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4B Daily News – Friday, February 1, 2013 FEATURES Reader suffers two losses over holidays lost my mother, but it Dear Annie: Two seems I've lost my son, as years ago, my son's well. How do I handle this fiancee recommended we mess? My husband and I rotate who hosts Christare both losing sleep. — mas dinner. That year, she Hurt and my son went to her Dear Hurt: Our condomom's house, and last lences on the loss of your year they were supposed mother. Your son may be to come to mine. Instead, they went to her mom's Annie's feeling guilty for pressuring you to abandon Grandagain and were upset that ma for his fiancee's I didn't want to tag along. Annie, at the time, my 73- by Kathy Mitchell Christmas dinner, not realyear-old mother was in a and Marcy Sugar izing how short her time was. It is not uncommon to rehab facility. There was no way I could bring her along deflect that by blaming someone for dinner, and I refused to leave else. And his fiancee may be encouraging his anger toward you her alone for the holiday. A week before Christmas, my because it gets her off the hook future daughter-in-law sent me a entirely. Please forgive them so you can text asking me to reconsider. I again said no. She accidentally work on your grieving process texted me instead of my son and without this additional sadness. said, ''Your mom is a nasty liar.'' Keep the lines of communication I was dumbfounded. I immediate- open, and try to maintain a cerly got another text saying, ''I'm tain superficiality. We hope this sorry, but my feelings are hurt.'' I will allow the relationship to forwarded both of these to my move forward. Dear Annie: We are getting son, who said he was at work and didn't have time to deal with this. tired of people telling us that the Right after the holiday, my use of capital letters in our emails mother fell and broke her hip. means we are ''shouting'' at She ended up needing two surg- them. This idea should be tossed eries. She refused additional out. We are visually impaired and treatment, saying she'd had enough. She went into hospice have friends who have glaucoma, eye cancer and developing care and died a few days later. My son became angry with me, cataracts or are post cataract saying I deliberately shortened surgery, and some of us have Mom's life by putting her into macular degeneration in various hospice. My son's fiancee still stages. We are blessed that we has not apologized for what she can still use our computers, but texted. I haven't heard from are unable to read the small print of most messages. We need and either of them since. I am hurt and upset. I not only appreciate the larger capital let- Mailbox ters. Please tell your readers to think outside the box before criticizing those of us with limited vision. — Windows to the Soul Dear Windows: We are sympathetic to your plight, but using all caps looks like shouting to most people. Of course, if that's the only way you can see the type, by all means continue. However, please know that there are other ways to increase the type size. Try holding CTRL while pressing the plus sign or rolling your mouse wheel forward. Or hit ''reply,'' and then highlight the text and increase the font size. Your browser may offer other options in the manual or online. Dear Annie: Please tell ''No Name, No Location'' to get in touch with a local Cub Scout or Boy Scout troop for help shoveling snow or cutting their grass. Both groups of scouts are required to perform community service. When I was a Cubmaster, we organized kids to rake leaves for some elderly residents. Paying it back by volunteering is a win-win. — Problem Solved Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. COURT ROUND-UP The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments • Victor Camacho Hernandez was sentence to six years and eight months in state prison for transport for sale/non-contiguous county, possession for sale of a controlled substance. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Hernandez. Upon contacting Hernandez the officer's K-9 alerted on the vehicle and a search was conducted. The officer located heroin, cocaine and methamphetamine. • Daniel Lee Sartain was sentence to six years in state prison for carrying a dirk or dagger. Officers received a report that Sartain was a parolee and had removed his ankle bracelet. An officer located Sartain and found a fixed blade knife concealed on his person. • Kassandra Lynn Sine was sentence to six years in state prison for leaving the scene of an accident with special allegation-great bodily injury, second degree robbery. The victim parked his son's vehicle outside his shop and left the keys in the ignition. A short time later he heard the vehicle start up and observed someone inside the vehicle attempting to drive away. The victim ran over to the vehicle and opened the driver's side door as the vehicle was still moving. Sine then accelerated causing the victim to be thrown to the ground. Sine and vehicle were later located and Sine was taken into custody. • Barry Allen Smith was sentence to four years in state prison for carrying a dirk or