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Tuesday, September 3, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Student pressured to stay their underlying Dear Annie: I fear and sadness, am a college stuit will help you dent who is about respond more two years from compassionately graduating. I to their ''badgerhave been living ing.'' But this is with my parents your decision to while I am in make, whether school, because not they it's cheaper than Annie's or agree, so please living on campus. have the courage A few years ago, I decided, by Kathy Mitchell of your convicwhich for several rea- and Marcy Sugar tions, includes the sons, to move from Ohio to Florida ability to withstand the when I graduate. pressure. Dear Annie: I have Although my parents have told me my entire an account at a local life to do what I want to bank. Every time anyone do, they are against this enters the bank, a move. When I first told greeter meets us with them about this deci- good wishes, hellos and sion, they thought I was ''What are your plans just dreaming. However, for the day?'' The tellers as my college education chitchat with customers is winding up, they are at the window, asking trying to convince me to ''How are you?'' and stay. They will not let up ''What are you doing for with their reasons for the holiday?'' This takes up time me to continue to live when people are waiting here. I keep telling my for service. How do you family that moving is tell them to shut up and not a final goodbye. get the line moving They are welcome to when you only want to visit anytime, and I do business and get out? surely will return to — Waiting for Your Ohio now and then. But Answer Dear Waiting: Most this information hasn't convinced them to stop of this friendliness does badgering me. I don't not take up as much time think I can take the pres- as you think. Employees sure anymore. What do I can be both friendly and do? — Pressured Family efficient. You can say Dear Pressured: hello to a greeter withYour family wants you out stopping to tell your to stick around because life story. Tellers can they will miss you terri- chat while they cash bly if you move away. checks, enter deposits or They foresee you marry- do any number of ing someone from Flori- things. It only becomes da and raising a family a problem if the teller there, where you will cannot multitask or have only periodic con- when the chatting contact. You see this as tinues after the transacdeveloping your inde- tion is finished. If you pendence. They see it as notice this happening, a permanent separation. you should register a If you can understand complaint with the bank Mailbox manager. Dear Annie: You gave good advice to ''Lonely for Friends.'' I have been fortunate to make and keep many friends. Here's my advice: To keep friends, they must be nurtured like a garden. When you are with a potential friend: 1. Ask about them. Try not to be selfabsorbed. Show interest and care when they speak. 2. Discuss books, movies, current affairs (without the politics). 3. Invite them to your home and make another date while together. 4. Send a note by email, snail mail or even text message letting them know you enjoyed being together. 5. Remember their birthday or the next big holiday. 6. Be there as a friend when life's difficulties happen and celebrate the good times. 7. Be lighthearted and fun to be around. To have a friend, one must be a friend. This also makes for better relations with co-workers. Friends are the chocolate chips in the cookie of life. — A Good Friend Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.n et, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Recognize risk factors for stroke — Lower blood pressure. DEAR DOCTOR K: I'm a Maintain a blood pressure of less woman in my 60s. A good friend than 120/80 mm Hg. Reduce salt recently had a serious stroke. Is in your diet and eat more fruits there anything she could have done and vegetables. Those dietary to prevent it? changes will help lower blood DEAR READER: Some strokes pressure. If needed, take blood come out of the blue; they can't be pressure medicines. predicted or prevented. Perhaps — Lose weight. If you're overyour friend suffered from such a weight, losing as little as 10 stroke. Dr. K pounds can have a real impact on However, most strokes occur in by Anthony L. your stroke risk. people who have "risk factors" for Komaroff, M.D. — Exercise more. Exercise at a stroke, such as an unhealthy lifestyle or a medical condition that is not moderate intensity for at least 30 minutes, being adequately treated. Most strokes hap- five days a week. This will reduce your risk pen in people who could have done more to of getting a stroke (and many other illnesses), even if you don't lose weight from regprotect themselves against one, but didn't. To me, that's hard to understand. A ular exercise. — Drink in moderation. Moderate alcostroke can be devastating. It can take away your ability to move, talk and understand hol intake lowers the risk of stroke. Women the world around you. It can leave you can have one drink per day; men can have utterly dependent on other people to help up to two. — Take medicines your doctor has recyou with all the daily activities of living. What happens in a stroke? The blood ommended for heart and blood vessel consupply to a part of the brain suddenly is ditions. For example, a daily baby aspirin lost. Unless that blood supply is restored, a or a blood thinner for atrial fibrillation, or part of the brain dies. Without a regular sugar-lowering medicines if you have diasupply of oxygen- and nutrient-rich blood, betes. — Quit smoking. Smoking accelerates brain cells cannot remain alive. The most common cause of a stroke is a clot formation. Use aids such as nicotine sudden blockage in an artery. It's called an pills or patches, counseling or medicine to ischemic stroke. A buildup of fat in the help you kick the habit. I don't know if your friend could have wall of a brain artery (a plaque of atherosclerosis) can cause a blockage. A clot prevented her stroke, but I do know that traveling through blood can get wedged in most people whose lives are forever altered by a stroke could have done more to prethe artery. Less often, a stroke occurs when an vent it. artery in the brain bursts, causing a hemorDr. Komaroff is a physician and rhage. This, too, severely damages a part of professor at Harvard Medical School. To the brain. There are many things people can — send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or and should — do to reduce their stroke write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. risk: Spend a day at Hat Creek Ranch Join the Redding Chapter of the Weston A. Price Foundation and Slow Food Shasta Cascade for a "slow" day at Hat Creek Hereford Ranch, 17855 Doty Road, in Hat Creek 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Sunday, Sept. 8. The day will include a ranch tour and pasture move at 10:30 a.m. and a cooking demo by Chef Travis of Crumbs Restaurant in McArther at 11:30 a.m. Lunch will be at noon and include brisket tacos with Hat Creek grown beef prepared by Chef Travis. This is a pot luck, so plan to bring a side dish or local product to share. A $5 contribution is suggested to help cover costs. Bring your own place setting and glassware. No host Dakaro wine and Fall River Brewing beer will be available. At 1 p.m. a Q & A on beef cuts and preparation suggestions will be offered followed by swimming and fishing in the pond at 2 p.m. and another ranch tour. RSVP to pam@hatcreekgrown.com by Tuesday, Sept. 3. For more detailed information and directions go to: www.hatcreekgrown.com/i nvite.pdf.