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4B Daily News ��� Tuesday, February 26, 2013 FEATURES Girl waffles after dumping guy guy. He didn���t Dear Annie: I have the courage am a 21-year-old to break things off female, quite in an honest way independent, and made himself happy and full of repeatedly life. Last year I unavailable, hopstarted dating ing you���d take the ������Luke,������ age 26. initiative and let We hit it off great, and I fell in love. Annie���s him go. It is natural for you to grieve But two months the end of a relaago, something changed. by Kathy Mitchell tionship that you Luke recently and Marcy Sugar expected to last. Surround yourself started a new company. One day, he with supportive friends randomly decided he and family, pamper yourneeded a break from our self, and ������fake it until you relationship to focus on make it.������ Time will heal his business. He made me this. We promise. Dear Annie: I used to promise to stay faithful. After three weeks, we keep in touch with my started arguing. I found it grandchildren via e-mail, stupid that I was supposed but lately, they have not to remain faithful while he been answering my letwas out partying every ters. Their parents told me weekend, going to bars that teenagers prefer to and clubs. He kept texting ������text������ rather than e-mail. In my technological my sister, saying he didn���t want to be with me. When ignorance, I thought texI���d confront him, he���d say ting was the same as emailing. Just what is texhe was only kidding. I tried hard to work this ting? ��� Technologically out. Two weeks ago, we Impaired in New York Dear New York: Nearplanned to hang out, but Luke didn���t answer my ly every cellphone has a calls. He never even both- text function where you ered to cancel our plans. I can send a typed message finally had enough and to someone else���s cellsent him a text ending phone. On older models, you may need to check things completely. Annie, the entire two your owner���s manual to months we were apart, I find out how to do this, was a wreck. I still can���t and it can also require stop thinking about him. I several keystrokes to get know I did the right thing the right letters. But newer by breaking it off. But smartphones have an icon sometimes, I am filled for messaging right on the with regret, as if I wasn���t a screen and a keyboard that good enough girlfriend. appears when you use the How can I be happy again function, making texting without faking it? ��� Lost simple and quick. And the parents are right ��� most in My Heart Dear Lost: This has teens prefer it to emailing, nothing to do with your although there is a cost value as a girlfriend. Luke involved. If you are interwas simply not the right ested in getting a new Mailbox phone, please know that many companies offer tutorials to go with it. Dear Annie: The letter from ������Some Talk, Please������ sounded like one I���ve been writing in my head for a decade. My husband of 20 years is also great around the house and with our kids, but he prefers groping to actual conversation and can���t understand why it doesn���t turn me on. I���m sad that he feels rejected, but I work two jobs and help care for my parents. I���m too tired for sex at the drop of a hat. He also thinks that when our teenage kids have friends over, it���s a great time to escape to the bedroom. I consider that inappropriate. Can you shed any light on this? ��� A Few Words Would Help Dear Few Words: Your husband is so focused on his own satisfaction that it apparently cuts off oxygen to his brain. You need to be very specific about what you want from him and offer ������rewards������ when he complies. Behavior modification can be a very useful tool. To our Baha���i readers: Happy Ayyam-i-Ha. Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.n et, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Avoid the bends by taking diving precautions If you experience any of the DEAR DOCTOR K: I���m plansymptoms of decompression ning a diving vacation. A friend sickness after scuba diving, get told me it���s not safe to fly within to a doctor as soon as you can. 24 hours of diving. Why not? The key to treatment is the use of DEAR READER: I���m not a a hyperbaric oxygen chamber. diver myself, so I had to do some This is a high-pressure chamber research to answer your question. that provides 100 percent oxyThe concern with flying soon gen. The treatment drives nitroafter diving (or rising too quickly to the surface of the water after a Dr. K gen back into its liquid form so that it can be cleared from the deep dive) is something called by Anthony L. decompression sickness. It���s also Komaroff, M.D. body gradually, over a period of hours. Hyperbaric treatment is known as ���the bends.��� When you scuba dive, you breathe most successful if given within several compressed air from a tank. That air con- hours after symptoms start. To minimize your risk of decomprestains high amounts of two gases, oxygen and nitrogen ��� higher than are normally sion sickness while diving: ��� Dive and rise slowly in the water, in the air around us. The deeper you dive, the more pres- and don���t stay at your deepest depth sure you���re under. That causes the nitro- longer than recommended. Scuba divers gen to stop being a gas; it dissolves into typically use dive tables that show how your blood, becoming a liquid, where it long they can remain at a given depth. ��� Don���t drink alcohol before diving. remains during your dive. Your body slowly eliminates the nitrogen, primarily Alcohol makes the brain more vulnerable to injury by the nitrogen bubbles. in your urine. ��� Avoid hot tubs, saunas or hot baths As you swim back toward the surface after a deep dive, the water pressure after diving. You asked about not flying. As a around you decreases. If this transition occurs too quickly, the liquid nitrogen plane climbs higher, the surrounding air forms bubbles in your tissues or blood pressure gets progressively lower. that can damage the walls of blood ves- Although the plane keeps cabin pressels. These bubbles also can block nor- sure higher than the real air pressure mal blood flow in the same way that lit- outside the plane, the cabin pressure still is lower than the air pressure on the tle blood clots can. Decompression sickness can cause a ground. That encourages any remaining variety of symptoms: joint pain, dizzi- liquid nitrogen in your blood to form ness, headache, difficulty thinking clear- bubbles and cause decompression sickly, extreme fatigue, weakness in the arms ness. For that reason, you should wait or legs, or rash. The symptoms you get 24 to 48 hours after diving before flydepend on the organs in which blood ing. flow is blocked. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and It can take a while for the symptoms of decompression sickness to appear. professor at Harvard Medical School. To You can get back up to the surface of the send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, water without symptoms, but then expe- or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., rience them for up to 24 hours thereafter. Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Hospital to offer grief workshop REDDING ���- Mercy Hospice is offering a free workshop for persons dealing with grief and loss issues related to death. Grief: The Journey Workshop is scheduled for 6:30-8:30 p.m.Tuesday, March 12, at Mercy Oaks Campus Shasta Senior Nutrition Programs, 100 Mercy Oaks Drive, Redding . This workshop will help participants find meaning and comfort in their grief journey. Discussion will help identify the fundamentals of the grief process and focus on promoting healing and ultimately reinvesting emotional energy. The second half of the workshop will provide time for attendees to discuss either grief after sudden and traumatic loss or after anticipated death. Resources and information will be provided to help participants dur- ing their grief journey. Workshop facilitators include Mercy Hospice Chaplains Ray Hemenway and Tom Miller. This session is offered at no charge. Pre-registration is suggested but not required, and registration will be accepted at the door. For more information and to pre-register, call Emily Sawyer at Mercy Hospice: 530 245-4070.