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2A – Daily News – Monday, June 21, 2010 Community people&events In the military Advice to husbands, significant others Courtesy photo Air Force Airman Samantha M. Gaches graduated from basic military training at Lackland Air Force Base, San Antonio, Texas. The airman completed an intensive, eight-week program that included training in military discipline and studies, Air Force core values, physical fitness, and basic warfare principles and skills. Airmen who complete basic training earn four credits toward an associate in applied science degree through the Community College of the Air Force. She is the daughter of April and Norman Gaches of Red Bluff. Gaches is a 2008 graduate of Red Bluff High School. People contact me about my col- umn. Many want to share their thoughts or feelings about what I have written. Most times it’s by email, once in awhile by telephone, and periodically in person. Some folks seem drawn to any- one in the media as moths go to light. This is flattering but can be, at times, well, just plain weird. I’ve been approached about government meat conspiracies, high fructose corn syrup alternative energy sys- tems, even a faster-than-light engine (no, I don’t know how it was tied to my column). If cornered publicly with such theories, I momentarily feign attention, smile awkwardly, mumble an apologetic excuse about "a guy I’m supposed to meet," and carefully; very, very slowly; back away. There are those who offer to me the secret "they" don’t want "us" to know about weight loss — for a price of course. I am cynical about "secrets they don’t want us know." For one, who are "they?" Secondly, why would they deem you to be the ultimate messenger of such vital intelligence? Moreover, are you putting us in harm’s way by passing it along? I would feel miserable knowing that — although I now lose weight quicker — it was at the cost of your life. Actually, I’d feel so darn guilty; I’d probably eat too much, gain back my weight and make your magnanimous (albeit mercenary) gesture to have been in vain. What affects me most are those SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. seeking counsel. I’m not a thera- pist; heck, I’m not even sure I could be "Dear Abby." But if my words touch someone so deeply that they seek me out for guidance, I’ll do my best. Some conventional wisdom portrays my gender as uncaring, stoic, non-feeling, self- absorbed louts more con- cerned with cold beer and hot chicks than a supportive relationship, a strong family, and an engaged life. If you’re still holding that stereo- type — some unsolicited advice: let it go. If your man is truly like that, maybe you ought to let him go. Just sayin’… will respond. Scott Q. Marcus A caring husband, asking for advice on how he can help his wife, is a common focus of emails I receive. They usually go something like: "I love my wife no matter how much she weighs. I think she’s beautiful. But I want her to be happy and healthy. I’m concerned because I think her weight has got- ten to a point that it’s harming her health. What can I do to make sure she stays on her diet?" If you’re in that place, here’s my best, most sincere advice. Understand that NO ONE can make ANYONE do ANYTHING, at least not in a loving supportive relationship. All any of us can do is put out there how we feel, express what we desire, and then hope they People who need to lose weight know it. Many times, they feel embar- rassed because they’ve promised to do so so many times that the perceived risk of humiliation yet again is more painful than what they weigh. Often, they simply don’t believe they can do it "one more time." Sometimes, they’re even afraid that if they do, they’ll lose their relation- ships. Your (albeit well-inten- tioned) push will move her in one direction: away from you. So, what to do? Be honest. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you’re concerned. Remind her you love her and you’d like her to be healthy; and if she wants help, you’re there. Then love her for who she is, let go as much as you can, and be there if and when she asks for help. Scott "Q" Marcus is a THINspirational speaker and author. Since losing 70 pounds over 15 years ago, he works with overloaded people and organizations who are looking to improve communication, change bad habits, and reduce stress. He can be reached for consulting, workshops, or presentations at 707.442.6243 or scottq@scottqmarcus.com. He will sometimes work in exchange for chocolate. photo by: Christine Wyman Event Chair, Linda Elsner with former Curator Vivian Ogden and Director Maggie McCornack, recently completed plans for the 3rd Annual Summer Luncheon with Bridge tables available, to be held on Saturday, July 10 at the Kelly-Griggs House Museum, 311 Washington Street, Red Bluff. D NEWSAILY HOW TO REACH US RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY THE VOICE OF TEHAMA COUNTY SINCE 1885 VOLUME 125, NUMBER 181 On the Web: www.redbluffdailynews.com MAIN OFFICE: Monday-Friday, 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Main Phone (530) 527-2151 Outside area 800-479-6397 545 Diamond Ave. Red Bluff, CA 96080 ______________________ Fax: (530) 527-5774 ______________________ Mail: Red Bluff Daily News P.O. 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Parsons’ Auto Stolen And Is Badly Used A Studebaker belonging to Mr. Parsons, of Proberta, was stolen from in front of the Opera House Saturday night. The machine was found Sunday morning near the J.J. Norvell place north of Red Bluff and was in bad condition. The thieves had taken rims and tires off the rear wheels, stolen all the tools and tapped the gasoline tank. – Daily News, June 21, 1920 All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2995 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. Pick a Rib with Us Daily Specials Jack the Ribber All you can eat ribs $ Friday Night Rib Dinners 1400 1150 Monroe St. 527-6108 Kelly-Griggs Museum Summer Bridge Luncheon A light luncheon prepared by event chair Linda Elsner and former curator Vivian Ogden with dessert provided by Museum Associate CeCe Barkley will be served once again by Missy Elsner and Karen Mattea. Setting the tables with house linens will be Curator Bev Hartshorn and Association Presi- dent Sharon Wilson with further assistance by the Kelly-Guides. Cost is $25 per person. Proceeds benefit the current Foundation Restoration Project. Bridge players may enjoy the cool, quiet menu and afternoon with friends. Other attendees will have the opportunity to not only enjoy the ambience of the 1880 Victorian, but a chance to meet old and new friends in the house, first restored for the public in 1965 by local volunteers. Reservations should be made by July 5. Call 529-1128 after 2 p.m. The Kelly-Griggs House Muse- um is open to visitors for guided tours most Saturdays and Sundays at 1 p.m. Last tour starts at 3 p.m. A $5 donation is requested. Spe- cial arrangements/days for large tour groups can be made by calling 527-5895. Community Clips Spaghetti Feed United Bikers of Northern California and Red Bluff Street Kids would like to invite everyone to join them at a spaghetti feed at 6 p.m. on June 23 at the Tehama District Fairground. All proceeds from the event will be given to the fam- ily of Michael Buckner who was killed by a train on May 24 to help with expenses. The cost is $5 per person and there will be a live band, 50/50 raffle, drawings and body art. For more information call Mary at 366-3967 or Wilma at 527-6327. Bond Oversight Committee The Governing Board of the Shasta-Tehama-Trinity Joint Community College District invites residents of the tri-county area to either apply for or nominate a cit- izen to serve on the Citizens Bond Oversight Commit- tee. There is one vacancy in the senior citizens catego- ry and four in the at-large category. No employee or official of the district and no ven- dor, contractor, or consultant of the district shall be appointed to the committee. The committee meets at least once each quarter to actively review and report on the proper expenditure of taxpayers' money for school construction and advise the public as to whether the community college district is in compliance with bond requirements. For information or applications call 242- 7510, fax 225-4994, or send an email: svanderwerf@shastacollege.edu. Deadline is July 9. BOOK BARN Used Books Tues-Fri 10-5 Sat 10-2 Serving Tehama County since 1994 619 Oak St., Red Bluff (530) 528-2665 Dandy Lions Children’s Shop 10% off Total Purchase dandylionshop.com 340 Hickory St. Red Bluff Mon-Sat 10AM-6PM 527-7755