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6B Daily News – Friday, January 3, 2014 Woman judges man by size of his wallet instead of his heart DEAR CAROLYN » My girlfriend and I recently broke up after two years together. We met in my hometown while she was attending the university. She came from a wealthy background, and myself from an upper-middleclass family. Despite not being as wealthy, I felt that I made up for that in other areas. I always cooked Carolyn and cleaned, Hax I paid for Ask Carolyn monthly trips and activities together, bought her flowers every two weeks and gave her rides. She transferred to do her rotations for school (I was still in school at the hometown where we met). Long story short, she started seeing another guy while seeing me. I found out and we broke up. After being broken up for three months, we started talking. She told me that her dad never wanted to meet me because I wasn't good enough, and that she started seeing that, too. I may not be rich, but I do well for myself. I'm finishing school, I have my own place, pay my own bills, take care of the cats that we bought together. It just seems like such a left field thing for her to say. I can understand that her dad may think this, he's never met me. But my girlfriend thinks this way now too? Maybe I am just naive, but love should be judged on a person's heart, not their wallet. Am I wrong? — Heartbroken in California DEAR HEARTBROKEN »You aren't naive to think love should be judged on heart above wallet, no. But you are naive to think this belief applies to her. Your girlfriend found someone else, and the rest is just words and justifications. Think of it this way: If she agrees with Daddy about judging you by anything besides your character, then that's deplorable. That she would tell you this is even more so. If instead she doesn't agree with her father but is appeasing him, then that's just weak. (And telling you, deplorable.) So, yes, do judge love by a person's heart — and see BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman that, unless she does some tough work on her priorities, her heart isn't worthy of yours. DEAR CAROLYN » I am co-hosting a baby shower with a friend's mother. I also have an infant myself. My husband has to work. I let the mother know I may need to bring the baby, but that he's quite happy napping or hanging out in a carrier at this age. My investigation of sitters fell flat. The response I received from my friend's mother was rather rude: that she hoped I found an alternative since babies steal the limelight. I do understand the sentiment. But ... really? How does she expect me to respond? Not to go? — C. Brian Crane PICKLES DEAR C. » Just bring your baby, shrug and say you struck out on sitters, and count on babies large and small to make do. Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Darby Conley GET FUZZY Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey Answer to Previous Puzzle PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. Scott Adams DILBERT BIZARRO Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Today will be busy and demanding. Stay focused on what needs to be done. It's best to try to compromise in order to keep the peace. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't be deceived by rumors; someone may be trying to manipulate you. Use your own judgment and avoid risk-takers. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Take some time to be alone. Leave your work for tomorrow. This is a good day to muse about the past and the future. You'll feel better prepared to make changes after you've had a break. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Keep pace with the go-getters. You are too busy to make time for people with no direction. Make friends with those who inspire you. Dan Piraro ARGYLE SWEATER Taurus (April 20-May 20) — It's a good day to find ways to pick up new skills and knowledge. You'll get ahead if you continue to solidify your assets. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Get a checkup if you have been having health concerns. This is not the day to let things slide. Follow through with your goals to give yourself a greater sense of purpose. Make time to rejuvenate. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You may want to check up on someone. Your intervention may not be welcome, but it will be helpful. Deep conversations will lead to new ideas that will be useful in the future. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Maintain a skeptical attitude. Insincerity from your acquaintances is likely to lead you astray. You'd do better to focus on your professional life instead of personal concerns if you wish to make headway. Scott Hilburn Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — It's time to take care of unfinished business. Let go of projects that have no legs, and instead focus on those with promise. Your decisions will give you momentum. Allow your ambition to grow. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — To avoid conflict, you should maintain an impartial point of view. If you are critical, you will meet with resistance. Let others do as they may. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Close listening will be beneficial. Your observations will provide insights that will change your path. If you put yourself in someone else's shoes, you'll feel fortunate. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — It's time to enjoy friends and thought-provoking entertainment. Consider a change of residence. Keep your eyes and ears open to new possibilities. NEA Crossword