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Friday, March 15, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Coed wants to come out to her family regardless, and that is the Dear Annie: My family most important thing. They is very conservative, and may treat you differently at they are rather religious the beginning, but that is not Christians. For the past unusual, and over time, their seven years, I have known behavior will normalize. that I am gay. I tried dating (They may already suspect boys to please my parents, you are gay.) But we don't but it just didn't feel right. recommend you introduce a During my senior year of high school, I went out with Annie's girlfriend on the same trip where you come out to the a few girls, but I was still relatives. That may be more very much in the closet. Now that I'm in college, by Kathy Mitchell than any of you can handle, however, I'm out and proud. and Marcy Sugar and it is unfair to your girlfriend to put her in the midI have a girlfriend, and things are going well for us. We are dle of the drama. We suggest you contact PFLAG (pflag.org) for sugtalking about moving in together. I came out to my mother and sis- gestions on the best way to approach ters because I knew they would this. Dear Annie: Nearly 40 years accept it eventually, although they were disappointed. But the rest of ago, my daughter had an abortion. the family is a different story. I want She was 17, and there was no possito bring my girlfriend home to meet bility of carrying the baby to term my folks. I want to be honest about and having it be adopted. My daughter and I never talk our relationship, but I am crossing a generational, religious and moral about this, but I have never forgotten line. My grandmother believes les- it. This child would now be an adult, and I would have a grandchild. I will bians are going to hell. I don't intend to rub it in their regret this experience until the day I faces. But it feels like a burden to lie die. I believe everyone should be about it. I know they love me and able to do what they need to do, but would continue to love me. I have be sure you can live with the consenot changed who I am. But I'm quences. — A Regretful Grandma Dear Regretful: No woman is afraid they will treat me differently, and I'm worried about how they will eager to have an abortion. It is a diftreat my girlfriend. How do I come ficult and wrenching decision, often out to the rest of my family? — The the option of last resort. You never had the opportunity to properly L Word Dear L Word: You already know grieve for this unborn child and the that your family will love you potential the child represented. Mailbox Please take the time to do so now. You have held on to this pain for 40 years. A grief counselor can help you let go so you can forgive your daughter — and yourself. Dear Annie: "New Hampshire" said her brother-in-law, "Bob," came to their home for the holidays every year and never treated them to anything, including groceries, and somehow managed to forget his credit card when they went out for dinner. I had a similar experience with my sister, and like "New Hampshire," I was frustrated. I began limiting what we did together and opting for less expensive things, knowing I'd be stuck with the bill. Three years ago, my sister passed away from cancer at the age of 51. Since then, I have often thought how happy I would be to take her out to eat every week if only she were still here to go with me. It's only money. Please tell your readers to enjoy the time they have with loved ones. One day they may be in my shoes, wishing you could be together. — Miss My Sister in Kansas Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. S&P 500 nears record high; Dow heads for 10th gain Wall Street NEW YORK (AP) — Encouraging news from the job market sent the stock market toward two milestones Wednesday: A record high close for the Standard & Poor's 500 index and the longest winning streak for the Dow Jones industrial average in more than 16 years. The S&P 500 index gained six points to 1,560, a rise of 0.4 percent. It's just five points away from the peak it reached in October 2007. The Dow rose 60 points, or 0.4 percent, to 14,516, putting the index on course for 10 straight days of gains. The last time that happened was November 1996. Hewlett-Packard led the Dow higher, rising more than 1 percent. The number of Americans seeking unemployment benefits fell to a fiveyear low last week, the Labor Department reported, implying that the job market is strengthening. The fourweek average, a more stable measure, fell to the lowest since March 2008, four months after the economy slid into the Great Recession. The government also delivered positive economic news on Wednesday, reporting that U.S. retail spending increased in February at the fastest pace in five months. That came despite higher payroll taxes kicking in at the beginning of the year. ''We've been getting some really good economic statistics: jobless claims today and retail sales yesterday,'' said Doug Cote, chief market strategist for ING U.S. Investment Management. ''And that's positive for asset prices.'' The gains were broad in early trading, though slight. Of the 10 industries in the S&P 500, health care companies were the only group to fall. The Nasdaq composite rose eight points, or 0.3 percent, to 3,253. 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In a nutshell, legs and occasional ankle varicose veins are both a swelling. Finally, there's cause and a result of venous severe chronic venous insufficiency, and treating insufficiency. This causes them can improve venous swollen legs, skin color changes, itchy skin, leg insufficiency. What is venous insuffi- cramping, pain and ulcers ciency? Normally, leg veins on the legs and ankles. Having varicose veins return blood from the legs back to the heart. Particular- removed doesn't make you ly when you're sitting or more likely to develop standing, that's not easy. venous insufficiency. 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