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4B Daily News – Tuesday, January 29, 2013 FEATURES Attorney irked by lack of Christmas bonus Yoga can be a good This is less about the Dear Annie: I am an money than it is about the associate in a law firm with disparate treatment, espetwo offices. Each office has cially between the two law three associate attorneys offices. Is there any way to and is managed by a partbring this up to my boss for ner. next season without soundDuring my first year, I ing like a spoiled child? — was the only associate in Struggling Young Profesmy office, and I received a Christmas bonus. The sec- Annie's sional Dear Struggling: We ond year, we hired two understand why this seems additional associates. I was devastated when all of the by Kathy Mitchell unfair, but unless a yearly staff but none of the associ- and Marcy Sugar bonus is part of your compensation package, such ates received a bonus that year, as I'd planned to use the money is given at the discretion of money to buy gifts for my family. I the managing partner. It is possible wasn't surprised last month when, that the associates in the other once again, the associates received office have a different compensanothing. I did discover, however, tion agreement that includes a that all of the associates in the Christmas bonus or that there are other factors involved. You could other law office received bonuses. I understand that a Christmas ask what you can do to increase the bonus is not something I am enti- likelihood that you will merit additled to receive, and if I bring it up tional pay at the end of the year, or to my boss, it would make me whether something about your persound selfish and greedy. We do formance has been disappointing. get extra money each month if we Beyond that, you're out of luck. Dear Annie: My friend exceed a specific number of billable hours. However, that is a part ''Harry'' has had an on-again, offof my compensation agreement again girlfriend for the past year. and a variable portion of my salary, They have broken up many times, not a bonus. I also think my boss but claim they're right for each has decided that the office staff, other. Most of our friends think most of whom are single parents, their relationship is a waste of time. Well, now they are on again, but need the bonus more than the associates do. But my law degree came this time it is different. Harry is with six figures of student loan totally head over heels, but she isn't into him so much. I used to debt. Mailbox talk to him every day, and now I barely get a ''hello.'' His girlfriend says I'm ''bugging'' him and never lets him hang around long enough to talk to me. We all know it's only a matter of time before it ends badly. How can I help Harry realize what's going on? I want my friend back. — Worried in California Dear California: Unless there is abuse, it is pointless for you to involve yourself in Harry's relationship. He could benefit from counseling to work on the reasons he pursues such a self-destructive romance, but until he admits that he makes bad choices, your words will have little effect. Since the relationship is likely to end sooner than later, you will have other opportunities to discuss this with him. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ''Ormond Beach, Fla.'' Last year, I went to a male doctor with a gynecological problem. He said I had menopause, and that was it. I made an appointment with a female nurse practitioner, who sent me to a gynecologist. The gynecologist discovered I had cancer and referred me to an oncologist. Fortunately, the surgeon was able to get it all. I'm glad I didn't listen to the first doctor. 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