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Thursday, September 8, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Driven debutante duping Daddy Dear Annie: When I divorced three years ago, my ex-husband and I worked out a visitation schedule whereby he gets our children three week- ends a month. Now that our older child is 13, she is involved with a great many extracurricular activities and has a busy social life. ''Sydney'' has canceled quite a few weekends with her father in order to do other things. Now he is accusing me of withholding visita- tion. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Last spring, Sydney signed up for a musical stage production that included twice-a-week practices and two weekend shows in a row. She told her father I was ''forcing'' her to do the show, even though she knew when she signed up that the production was dependent on her and she couldn't miss too much time. She wanted to do it. My ex believes I am to blame for all the canceled weekends. In addition, Sydney always has to call her father on those weekends she stays home. She often gets his voicemail, and then he gets angry that he hasn't spoken to her. When I ask why he doesn't call her back, he claims he's too busy. In the past three years, he has never called once. When he needs to make pick- up arrangements, he has his girl- friend do it. It is frustrating being responsible for initiating contact between my daughter and her father, and I am sick and tired of hearing him complain. Sydney is a teenager, and I rarely get to see her myself. Isn't there some kind of loophole that says a teenager can refuse visitation? Can I tell him to shut up and get a lawyer so my daughter can tell a judge what she wants? — Not Withholding the Child Dear Not: Well, we don't recommend the ''shut up'' part. Visitation schedules are often altered as children get older. When ex-spouses can set aside their differences for the child's sake, this can be worked out amicably. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be the case for you. Part of the problem is that Sydney doesn't want her father to think ill of her, so she gives the impression that you are to blame. She should learn to take responsibility for her decisions. And her parents should talk this over with a mediator. Dear Annie: Once a week, a group of us gets together to play games at one of our houses. When the phone rings, the hostess will usually let it go to voicemail. However, at one home, the host- ess not only answers the phone, but she proceeds to have a long con- versation with the caller. She often gets several calls during the time we're there. Those playing have to sit and wait for her to finish. As far as we can tell, none of these calls is an emergency or anything that couldn't wait until the rest of us have gone home. Would you com- ment on this, please? — Interrupt- ed Dear Interrupted: When you invite guests to your home, it is rude to allow non-emergency phone calls to repeatedly interfere with socializ- ing. One of you should take the woman aside and ask her to please stop doing this. Or, when she picks up the next call, say, ''Oh, Doris, since you're going to be talking, we'll just play your hand for you.'' That should shorten the conversa- tion substantially. Dear Annie: I hope you have room for one more letter about the efficacy of counseling. After extricating myself from an abusive marriage, I sought help from a professional. But I found it confusing, frustrating and ineffec- tive. My counselor insisted that I had done absolutely nothing wrong in our marriage and my husband was 100 percent responsible for the disaster. But, how could that be? I am far from perfect. It did not ben- efit me to think that way. I know counselors should be sup- portive and affirming, but this was ridiculous. The counselor ended up having no credibility in my eyes. — Didn't Need It Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Jubilee! 30th annual shindig Special to the DN Kick up those west- ern heritage heels at the Tehama County Muse- um's 30th annual Jubilee from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday, Sept. 10, at 275 C. St. in Tehama. Tuck into a hearty pancake breakfast in one of the smallest incorporated towns in California (pop. 445). Give a listen to a lineup of live entertainment featuring the Sweet Adelines. Peruse an old fashioned country store to stock up on home- made baked goods, jams and jellies. Enjoy a quiet walk through the Nancy Serr Memorial Art Exhibit. Experience a slice of those much coveted homemade pies and then bid on a whole one. View a mixed bag of "American Classic Memory Cars." Join in on the excitement of raf- fle prize drawings. Jim Fortier is even offering a ride in his 1926 Ford Model T Touring Car as a prize. Browse over 30 Courtesy photo Members of the popular Sweet Adelines' women's quartet group will be performing at the 30th annual Tehama County Museum Jubilee from 1:30-2 p.m. on Saturday, Sept. 10.These talented women will come from all over the north state to share their special style of music. This is a coup for the Muse- um. Darrell Mullins, TCM vice president and curator said, "We've been trying to get on their calendar for the past decade, and we are very pleased that they accepted our invi- tation to perform this year. crafter and artisan booths with participants from as far away as Dunsmuir, Susanville, Shingletown, and Maga- lia. Their talents run the gamete from glass etch- ing to wood burning; from glass painting to beaded jewelry; from pottery making to "Baby Cake" creating. Bring in your family's trash or treasures and have professional appraisers from Chico attach dollar values. Explore the county's unique, rich and color- ful history displayed in a continuously occupied 1859 Masonic Temple/School house listed on the National Register of Historic Places. Everyone is invited to take advantage of the many opportunities to support the Tehama County Museum. All proceeds benefit the mission to