dagger with special allegationsprior strike and prior felony. Officers contacted Smith and was advised he was a parolee at large. The officer conducted a search of Smith's person and located a fixed blade knife concealed in his pocket. • Dustin Wayne Coupe was sentence to two years and eight months in state prison for second degree burglary, vandalism. Victim reported the window in his vehicle had been shattered and an ATM card from inside the vehicle was missing. The officer contacted Coupe after recognizing him on a surveillance video where the ATM card was used. Coupe was arrested and taken into custody. • Jade Cheyenne Perozzi was sentenced to 24 months in state prison for possession of a controlled substance; possession of a controlled substance. Perozzi was originally granted formal probation on both cases. She violated her probation when she failed to complete her community service and was terminated from her drug and alcohol treatment program. • Gerald Frank Roehrich was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for attempted unlawful driving or taking of a vehicle with special allegation-prior strike. Roehrich was staying at victim's residence during which time he stole the victim's car keys and attempted to drive away in his vehicle. The victim observed Roehrich sitting in his vehicle and confronted him before he was able to drive away. • Sean Timothy Silos was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for possession of a Controlled Substance. Silos was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to keep in contact with his probation officer and failed to keep them informed of his current contact information. • Adelina Ortiz Botello was sentenced to eight months in state prison for attempted cultivation of marijuana. Agents obtained a search warrant and conducted a search of a property containing a marijuana grow. During the search agents located several marijuana plants, guns and processed marijuana. Recent County Jail Commitments • Joseph Raymond Zaragoza was sentenced to 270 days in Tehama County Jail for lewd act upon a child. Victim was asleep on the couch and was awakened when Zaragoza came into the room and conducted a lewd act. • Robert Harold Hollister was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of marijuana for sale. Agents observed Hollister in front of a restaurant selling marijuana. The agents conducted a consent search and located marijuana and methamphetamine. • John Craig Skinner was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of a controlled substance. A deputy conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Skinner. Skinner was driving on a suspended license and an inventory search was conducted before the vehicle was to be towed. During the search the deputy located a methamphetamine smoking pipe as well as methamphetamine hidden in Skinner's sock. • Anthony Paul Douglas was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for two counts of second degree commercial burglary. Douglas entered a store and purchased items with a stolen credit card. Douglas attempted to use the card at another store but the card was declined. • Nicole Marie Pelaiz was sentenced to 152 days in Tehama County Jail for vandalism. Pelaiz broke out the victim's car window and poured Kool-Aid into the gas tank. • Dustin Lee Bass was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of a controlled substance. A deputy conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Bass. During a consent search the deputy located prescription pills in Bass' pocket. • Shannah Renee Gomez was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree commercial burglary. Gomez walked into a grocery store, placed bottles of alcohol in her purse and attempted to leave the store without paying for the alcohol. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments Note: All cases wherein a defendant is sentenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attorney's Office. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, a defendant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on probation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. In the event the defendant violates a non-drug related term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney's Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in certain, specific, cases a defendant should be sentenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defendant has an extensive criminal record and/or a history of noncompliance with either previous grants of probation or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. • Brandon Tyler McKim was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of a controlled substance; transportation of a controlled substance. McKim was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation based upon his violations in NCR84672. (NCR84672)-Officers responded to a report of a suspicious vehicle. Upon arriving at the scene the officers contacted McKim sitting in the passenger seat of the vehicle. The officers K-9 alerted on the vehicle and a search was conducted. Inside the vehicle the officers located methamphetamine, syringes