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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfather- in-law has an early form of dementia and tends to repeat himself frequently. Because he is unaware of how long he's be en talking, his wife will often walk away, rolling her eyes in frustration and leaving the family mem- ber or visitor stranded. She will then engage one of her children to vent her frustration, often put- ting the man down in the process. Should a mother do such a thing to an adult child? After all, her hus- band is still their father and can't help himself. What do you suggest they do? —UpsetDaughter-in- Law DEAR UPSET » The first response to your mother- in-law's behavior should be to ask her how she is and if she needs help. Her reaction to her husband's dementia is disrespectful, but the frus- tration behind it is un- derstandable. Living with someone with dementia is extreme ly ta xing. Her expressions are signs that she might not have the temperament to cope well with this. Her children should say to her, "Mom, we're concerned about the way you are coping with dad. It upsets us when you are so impatient toward him; please don't talk that way. We are worried about both of you." The Alzheimer's Asso- ciation (alz.org) hosts an informative website about caring for someone with dementia. The children should approach this as a family to make sure both get care and support. DEAR AMY » I met my boy- friend seven months ago. He's the sweetest man I've ever met. He works for the government. He has two young kids that he takes care of full time and a demanding job. He's been divorced for two years. This summer I had to go out of the country for six weeks. While I was away, he got a promotion and was asked to move to a different city. He had to move before my return. My reaction was to let him go so he would have one less thing in his life to deal with. With the pa- ssage of time, I miss him more. I contacted him again. He misses me too. I need to decide to stay in a long-distance relati- onship or quit. But I don't know where to start. I also have two children. I own a house and have a job here. He didn't ask me to move with him. How do people decide in situa- tions like these? — Confused DEAR CONFUSED » You met this man seven months ago. During that time you were separated for several weeks. Given these circumstances, it is premature to engage in "all or nothing" thinking. Long-distance rela- ti o ns hi ps a re c ha ll en gi n g (especially with children), but a long-distance relationship co-uld help you slow down, learn to communicate, and clarify your intentions. Your guy relocated quickly while you were away; unless you get defi- nite signals from him, as- sume he is not interested. Wife struggles to cope with husband's growing dementia You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22)— Put your energy and enthusiasm to good use. By getting small jobs out of the way, you will have the time to do something that will make you feel special. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Interaction with family members or colleagues will be dissatisfy- ing. If you want to lessen the tension, consider stepping away from the turmoil. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Don't let friends subdue your enthusiasm. You may be considered quirky, but that is no reason to stifle your creativity or deaden your personality. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Keep money matters a secret for the time being. Resist the urge to lend or borrow. Don't discuss investments. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You may be confused about your love life. Be honest about the way you feel, and discuss personal decisions with your partner. Sharing is the best way to keep your relationship alive. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Protect your interests. There are people who would like to benefit from your ideas or ven- tures. Your intuition will guide you to the right confidants. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Participate in an unusual or unconventional creative process. New friendships will develop if you are open about the way you feel and the things you want to pursue. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Take care of your responsibili- ties. This is not a good time to air grievances. Bad feelings will mount if you get involved in an argument. Choose your battles wisely. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Travel and communication are highlighted. Valuable friend- ships and worthwhile informa- tion will come your way if you get out and do things with the people you admire. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Take the time to assist family members. You will gain impor- tant allies if you are helpful to older relatives. This is a good day to scrutinize your personal papers and financial records. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Don't criticize others. Your emotions will run high, and you are likely to offend someone if you refuse to see both sides of a situation. Bide your time and avoid isolation. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Put in extra hours at work and increase your productivity. Your superiors will appreciate your efforts and will put you in the running for a raise. You'll impress the boss. 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