preserve and exhibit artifacts repre- senting the history and cultural of the area. It is neither supported by nor dependent upon any government body and is sustained through the voluntary efforts of his- tory minded people. Donations and fundraising help keep the doors open and allow public access to an abundance of historic riches…3,000 plus relics, countless pho- tographs and hundreds of documents provide education, inspiration, enlightenment and aes- thetic enrichment. Admission is free. For more information call 384-2595, send an email to tcmuse@tehama.net or visit www.tehama- countymuseum.org. Tri-County Sams Chapter to meet The Tri-County Sams Chapter of the Good Sam Club held their August Campout at Mt.Lassen/Shingletown KOA Campground, with six rigs in attendance. Four rigs met for breakfast on Friday morning at the Cozy Diner in Red Bluff and traveled together. On Friday night, the campground provided an outdoor movie and served popcorn to the campers. On Saturday morning the group held a Social Hour with lots of good- ies to eat. The group meeting was in the after- noon. After the meeting was over, the camp- ground held an Ice Cream Social. A chicken barbecue was held in the evening. Trail bosses were Retta and Ed Pereira from Orland who deco- rated the tables with yel- low tablecloths, napkins, cups of candy and small flower pots down the middle of the table. Sally Watham was a guest of Sharon Furia. On Sunday morning, the campground put on a wonderful breakfast of pancakes, sausage, hash brown patties, coffee, milk, juice and fruit. The Sept. 9, 10 and 11 campout will be held at Doney Creek Lakeshore Villa at Lakehead. Trail boss will be Sharon Furia and there will be a Steak Barbe- cue. On Friday morning, the group will meet at the Cozy Diner in Red Bluff for breakfast and travel together to the campout. Anyone owning a self-contained RV that would like to go on monthly campouts with a small group of people are encouraged to call Wagon Master Vic Dick- ison at 824-3081 or Pres- ident Richard Sol at 385- 1344. Organizers would really like to hear from interested RVers as they are trying to increase membership. Dorm mold likely to blame DEAR DR. GOTT: My son lives in a dorm that has obvious signs of mold. He has been sick the entire school year with sinus and throat issues. When he comes home, he is not necessarily better. The "illness" seems to be cyclical. He gets almost healthy and then gets sick again. He is seldom free of these symptoms. He has had a couple rounds of antibi- otics with no complete relief. Do you have any suggestions for getting his health back? I have already given him an air purifier and Damp Rid. DEAR READER: First and foremost, you need to contact his school and inform it of the mold problem. It is the school's responsibility to have this potentially serious issue resolved. It may be that you son is now feeling the ill effects of living most of the year surrounded by mold. If he is truly suffer- ing from these effects, he should move to another dorm without mold, at least until the school has been able to investigate and clean up his current dorm. Because he is con- stantly exposed, it may take some time before he recovers completely, but in the meantime he should speak with his physician regarding his current symptoms, the mold issue, and possibly undergo some testing to ensure that nothing else is going on, such as sinus polyps, etc. The doctor can then prescribe appro- priate treatment or refer him to an ear-nose-and- throat specialist or aller- gist. Readers who are inter- ested in learning more can order my Health Report "Allergies" by sending a self-addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 U.S. check or money order to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to mention the title, or print an order form from my website's direct link: www.AskDr- GottMD.com/order_form .pdf. DEAR DR. GOTT: Some time ago a reader wrote in regarding the failure of a wound to heal. My hospital, the Sierra Nevada Hospital in Grass Valley, has opened one of several state-of-the-art wound centers in the state of California. Treatment is provided by specially trained physicians or by the center's nurse practi- Dr. Peter Gott tioner. They use computerized medical records, hyperbaric oxy- gen therapy and biologic skin sub- stitutes. It offers monoplace oxy- gen chambers that perform full-body therapy that allows pressur- ized oxygen to be absorbed into the body to enhance the perfusion of oxygen to the tissues. Treatments are 90 min- utes long and are given five days a week. You reader should check this out, and if he or she isn't near this part of Califor- nia, I'm certain there are other such centers throughout the country. DEAR READER: There are specialized wound care centers in many hospitals and other facilities throughout the United States. Many offer a wide variety of treat- ment options depending on the cause, location and severity of the wound. Specially trained staff, including nurses and physicians, will be able to help determine which options are best for any given situation. I suggest anyone with a non-healing wound seek out one of these clin- ics by contacting his or her local hospital. Some- one there should be able to direct a person to a qualified facility either within or outside the hos- pital itself. Readers who are inter- ested in learning more can order my Health Report "Medical Special- ists" by sending a self- addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 U.S. check or money order to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to men- tion the title, or print an order form from my web- site's direct link: www.AskDrGottMD.com /order_form.pdf. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including "Live Longer, Live Better," "Dr. Gott's No Flour, No Sugar Diet" and "Dr. Gott's No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook," which are available at most bookstores or online. 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