and prescription pills. BDD sufferers preoccupied with physical defects the thing they fear. DEAR DOCThe hours that TOR K: My people with BDD teenage daughter spend grooming was diagnosed themselves are with body dyslike the hours that morphic disorder. people with OCD Can you help me can spend cleanunderstand this ing themselves, condition so I can help her? Dr. K when they have a fear of dirt and DEAR READby Anthony L. ER: To answer Komaroff, M.D. contamination. People with your question, I consulted with my col- BDD often get cosmetic league, Dr. Michael surgery or dermatology Miller, assistant professor treatments in pursuit of of psychiatry at Harvard fixes for perceived flaws. Sadly, their unrealistic Medical School. Dr. Miller said that it's expectations can lead normal for teenage girls to them to feel worse, not be concerned about their better, since they see no appearance. But being improvement following overly self-conscious the surgery or other treatabout looks can become a ment. BDD increases the risk problem, and it can be extremely distressing for suicide as well as alcowhen it takes the form of hol or drug problems. body dysmorphic disorder That's because people with BDD have a high risk (BDD). Although BDD was for also suffering from first described in women depression and eating dis(usually girls), it occurs orders. The first big step in also in men and boys. Some experts speculate treatment is helping your that teens and young adult daughter recognize she men who are spending has a problem. There are hours in the gym each several self-test questionweek building their bodies naires available online often suffer from BDD. (just type "body dysmorEven when they are very phic disorder" into a muscular, they see them- search engine). I don't know of evidence that one selves as puny. People who have this is better than another. Antidepressants like condition are preoccupied with what they regard as the selective serotonin physical defects. In many reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) cases, this concern reach- fluoxetine (Prozac) can es delusional proportions. help. Other classes of They see bodily flaws that drugs may be helpful for aren't there — and they symptoms that are comhave little to no awareness mon in the illness, such as that their worries are irra- delusions. Psychotherapy is helpful for milder tional. People with BDD often symptoms. In particular, a become fixated on check- form of psychotherapy ing their appearance in the called cognitive behavmirror, or they spend an ioral therapy can be helpinordinate amount of time ful. Above all, the goal is to grooming. They may focus on their appearance help your daughter turn to the exclusion of every- away from a preoccupathing else, including work tion with her appearance and engage in treatment or personal relationships. BDD has characteris- for underlying problems. tics in common with anxi- It won't be easy, but it ety and obsessive-compul- may be the only way for sive disorders, or OCD. her to achieve relief. Like people with these Dr. Komaroff is a disorders, people with BDD feel fearful that physician and professor Harvard Medical some harm will come to at To send them from the defect in School. go to their appearance. Like questions, or people with OCD, people AskDoctorK.com, with BDD spend more write: Ask Doctor K, 10 time than is reasonable Shattuck St., Second trying to rid themselves of Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Air service aims to promote heart health PHI Air Medical announced recently a major community wide effort to educate the community and raise awareness for heart disease, especially as it relates to women's heart issues. "As a company, we understand first hand the devastating impact heart disease has on the women and families of our community," said Christian Giller, regional director. "We are committed to doing everything we can to raise awareness on this important issue. Our entire focus is to be proactive for the health of our community so that we don't have to be called to transport another victim of heart disease." Long before PHI or others are called to transport heart patients, there are important signs to look for and lifestyle changes that can be made. The facts regarding hear disease in women can be startling: • 1 in 4 women die from heart disease • Heart disease is the number one killer of women regardless of race or ethnicity • Two-thirds of women who have heart attacks, never fully recover • Women account for more than 60 percent of all stroke deaths Most people are unaware that heart disease is the number one killer of women in the U.S. Simple changes in diet and lifestyle can greatly aid in the chances for women to live longer, healthier and more productive lives. "People ask why we are so passionate about this issue," Giller said. "The answer is that these women represent our mothers, sisters, wives, as well as the thousands of women we work with in the community and throughout PHI. We are committed to raising awareness for this important cause because we believe that knowledge is the best prevention when it comes to matters of the heart."