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Tuesday, June 14, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Wife’s wrecking waysRemarkable garlic DEAR DR. GOTT: Dear Annie: I’ve been married for 20 years, but I have a situation at home and don’t know what to do anymore. My wife gets angry over little things on a daily basis. She is con- stantly upset about things people do or don’t do. If a child eats a cookie, she will throw a fit and then get mad at everyone else in the household. She will sulk and give everyone the silent treatment, and if you attempt to talk things over, she will walk away or leave the house. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Her anger used to appear every few days, but now it’s multiple times morn- ing and night. She is seeing a therapist, but she tells him it’s everyone else’s fault — her parents didn’t bring her up right, her friends aren’t supportive enough, her kids don’t behave, etc., etc. We saw a marriage counselor, but she got angry with him for asking too many questions. Then she got mad at me for seeing the counselor on my own. I’ve often thought of leaving, but my parents divorced, and I can’t do that to my kids. My wife and I are both in our early 50s, but her temper tantrums affect everything in our marriage, including intimacy. I’ve lost interest. What can I do? — Tired of Living with Silent Bob Dear Tired: Until your wife recog- nizes that she has a problem, she can- not work on making it better. Many women struggle with hormonal imbal- ances during menopause, making it harder to control existing emotional issues. This could be why your wife’s anger has gotten worse. Go back to your counselor and ask for help com- municating with her. She has to under- stand that her marriage is at stake. Dear Annie: I am 13 years old and have two best friends. I’ve been friends with ‘‘Emma’’ forever, and I just start- ed getting close to ‘‘Maria.’’ The problem is, Emma has been giving me the cold shoulder because I’ve been spending a lot of time with Maria. When I brought it up with her, she admitted it. Even though I’ve been going over to Emma’s house a lot more, the situation hasn’t gotten any better. When I’m around both of them, I try to give them equal attention, but Emma still brushes me off. There are times when she is nice like before, but not always. What do I do? — Friend Problems Dear Friend: Emma is too jealous of Maria to include her in the friendship she has with you. This is not an uncom- mon response when someone new dis- rupts an existing relationship. Emma wants you to stop being chummy with Maria, but we urge you not to cave in to that pressure, or it will limit all your future friendships. Spending more indi- vidual time with Emma is a good idea, but she is the one who must deal with her jealousy. We hope she can learn to share. Dear Annie: I’m a 7th-grade teacher and often find items in your column to discuss with my students. ‘‘Heartbroken in Texas’’ said her husband’s co-workers were sending photos of semi-clothed women to his business cellphone. In addition to your reply, I would like to say that this may also constitute sexual harassment and is covered under federal law. — Allison Dear Allison: Sexual harassment can include creating a hostile or offen- sive work environment. However, most such cases need to be gender-based, meaning female co-workers would have to be aware of these photos. But these laws are constantly evolving, and some companies have their own poli- cies in place, as well. Dear Readers: Today is Flag Day and the 32nd Annual Pause for the Pledge of Allegiance at 7 p.m. (Eastern time). For more information, log on to americanflagfoundation.org. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W.Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. ’Mormon,’ ’War Horse’ the big winners at Tonys NEW YORK (AP) — A slew of acclaimed shows were up for Tony Awards in a remarkably competitive year, but a production that wasn’t even eligible still managed to cast a shadow — well, shall we make that a web? — over the proceed- ings. On a night when the hilariously profane ‘‘The Book of Mormon’’ reigned supreme, the famously trou- bled ‘‘Spider-Man: Turn Off the Dark’’ got attention both positive and negative at Sun- day’s Tonys. There was a performance — certainly rare for a show that hasn’t even opened yet — plus a plug from its famous com- posers, Bono and The Edge. And of course, there were the obligatory ‘‘Spider- Man’’ jokes, without which no awards show would be complete. There were jokes even about the ubiquity of ‘‘Spider-Man’’ jokes. Host Neil Patrick Harris said he would limit himself to a 30- second speed round, getting his biggest laugh with a quip about the show’s ousted original director: ‘‘Julie Tay- mor knew it was over when she woke and found the head of ‘War Horse’ in her bed.’’ Even Bono was making jokes, saying he and The Edge ‘‘used to be famous for being in U2.’’ Then he intro- duced Reeve Carney and Jennifer Damiano, who play Peter Parker and Mary Jane • VITAMINS • MINERALS • HERBS Kelp Herb Shop Available Open: Tuesday-Friday 10:30 a.m.