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2A Daily News – Friday, August 9, 2013 Community people&events Birth — Phelps Brianna Elyse Phelps and Grey Allyn Phelps welcomed Greyson Daniel Phelps on July 19, 2013. He weighed 7 pounds, 14 ounces and was born at St. Elizabeth Community Hospital in Red Bluff. Greyson was welcomed by grandparents Eric and Rebecca Johnson and Glynn and Coco Phelps, all of Red Bluff, and great grandparents Joe and Georgine Johnson of Glen Ellen, Dorothy Watson of Chico, Glynn and Leola Phelps of Red Bluff, Andy and Amber Olivan of Grass Valley, John and Diane Sciortino of Red Bluff and Joel and Donna Tuck of Hawaii. Emblem members attend state meeting President Carry Padilla, Past President Ginger Mohler, State Past President Bonnie Lewis, State Financial Secretary Karen Magnusson-Moore, State Assistant Organist Jeannie Garton, and State Convention Treasurer Terry Kincaid represented the club. They attended meetings on laws, scholarship, state and Supreme conventions. Another day involved workshops, district meetings and the general business meeting. They participated in a scholarship march with funds donated for teachers of the deaf and hearing impaired. The hearing dog chairman, SPP Irene Sullivan, presented $15,000 to Glenn Martin, director of the charity. Padilla, Lewis and Magnusson-Moore also traveled to Porterville, for the official visitation of State President Yvonne Fiori at her home club. The next state meeting will be in January 2014. Celebrate Autumn Luncheon The VFW Ladies Auxiliary of Post 4218 will be hosting a Celebrating Autumn Luncheon 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Sept. 5 at the Veterans Memorial Hall, 1620 Solano St. in Corning. The menu includes a tostada, rice and bottled water for $6 per person. The event is a fundraiser for Adapt a Military Family. For more information and to RSVP, call 829-1850. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. Five words to change your life Small words carry powerful impact. We do not live in isolation, always interacting with and relying on others. To make those relationships healthier, a sage counselor advised me that one must know when — and how — to use four simple words: • Yes • No • Ouch • Next Accepting gifts, compliments, and assistance with grace — and reciprocating such actions — requires liberal use of the word, "Yes." Since no two people run parallel all the time, it's essential to speak up in order to prevent resentment, boundary violation, and be true to our morals. We therefore understand the appropriate, but not excessive, application of, "No." Despite good intent, others are only human and will push too far, inflicting pain. In such circumstances, we utter, "Ouch." Finally, when nothing more can be done; the relationship is tattered and torn; the dialog consisting only of heated exchanges of "No" and "Ouch," it's time to move on: "Next." The concept seemed so simplistic that at first I ignored it. Yet, over time, I realized its power. Simple can be extremely effective. Part of its clout is that although this system works brilliantly with people-relationships, it is as efficient in relationship with one's own habits. Upon analyzing any behavior, question one is, "Is this behavior serving me well?" If "Yes," soldier on. If take good enough care of myself "No", more analysis is in order. Does yet." 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There will be door prizes, music, food and refreshment samples provided by community sponsors. Numerous businesses from the community will showcase their products and/or services, particularly those businesses who offer students a discount through the Student ID program. Businesses may offer free samples of their products or have other giveaways for students who visit their booth. This year's Welcome Day shares the date with the 50th anniversary of the Martin Luther King, Jr. "I Have a Dream" speech. In recognition of that important event Shasta College's Welcome Day will feature a student march, a speaker who attended the actual march 50 years ago, a rap about MLK, Jr. and excerpts from the speech itself. These events will help enlighten Shasta College students on the importance of the "I Have a Dream" speech and its impact on black and American history. The event is hosted by the Shasta College Student Services division. 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The men are held to answer in the federal court. — Aug. 9, 1923 distant relationship. We suspect she thinks you "abandoned" her for your new family, whether true or not, and is still nursing some hurt over it. Consider this visit an opportunity to remedy the situation. Welcome her with open arms. Tell her how much you love her and hope to get to know her better as the competent adult she is. Don't rehash the past or place blame on her mother. You also can enlist the help of your other children to create a warmer relationship. Please try. Dear Annie: An acquaintance recently gave me a gift for my home. The intention of the giver is that the gift be permanently displayed in the living room.This gift is not one I would have chosen, nor is it one I can easily put out every time the giver is expected to visit. There is no other room to which the gift can be moved. 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