2A Daily News – Monday, August 8, 2011 Community people&events Driving change in a productive manner
Between the covers of the business book currently on my nightstand, the author devotes few pages to dis- cussing cash flow or spreadsheets, while much ink is dedicated to chang- ing one’s thoughts about money. It is her premise that our income basically determined more by how we think than by the actions we take. Of course, those considerations then pro- duce behaviors, which lead to results. Therefore, if we “dig down” and adjust them, we will do what we do in an altered manner. This provides fresh results improving our business. In effect, change your thoughts; change your financial life. The barricade is our ol’ buddy,
Denial.
Thought patterns, much like a river cutting a path through granite, our etched into our psyche over time, with much repetition. To refashion such embedded patterns takes a great deal of effort — and it’s not like we’re not busy already, right? Besides, “there’s always tomorrow.”
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U.S. Army Lance Cpl. Christopher Grannes graduated July 21, 2011, from the 16-week AIT basic training. Grannes, a Red Bluff Union High School graduate, is stationed at Ft. Carson, Colo. He is the son of Kevin and Katria Grannes of Red Bluff.
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The author suggests that such transformation only occurs once “we’re hit by a two-by-four.” Of course, she’s speaking figuratively, not literally. (I hate it when people say “literally” when they mean “figura- tively.” Sorry, pet peeve…) Let me expand: Suppose you’re in a floundering relationship. You didn’t get there overnight; it began subtly, “the small things.” For example, you don’t talk as much. “It’s no big deal,” you think, “We’re just busy right now.” That might be accurate; having said that, “something” still feels off. But, you put it to back burner until
you have more evidence — or time. After awhile, your “couple’s time” becomes more sparse. You are room- mates more than partners, on parallel tracks with no inter- sections. Logically, you can explain it away. “We’ve both got so much on our plates; things will get back to nor- mal soon.” No action taken. Soon, intimacy, in all its forms, has become a memo- ry. There is now real dis- tance, even a bit of resent- ment. Nobody brings any- thing up; you’re not even sure you want to broach the sub- ject. Also, the chasm is now an additional barrier. Oh sure, you’re thinking about “mak- ing some changes” when things settle down. For now, it’s “stay the course.”
Then comes the two-by-four: He
wants “out.” “I don’t even know who you are
anymore,” he says, in a difficult, unexpected (?), conversation. “We’ve grown apart.” It’s a pattern experienced by mil- lions of couples. Despite the warn- ings, and their ever-increasing appear- ances, we are able to rationalize what’s going on, while denying what we felt. Therefore, for most, it takes getting slammed upside the head with a brick (again, “figuratively”) before we do what must be done. This is in any facet of our lives, from our rela- tionships to diets to finance. Newton’s first law of motion says that a body in motion will remain in motion unless acted on by an external
Scott Q. Marcus
force. In effect, we will do what we do until, painfully; we can no longer deny the results of our actions. Once at that place, we are so overwhelmed, that it seems an insurmountable problem and we remain stagnant in unhappiness. First of all, it is not undefeatable if we break it into small steps, and engage in them with regu- larly and immediacy. That stated, it’s still healthier to avoid that unhappy condition by understanding the urgency of emotions when it comes to moving forward. Look at it this way; our feelings are the gasoline
fueling the engine; logic is then the steering wheel. Without the first, we’re going nowhere. Without the lat- ter, we’re out of control. Developing both is essential to leading a happy, well-adjusted life.
About the author: Scott “Q” Marcus is a professional speaker and the CDO of www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com , a website for people and organizations who are frustrated with making promises and are ready to make a change. Sign up for his free newsletter at the site or friend him at facebook.com/thistimeimeanit . He is also available for coaching and speaking engagements at 707.442.6243 or scottq@scottqmarcus.com.
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Virtually all Red Bluff today paid tribute to the memo- ry of Jesse Mendenhall, Tehama County soldier who was killed in action with the Lost Battalion at Argonne Forest, October 7, 1918, and whose body was brought from France for burial in this city. In accordance with the request of W.H. Fisher, president of the Business Men’s Association, local stores were closed from 10 to 11 o’clock this morning while the funeral services were in progress at the First Methodist Church on the west side. Aug. 8, 1921
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Artisan Patricia Tompkins is a weaver and self-taught spinner who perfected her craft while living on a remote ranch in Nevada. She wowed the crowd with her skills and demos at the 2010 Jubilee and is expected to do the same this time around.
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Pam Britting invites all crafters and artisans to set- up shop at the museum’s annual Tehama Jubilee, which will be 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday, Sept.10. This year’s event is very special as the museum is celebrating its 30th anniversary and a Tehama City Council proclamation is declaring the day as
Tehama County Museum Day. Handicrafters are encouraged to take advan- tage of this popular fundraising venue and the great opportunity to display and sell wares to visitors from all over the north state.
Again this year there is no booth fee. The deadline is August 31. The only request is that a contribu- tion from the crafters prod-
uct line be donated as a raf- fle prize. Reservations for the booths, located on the lawn of Habert Park, are filling up fast. Crafters from Shin- gletown, Redding, Ander- son, Red Bluff, Gerber, Corning and Los Molinos have already signed up so you are asked to make your reservation soon while
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spaces are still available. Advance booking is required. For more infor- mation call 384-2595 for details or visit the Website: www.tehamacountymuse- um.org. The event, which takes place at the museum, 275 C Street, on the corner of third and Tehama, next to Haybert Park, is free.
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