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Tuesday, March 26, 2013 ��� Daily News 3B FEATURES Dislikes husband���s family A little salt goes Dear Annie: When I married three years ago, my hubby and I were best friends. Then his mother moved to town, and everything went downhill. My in-laws dis- Annie���s respected and trashed my rental home. I was hurt by Kathy Mitchell that they would do and Marcy Sugar this, because I was extremely nice and financially generous to them. Ever since, she has been working to turn everyone against me, including my husband. If he doesn���t do what she wants, she makes him feel guilty. She has put so many nasty ideas into his head that he has turned into a different person. It���s not only her. His entire family is selfish, uneducated and manipulative, and they have a very ������macho������ mentality. I don���t much care for this new version of the man I married. Do I give him time and hope he changes back? Or is this simply who he was all along and I was wrong about him? ��� Beth in Baltimore Dear Beth: We think this is the version of your husband that is most familiar to him. When he is around his family, he reverts to type. It doesn���t mean he can���t behave differently if he is motivated enough, but he has to rec- Mailbox ognize the family dynamic and assert himself. It may require spending less time around his relatives, and he may be unwilling to do that. The real question is whether he likes being the guy he is now or wants to be the man you married. Talk to him about it, and if necessary, get counseling. Dear Annie: When company comes and snacks are put out, I always include a small spoon so that treats like candy and nuts can be removed without a person touching the entire contents. But many guests don���t get the point. One person came in saying he had been suffering from the flu and was still feeling under the weather, so we should keep our distance. He then proceeded to pick through the nut bowl, even though there was a ladle in it. I threw the rest of the nuts in the trash and hoped other guests hadn���t been contaminated. Please remind people that their hands don���t belong in a shared bowl unless they���ve just scrubbed for surgery. Thanks. ��� Staying Healthy Dear Healthy: Many people, sick or well, don���t consider that sticking their fingers into a shared bowl of snacks can transmit the germs on their hands to the next person. (So can a frequently handled serving piece.) You can ask your guests to please use the serving pieces because it���s cold and flu season, etc., but some folks will pay no attention. Another option is to serve snacks that do not require that your guests reach into the same receptacle. Dear Annie: I started to cry when I read the letter from ������Heartbroken in New York,������ whose husband drank. I made the choice to end my marriage of 21 years because I could no longer take the Jekyll and Hyde man I was married to. Nothing I did was ������right.������ I was ������boring and unspontaneous.������ The truth was, I was being sensible. He would drink, decide I was dull and then leave to go to a bar. Many of our fights were because I hid the car keys from him. Eventually, he stopped coming home and went directly to the bar. I finally asked him to leave and not return unless he agreed to counseling. It was then that he admitted he is gay. I was relieved. I thought he would be happier now that he was being honest. But he is the same mean jerk to his partner, and he is still drinking. I now wish I had left him years before. I did an injustice to my kids by exposing them to his verbal abuse for so long. It���s better to be alone than to have someone who treats you like this. ��� The Grass Is Greener Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. ���Young and Restless��� marks 40 years LOS ANGELES (AP) ��� Love, loss, breakups, makeups, murder, mayhem, backstabbing, social climbing. Forget about a lifetime, that���s just an afternoon on ������The Young and the Restless.������ The CBS show, daytime���s top-rated soap since December 1988, hits the big 4-0 on Tuesday. No one from its debut on March 26, 1973 ��� when it was just 30 minutes long ��� remains with the show, but Jeanne Cooper arrived six months later and is the longest-tenured cast member in her role as grand dame Katherine Chancellor. ������God knows it���s claimed a big part of my life,������ the 84-year-old actress said, citing good writing and likable characters as reasons for the show���s continued success in an era of dwindling daytime audiences, network budget-cutting and the cancellation of other soaps. ������Its foundation was set so well and you had core characters that you could grow and become involved with,������ Cooper said. ������As you got older, they got a year older. Whether you were wealthy or whatever your status is, our show hit the human being.������ An influx of new, younger cast members has arrived since last year to stir the pot in Genoa City, Wis. ������It���s an important time to start looking toward the future and the next generation,������ said Angelica McDaniel, senior vice president of daytime for CBS. ������We���re not going to rest on our laurels because we���re No. 1.������ Among the newbies is Lamon Archey, who, as Mason Wilder, gets to mix it up with Eric Braeden, now in his 33rd year playing ruthless tycoon Victor Newman. ������I was thrown in with the big dogs,������ Archey said. ������The last thing I wanted to do was mess up my lines or not be on point. He knows what he wants to do. He gets on set and says, ���Let���s run this.��������� Angell Conwell plays attorney Leslie Michaelson, who keeps it strictly business with Braeden���s character while getting frisky with businessman Neil Winters played by Kristoff St. John. ������It has its intimidating moments, but it forces AP photo From left, Lamon Archey, Robert Adamson, Max Ehrich, Redaric Williams and Hunter King, cast members in "The Young and the Restless," are pictured together during the Hot New Faces of "The Young and the Restless" press junket at CBS Television City. you to rise to the challenge,������ said Conwell, who grew up watching the show with her family in South Carolina. ������They want you to do well,������ Redaric Williams, who plays Conwell���s brother Tyler, said about the show���s veterans. Speaking of alphamale Braeden, he and Nikki Newman, played by Melody Thomas Scott, recently married for the fourth time, giving the couple 27 weddings between them. Behind the camera, Jill Farren Phelps took over as executive producer last fall after 11 years of overseeing ABC���s ������General Hospital,������ which marks its 50th anniversary next month. ������The greatest challenge when I first came in was to respect the history and legacy of this show. We don���t make a decision without careful consideration,������ she said. ������The heart of this show are the characters. The soul has always been the storytelling.