-5:30 p.m. Suite #E, Red Bluff, CA 96080 (530) 528-2930 333 So. Main St. Watson, and a new ballad they perform in the retooled show. (As for the flying Spidey himself? Not in sight.) Still, the breadth repre- sented by the evening’s nominees and winners showed that there’s a lot going on in Broadway the- ater that doesn’t involve comic-book superheroes. At the top of the heap was ‘‘Mormon,’’ which has taken Broadway by storm this season. 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The revival of Larry Kramer’s ground- breaking AIDS play ‘‘The Normal Heart’’ won three, as did the revival of Cole Porter’s ‘‘Anything Goes,’’ with the terrific Sutton Fos- ter, who won best actress in a musical. Even though some victo- ries, like Foster’s and, of course, that of ‘‘The Book of Mormon,’’ seemed preor- dained, many found this year’s Tonys one of the most entertaining in a long time. Mark Rylance won best actor in a play for his mas- terful portrayal of Johnny ‘‘Rooster’’ Byron in Jez Butterworth’s ‘‘Jerusalem.’’ Just as he did three years ago when he won for ‘‘Boeing- Boeing,’’ Rylance simply quoted a poem by Louis Jenkins, an obscure poet from Minnesota. This one was about, well, walking through walls. Why did he choose it? ‘‘I like it,’’ he told the AP, jok- ing that Jenkins ‘‘writes all my acceptance speeches.’’ Norbert Leo Butz won for best actor in a musical for playing a frumpy FBI agent hot on the heels of a con man in ‘‘Catch Me If You Can,’’ his second Tony. He movingly paid tribute to his sister, who was killed while he was working on the show. Unfortunately, the wrap-it-up music was play- ing him off. Frances McDormand, who showed up to the awards ceremony at the Beacon Theatre in a short denim jacket over her long striped dress, kept on the casual jacket as she accepted her best actress award for her portrayal of a South Boston, blue-collar woman in the David Lindsay-Abaire play ‘‘Good People.’’ The directing prize for a play went to Marianne Elliott and Tom Morris for ‘‘War Horse,’’ which goes for the tears every night with its story of a boy and the horse he loves. ‘‘We quite like it when people cry,’’ Morris cracked backstage. Shows left empty-hand- ed included ‘‘The Scotts- boro Boys,’’ which had 12 nominations, ‘‘Sister Act,’’ ‘‘The Merchant of Venice,’’ and ‘‘The Motherf---- With the Hat.’’ Nikki M. James, who won for best featured actress in a musical in ‘‘The Book of Mormon,’’ dedicat- ed the award to her dad, who died while she was in high school. Ashley Phelps Financial Advisor I have written to you before about alterna- tive uses for garlic but have never seen them published in your col- umn. Garlic gel capsules will prevent or cure a cold or sinus infec- tion, as well as allevi- ate tooth abscesses if taken every two hours until relief of the symp- toms occurs. Dr. Peter Gott DEAR READER: I apologize if I haven’t responded to your letters in the past, but I can assure you that I have endorsed this remarkable product for such things as easing the pain of an earache, control- ling hot flashes and keep- ing mosquitoes from bit- ing, to name a few. Garlic has been used for countless years and for rea- sons we wouldn’t consider appropriate. For example, in ancient times, garlic was thought to repel evil and protected warriors from witches and vampires. Dur- ing the early 18th century, gravediggers drank crushed garlic in wine to protect themselves from the plague that hit Europe. During the two world wars, soldiers were given garlic because it was believed to prevent gangrene. It has been used against arthritis and intestinal infections, and is added to pet food to repel ticks and fleas. It repels deer, rabbits and other garden animals, and now we use it to prevent heart disease, keep choles- terol levels and blood-pres- sure readings lower, and improve our immune sys- tems. It appears to both prevent and treat the com- mon cold. It may even help fight cancer, although there is no conclusive testing in this regard. Studies, how- ever, have found that peo- ple who eat more raw and cooked garlic are less like- ly to develop some cancers, particularly those of the stomach and colon. There is no conclusive evidence to prove it works, but garlic is rich in antioxidants that help destroy free radicals. Side effects from this phenomenal herb include body odor, bad breath, upset stomach and more, but overall its benefits out- weigh its pesky side effects. Supplements are available over-the-counter and are made from fresh garlic, dried garlic, garlic oil and extracts. There is variation in the amount of active ingredi- ents between manufacturers, so be sure to read labels if you opt for sup- plemental forms. Other- wise, enjoy gar- lic in its natural form, keep your kitchen smelling like a heavenly Italian restaurant and stay healthy. Readers who would like ideas for other products can order my Health Reports “Compelling Home Remedies” and “More Compelling Home Remedies” by sending a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order for each report to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039-0433. Be sure to mention the title(s) when writing or print an order form off my website’s direct link at www.AskDrGottMD.com/ order_form.pdf. DEAR DR. 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