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DILBERT Scott Adams PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis PICKLES Brian Crane BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman GET FUZZY Darby Conley ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey ARGYLE SWEATER Scott Hilburn BIZARRO Dan Piraro DEAR CAROLYN » So Cousin No. 1 tells me in confidence that Cousin No. 2 had a miscarriage and asks me not to say anything to anyone, which I do not. Fast-forward a few months, my mom finds out about Cousin No. 2's miscarriage and asks me if I knew. I say yes, but that it was told to me in confidence. Mom gets very angry and says I should have told her because she has a right to know about important things that happen in her family. Cousin No. 1 is now pregnant and has asked me not to say anything. I know that when my mom finds out, her first question will be whether I knew, and the same thing will happen. What can I do about this? For what it's worth, I think she sees my not telling her as her being excluded, but my cousins are like sisters to me so I think it's normal they would share this with me and a smaller group first before telling the family at large. — Dealing With Mom Guilt DEAR DEALING » Your response, if this happens again: "When I am told something in confidence, I will not share it. Not even with you, Mom. I do understand you feel bad when you're out of the loop. Please know I treat your private information with the same care." Save your guilt for when you harm others on purpose. Living by your moral and ethical code, and in the process upset- ting someone who wishes you had handled some- thing differently, is not the same thing. DEAR CAROLYN » My daughter dated a guy in college for two years. Then they broke up. After a year and a half, he joined the Army and they started talking again. After four months, he came home and they spent five days together. Now, not quite four months later, they are engaged and plan to marry when he comes home again in November. They want to get married so she can join him at his next assignment. Obviously, my husband and I are com- pletely against this. We've told her our concerns that they haven't spent enough time TOGETHER. Do you have any knowledge of marriages that begin like this and their chances of success? — LDR DEAR LDR » There are examples to support every possible outcome — hap- pily ever after, imploding instantly, a promising start and a slow unravel- ing, growing and learning together beautifully after a rough start, on-again-off- again hell — so don't even bother to go down that road. They've made up their minds, so trust them and love them and respect them enough as adults to bite your tongue. If it works, great, if it doesn't, they'll learn from it. You've said your piece. Mother upset when she's last to know about family secret Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. Answer to Previous Puzzle Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. NEA Crossword Aries (March 21-April 19) — Gather together with friends who share your passion and vi- sion. You can mix business and pleasure while collaborating on a new venture. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Take a backseat and relax for a change. Let others make decisions. Pick your battles and don't let a difference of opinion turn into a major problem. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Your home and work environ- ment will be filled with tension if you gossip or get involved in other people's business. Stick to your chores. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — If you have ideas for improve- ment at your workplace, speak up. You will gain respect and credit for making the offer. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your emotions are on a roller coaster ride, with you tearful one moment and cheerful the next. Don't let this instability lead to an impulsive decision. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Don't reveal too many details about what you are up to. A colleague may be trying to get ahead at your expense. Some- one who seems overly enthu- siastic could have an ulterior motive. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Keep an open mind today. A casual remark from an old friend will give new spark to your cre- ativity. A trip to an unfamiliar location will result in a reward- ing partnership. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You don't appreciate being scrutinized, so don't ques- tion what others are up to. Be trusting. Your relationship with friends, peers and partners will suffer if you display jealousy. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Take a break from your usual schedule. Get out into the fresh air with friends or loved ones. A brief jaunt to a nearby park or nature trail will get your juices flowing. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — An elderly relative may be a burden. Look over your bud- get and see where you can make beneficial adjustments. Contracts, investments or legal matters should be dealt with now. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — The time is right for love. Take things slow and easy. You may be feeling romantic, but don't come on too strong, or your special someone may take off in the other direction. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't waste time gossiping or sharing personal stories when you should be working. You'll be criticized if you don't finish what you start with efficiency. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol THURSDAY, APRIL 10 | YOUR DAILY BREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM ThURSDAY, ApRIL 10, 2014 4 B