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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ifrequently read in your column about people snooping into their partner's email or texts and how that is a br each of priva cy. I disagree. No part of either my phone or computer is pri- vate from my husband. He is too lazy to log out of my Facebook account and into his, so he just reads mine (he never com- ments for me, though). If I wanted to hide any portion of my personal life from him, I think it would mean that I was doing or thinking something that I shouldn't. If we live authentic, honest lives, there is nothing to hide. Our privacy should be shared privacy. Please explain what is wrong with my thinking. —ConfusedReader DEAR CONFUSED » There is nothing at all wrong with your thinking. Some couples don't close the bathroom door when they use the toilet; what is considered "private" is different for different people. If you don't consider anything on your phone, mail or social media to be private, then your husband isn't violating your privacy by looking at it. (But why, then, doesn't your husband "comment" as you when he is on your Facebook page? Evidently you two are not complete- ly interchangeable.) However, having private conversations or correspondences doesn't mean a person has any- t hi n g n ef ar io u s to h i d e ; having private thoughts, utterances or writing simply means a person gets to have an interior life that isn't shared. Transparency is important in intimate partnerships. DEAR AMY » My brother has been married for 23 years to a woman whom my parents dislike. While she is self-absorbed and this can be annoying, she is a good mother to their three children, and my brother loves her. My parents exclude my brother and his wife from family celebrations, such as birthdays, saying that they don't want to spend time with my brother if his wife is included. I know that my brother finds this hurtful. I have told my parents that they need to respect my brother's choice and include his wife in our family events, but they disagree. Who is right? — Frustrated in Glendale DEAR FRUSTRATED » You are right. Family events, holidays and celebrations should include fam- ily members. And your sister-in-law is a family member. This is the "for better or for worse" part of the wedding vow that impacts the extended family. If this in-law's primary crime is that she is "self- absorbed," then common sense would tell you that inclusion and exposure to others could make her more family-oriented. But even if it doesn't, your parents should tolerate and be kind and respectful toward their son's wife, who is also the mother of their grandchildren. Woman wonders what is private intimate partnership You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Sagittarius(Nov.23-Dec. 21) — Education is an ongoing search for knowledge. You will outmaneuver the competition if you continue to hone your skills and expertise. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Whether decorating your home for upcoming festivities or renovating to better suit your needs, comfort and convenience should be scheduled. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Overemotional or irrational outbursts will cause others to alienate you. Prevent hurt feel- ings or angry confrontations by thinking matters through. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Turn something you enjoy into a moneymaking venture. Extracurricular activities will help round out your social life. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't expect everyone to agree with you. Work diligently to get everything in place before you share your plans. The more pre- pared you are, the less opposi- tion you will face. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Financial and personal disappointments are likely if you don't keep your emotions in check. Consider the motives of anyone who is soliciting a dona- tion or asking for assistance. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Your stress level is on the rise. Altering your surroundings or moving to a new location will change the dynamics of your situation. Devote time to some- thing you enjoy doing. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Others may not agree with your plans, but you have the exper- tise and intelligence to make your dreams come to life. Let everyone know that you intend to move forward. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Take a step back before you make an irreversible decision. Observe what's going on around you and determine the extent of the situation and the conse- quences that lie ahead should you make a move. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — An unfortunate misunderstand- ing between you and someone close to you is apparent. Choose your words carefully and be aware of the pressures that you and those around you are facing. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Love is on the rise. Your creativ- ity level is high, allowing you to come up with solutions to any challenge you face. A short trip will provide inspiration. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — With your abundance of ener- gy you will breeze through your tasks. Taking on additional du- ties will boost your reputation, but be sure to leave some time for more enjoyable pastimes. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, DEC. 4 THURSDAY,DECEMBER4,2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B