������ In January, Phelps brought in Steve Burton to play war veteran Dylan McAvoy three months after his long run on ������General Hospital������ had ended in part because he wanted to spend more time with his family in Nashville, Tenn. He commutes to Los Angeles for tapings. Burton noticed a difference in how soaps are treated at CBS compared to ABC, which cancelled ������All My Children������ and ������One Life to Live.������ ���������Young and Restless��� means as much to CBS as ���CSI��� does and that���s saying something,������ he said. ������That all starts from the top down.������ Although ratings have dipped, there appears little immediate chance that another show will overtake it soon, said Carolyn Hinsey, a veteran chronicler of daytime dramas and author of ������Afternoon Delight: Why Soaps Still Matter.������ ������The average soap today costs about $40 million to produce,������ she said. ������If the network can monetize that with multiple showings, like ���Y&R��� did with SOAPnet and CBS.com, then that���s a great bang for their buck. There are no more loyal fans than soap fans.������ The show is seen daily by an estimated 10 million viewers in such countries as Australia, Canada, France, Romania and South Africa. McDaniel has been the driving force in keeping the show current by updating the sets, music and wardrobe, while bringing fans closer through video chats, get- ting the veterans to join their younger cast mates on Twitter, and crosspromoting ������Young and Restless������ on other CBS daytime shows. The network also airs ������The Bold and the Beautiful.������ That kind of effort should keep the show going for years to come, Hinsey said. ������ABC was not loyal to its (canceled) soaps, and did not try to monetize them or promote them,������ she said. ������CBS has been very loyal to ���Y&R��� and ���B&B,��� especially lately. No new show is going to draw the millions of devoted eyeballs daily that ���Y&R��� has enjoyed for 40 years.������ Head writer Josh Griffin is loath to give away upcoming story lines, but he promises that ������we���re going to get hotter and sexier and more romantic and suspenseful as the months go by.������ Just the thing to while away an afternoon. Just In Time For Warmer Weather! Tax Return Specials a long way scratch. Eat DEAR DOCTOR K: more vegetaI���ve always enjoyed my bles and fruits, food well-seasoned. which contain Now my doctor wants no added salt. me to cut down on my You may be salt intake. Any suggesskeptical, but it tions? is entirely possiDEAR READER: ble to wean Salt (sodium chloride) is yourself off a like many other things in Dr. K taste for salt. our food: We need it, by Anthony L. just not in the amounts Komaroff, M.D. Your taste buds can easily adapt we take in. For most of us, the salt in our diet is too if you cut back a little at a time. Replace salt with much of a good thing. Salt helps our nerves herbs, spices and flavorings. transmit impulses. Muscle Experiment with garlic, fibers need salt to contract oregano, rosemary, curry, and relax. Sodium helps the cinnamon and smoked body maintain a proper fluid paprika. Lemon juice and balance. (Not to mention it flavored vinegars, and framakes our food taste good!) grant oils such as sesame or But it doesn���t take much walnut, offer a sodium-free sodium to accomplish any of taste boost. (But beware of these essential jobs. And store-bought sauces that tend consuming too much salt to contain a lot of salt.) When you eat out, if your can put you at risk for high blood pressure, stroke and food is being made to order, ask that it be made without heart problems. How can you cut down? salt. And ask for gravies or Start by getting a sense of sauces (which tend to be where the salt in your diet loaded with salt) to be served comes from. I���ve put a table on the side. If you���re eating on my website, AskDoc- in a chain restaurant, it may torK.com, that lists the top have a menu that tells you sources of sodium in the the amount of salt (and satuAmerican diet. You might be rated fats, cholesterol and surprised by how much salt other nutrients) in each meal. I know how hard it can be there is in certain foods. The most sodium-heavy to cut down on salt. I once foods we eat tend to be had a patient who arrived at processed ones. So mini- the hospital in heart failure. mize the amount of foods She swore she was following that are salted, smoked or her low-salt diet. As she was cured, such as cold cuts, being wheeled to get a chest bacon and cheese. The same X-ray, I saw her pull a salami goes for canned soups and out of her purse and start eatvegetables, mixes for baked ing it. When I asked her goods and other prepared about it, she shrugged. ���I foods that are high in salt. love it, doctor,��� she said. ���At With packaged foods you my age, I love it maybe more get in the market, the Nutri- than life itself.��� Dr. Komaroff is a tion Source label tells you how much salt is in the food. physician and professor at With canned soups, for Harvard Medical School. To example, you���ll find that send questions, go to some have a lot less than oth- AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck ers. Replace processed foods St., Second Floor, Boston, with foods made from MA 02115. MTV���s VMAs taking a road trip to Brooklyn in 2013 NEW YORK (AP) ��� The Video Music Awards are taking a road trip to Brooklyn. MTV���s showcase awards show is traditionally held in Los Angeles or Manhattan. This year the show will be held Aug. 25 at the new Barclays Center, home of the Brooklyn Nets and the site of recent Rolling Stones and Jay-Z multi-night concerts. MTV will celebrate 30 years of the VMAs this year. From Kanye West and Taylor Swift to the MadonnaBritney Spears-Christina Aguilera kiss, the show has become known more for its pop culture moments than the winners of its signature Moonman trophies. The VMAs were last held in New York in 2009 and have been in Los Angeles since. Support our classrooms, keep kids reading. 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