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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARCAROLYN»Howdo I deal with my sister-in- law wanting to talk to me constantly about a rela- tionship I think is a 10,000 percent bad idea? She met a guy on a one-night stand in another country and is flying to meet him. From what I can tell he's not much of a catch, but she's built up a lot of excitement around this. I have a lot of concerns for her, so part of this is based in fear. The other part is sheer annoyance, since I've seen this pattern with her and "unavailable" men and know how the story goes. I've made my concerns clear, listened to her re- buttal, and resolved to say nothing else since it's her life. However, she keeps gushing about all of it. Can I ask her to stop confiding in me? I just don't have any positive feelings for the situation and I'm tired of having to respond to her. How do I get the point across that I won't say anything bad anymore, but I don't want to have to say anything good, either? —Unsupportive DEAR UNSUPPORTIVE » "Since I've made my seri- ous concerns about this re- lationship clear, your gush- ing to me about it puts me in an awkward position. How can we fix this?" It sounds as if she has emotional problems and ei- ther no awareness of them or no interest in doing the work to deal with them. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Unsupportive: There's nothing wrong with dating someone after meeting them through a one-night stand. Lots of people do that. Plenty see things fizzle, but plenty have ended up hitched. There's also nothing wrong with flying some- where to go on a date with someone you like. So long as you've got the financial means and you're taking safety precautions (e.g. staying in public if it's re- ally still a stranger). Again, it could fizzle, they could get hitched, anything in be- tween. So hopefully there's more basis for concern than just those facts! — Anonymous DEAR ANONYMOUS » This: "I've seen this pattern with her and 'unavailable' men and know how the story goes." That says someone already vulnerable is putting herself, with each of your "nothing wrong with" steps, in a more and more precarious position: Alone, unfamiliar place, no backup, next to zero knowledge of the man she's meeting and zero knowledge of, or possibly even access to, his bona fides: She doesn't know his friends, his colleagues, his workplace, his reputation, his family, how he treats waiters/children/pets. And she's romanticiz- ing him and the meeting, so her guard isn't just down, it's disabled. As I said, the fates could go easy on her and he could be both a lovely man and a good fit for her. But, it's really hard to watch someone refuse even to consider using good judgment. 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