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Wednesday, November 17, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Continued contact concerns consort Alternatives bug ‘real’ doctors Dear Annie: I have been with ‘‘Ted’’ for a year. He is a wonderful man, and I love every moment we spend together. But he talks to his ex-wife on a regular basis. She left him after a 13-year relationship, and they had no chil- dren together. Yet, he still tells her he loves her and talks to her exactly the same way he talks to me. Ted says I have noth- ing to worry about, but it frustrates me. He tells me he does- n’t want to lose her friendship and will always love her because she’s been in his life ‘‘for so long.’’ But what about me? — Confused Girlfriend Dear Confused: The question is not the friendship. It’s whether or not he’d go back to his ex if she asked. Ted should examine his own feelings and decide whether he is fully com- mitted to you or not. You don’t need a man who is pining for a lost love. If he insists you are the only woman in his life, ask him to please cut back on the frequen- cy of his calls to the ex for the sake of your rela- tionship. Dear Annie: A woman down the hall from my apartment has two dogs. When she takes them out, one of them actual- ly screams as it passes by my door. This hap- pens at 3 a.m. I contacted the build- ing manager, and he assured me that he A Clean, Reliable, Trustworthy, Chimney Company... Possible? ”Their tarps are always clean and my home is always clean afterward. What I like best is their reliability and quality.” “I can trust them!” Dr. Evan Reasor Flue Season 527 3331 THE Chimney Professionals Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar talked to her about using a dif- ferent exit door, but she is still using the same one. It seems she waits until that poor little animal screams its dis- comfort. Is there anything I can do? I’m tempted to contact the Humane Society. — Tired of the Screaming Dog Dear Tired: You can call the Humane Soci- ety, but what sounds like screaming isn’t neces- sarily the same for dogs as it is for humans. And the woman is probably not ‘‘waiting’’ until the dog gets upset. At 3 in the morning, it takes a few minutes for her to wake up. Still, she should not be walking by your apartment if there is another exit for her to use. This is your neigh- bor. Knock on her door, politely, and invite her over for a cup of coffee. Be friendly. Then ask if she could use the second exit when she walks the dog at night because it disturbs your sleep. If that doesn’t help, go back to your manager or call the owner of the building. Dear Annie: I think you were off base with your response to ‘‘Con- fused,’’ whose fiancee wants to hyphenate her name. If she won’t take his name, why bother getting married? Men have so few pre- rogatives in this modern world of diversity, why is this tradition falling? And her name is proba- bly her father’s name anyway. My wife said if she were to marry me Fibromyalgia? Please call Suffering With (530) 529-6544 Rory Lengtat, D.C. today, she would hyphenate her name. I said that would be a total of 15 letters, plus a hyphen. Next time, instead of speaking woman-to- woman in your answers, you might want to solic- it some male input. — My Two Cents’ Worth Dear Two Cents: Women used to take their husband’s surname because they were con- sidered their husband’s property. Many women contin- ue to do so because they respect tradition, prefer the husband’s name, don’t want to confuse the children, like to give the impression that they are subservient to their husbands, whatever. Women who keep their maiden names, hyphenated or not, often do so because they already have established professional careers, the husband’s surname is difficult to pronounce or spell, they wish to retain an independent identity, and so on. A recent trend is to combine both surnames and create a new one, an idea that has merit, although it undoubtedly gives genealogists fits. When men are expected to take their wife’s surname upon marriage, we’ll be happy to ask for their input. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast. net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. SUNDAY SPECIAL!! 30% OFF Excluding basic Wranglers Boot or Clothing item! Expires 11/30/10 any one Crossroads Feed & Ranch Supply 595 Antelope Blvd. Red Bluff, CA 95080 530-529-6400 Shopcrossroads.net Thank You For Keeping Our Food Pantry Filled w/Food!! A series of non-competitive walks and runs open to families, individuals of all ages and people of all cultures. 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For more information contact Avery Vilche at 200-2224 or Renee Timmons at 567-5528 Co-Sponsored by: D NEWSAILY RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY 11:30 AM-12:30 PM Registration and Start DEAR DR. GOTT: In a recent column, you recom- mended consulting a doctor about using bee pollen. When was the last time you consulted an MD on a nonmedical treat- ment? I have. They ridicule you. In fact, when I wanted physical therapy rather than prescription drugs and surgery for hip replacement, my prima- ry care doctor wrote me and indicated I should not bother coming back. You are out of touch with the stone-age drug-company bed partners that currently serve as doc- tors. Don’t advise people to talk to their doctors without knowing any- thing about the subject. Dr. Peter Gott I grew up in an era when sunscreen was unknown. Do you know of anything that would help? The only thing the dermatologist recom- mended was to moisturize. DEAR READER: You share a common problem with many other people. As we age, our skin becomes thinner and loses some of the fat that cushions our blood vessels against injury. While bruising DEAR READER: I must admit that at one time I thought the only way for a patient to improve was through pre- scription drugs, and, when all else failed, surgery might be considered. It took years, and it certainly wasn’t easy for me to realize that patients want options. I may not know how doctors are “supposed” to approach medical situ- ations, but it is time for you to find another physician with an open mind. Some problems are well-handled with alternative drugs. You’re lucky to be strong enough to fight the system. Good luck. To give you related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Reports “Compelling Home Reme- dies” and “Herbs and Healing Fads.” Other readers who would like copies should send a self-addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order for each report made payable to Newsletter and forwarded on to PO Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print out an order form from my website www.AskDrGottMD.com. DEAR DR. GOTT: I enjoy your column. I’m a 68-year-old female in good health but recently developed unsightly red bruise marks on my arms and legs. These seem to occur without my even knowing that I have hit some- thing. Sometimes the skin breaks, and it is hard to stop the bleeding. My der- matologist says the bruises are due to lost skin elasticity. can occur on any part of the body, the backs of hands seem extremely sus- ceptible. This isn’t generally an indi- cation of an underlying medical con- dition but is attributed to several con- ditions. Years of excessive sun exposure, either today or in years past, can break down collagen and elastin fibers in the deep layers of our skin. Some medications, specifically anticoagu- lants (such as Coumadin and aspirin) or corticosteroids can weaken skin and blood vessels. Speak with your physician to determine whether any drugs you might be on have bruising as a known side effect. Finally, some medical conditions and/or bleeding disorders can result in spontaneous bruising called ecchymosis. Your options are limited. Take pre- cautions to prevent banging into things. Avoid direct sun exposure unless you are appropriately covered with sunblock. Wear long-sleeved shirts and long pants to cover your lesions until they clear. Do not shower or bathe in extreme- ly hot water, as it will dry your skin out faster. Pat your skin dry following bathing rather than rub briskly with a towel. Keep your skin well moisturized with a topical cream or lotion contain- ing petroleum jelly, lanolin, or vita- min E. Eat a well-balanced diet and exercise as much as possible. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. A local event – part of a national campaign to promote physical activity for American Indians and Alaska Natives