couple of days ago, I found out that he was in a relationship with an- o th er m an f o r s ix m o nt hs . I was suspicious that he was gay and I asked him about it. He said no and I believed him. I told him I didn't care if he was gay, straight, or bi. He is my best friend no matter what. I don't know if I should tell him I have also been involved with both men and women. I don't want to jeopardize a great friendship, but what should I do? — Blood Brother DEAR BROTHER » Evident- ly you two don't actually tell one another every- thing — and withholding infor mat ion is actua lly more brotherly than you might think. You have both been concealing the truth about your sexual preferences and behavior. You should confess rather than confront. Sister-in-law relationship might never be friendship You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Capricorn(Dec.22-Jan.19) — Love and romance are looking good. Spend time with the people who mean the most to you, and make lasting memories with them. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Wait until you are able to get the truth about someone's feel- ings for you. Don't be demand- ing or get angry. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Stop imagining how you would like your future to be and start taking action to make your dreams come true. Education and networking will help. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Stand your ground. Some- one may disrupt your plans or change your mind about some- thing. Travel delays will try your patience. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Romantic relationships are in a high cycle. Make special plans for two. A short vacation will refresh and revitalize you, as well as improve your personal life. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Be wary; you may have a hard time keeping a secret. You will damage a friendship by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Be sensitive to other people's feelings. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — A chance encounter at an event or social gathering will have an amazing impact on your future. This is a great time to begin or strengthen your love connection. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Make the most of your generos- ity and good will. Get out with friends or spend time shopping for something that will lift your spirits. A happy outlook will lead to greater popularity. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — If you need a diversion, spend time enjoying a cultural event in your community. Travel op- portunities look favorable if you make arrangements now. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Money troubles will surface. Someone close to you will not be on your side regarding a big expenditure or investment. Friends or neighbors will be able to offer helpful advice or information. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — A problem with an older individual is apparent. A casual friend will surprise you with news. If you listen carefully, you will notice a double meaning to what's being said. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Your free-spirited, care- free attitude will shock those who don't know you well. Enjoy yourself, but don't do anything that will jeopardize your rela- tionship with someone special. 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