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We know it will hurt, but it will set us free. —It'sComplicated DEAR COMPLICATED » If your aunt asked me this question, I would urge her to disclose her son's parentage to him (if she hasn't already) because her son has a right to know his biological par- entage, and also because this sort of family secret has a way of snowballing, as your question demonstrates. Given your father's behavior, it is a distinct possibility that you have other siblings out there, but you cannot force him to reveal it. DEAR AMY » My wife of 25 years is saying she doesn't want to spend time with my family if I won't sup- port her in disputes with them. The problem is she goes from zero to 90 in a matter of seconds. For example, we gathered at my brother's house a few weeks after my wife's father died. My brother hadn't informed his wife about my wife's loss, and she innocently asked my wife how her father was doing. My wife erupted at my brother, screaming at him. I don't think my brother had a chance to apologize immediately because my wife was in such a rage. She is angry at me because she felt I didn't support her. She has suggested that a sign of support would have been getting back in the car and leaving. Frankly, I was dumbstruck by the whole scene, and I'm not sure what I could have or should have done. My wife didn't accom- pany us last year to my brother's for Thanksgiv- ing weekend and is imply- ing she doesn't want to go this year. I don't know how to placate her. What should I do? — Harried Husband DEAR HARRIED » Yes, you should be supportive of your wife, but this should not translate into defend- ing her rages. In the situ- ation you describe, her feelings are completely justified, but this does not mean she (also) gets to behave badly. Basically, your message to her should be, "I sup- port you, but this doesn't mean that I must behave the way you behave." I do not think you should leave your wife behind on Thanksgiving Day, however. Siblings search for paternity answers about their cousin You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23) — Curtail your spending habits. Putting some money into a long-term investment will lessen your temptation to over- spend. Set up a budget. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Someone around you will not give a true assessment of a situation you face. Discreet inquiries will enable you to find out the truth. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You will gain more re- spect and help if you treat part- ners as equals. People appreci- ate fairness as well as praise. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Stay on top of your game. Opportunities come and go quickly. Keep up to date with industry trends and get in touch with potential partners. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Clear the air. If there is discord among the people you live with, you need to conduct a serious dialogue in order to rem- edy the situation. Don't ignore the obvious. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't pass on a chance to travel. Keep your passport and personal papers up to date so that you will be ready to go at a moment's notice. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You can accomplish plenty if you put in overtime at work. Not only will you clear your sched- ule, you can gain recognition from your superiors and bring in extra cash. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Quick decisions will be your downfall. Avoid buying things on impulse, and don't fly off the handle if your partner offers friendly advice. Think things through before you act. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Keep your personal and professional lives separate. An emotional attachment to a co-worker is likely to cause mis- trust and dissatisfaction among your other colleagues. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Children will have a positive effect on your day. New rela- tionships are possible if you participate in family-oriented events or activities. Get out and enjoy your community. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Plan to do something that allows you to be introspective. Reading, writing or listening to music will help calm your nerves. Discussions will be less than satisfactory. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — If you feel restless, check out local educational opportuni- ties. For inspiration, consider learning a new language, doing some painting or taking part in a discussion group. 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