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So what do I do to get through to him? —From"We"to"I" DEAR "WE"» Surely your boyfriend wonders why the heck you don't seem to understand basic concepts concerning time, truth and language. When he went to the Grand Canyon with his ex-wife 20 years ago, this was something "we" did, not something "I" did. To reduce a "we" to an "I" implies that he lived his entire life alone. You are asking him to deflect and deny the truth about his life. He can't do that, because he was liv- ing his life with a spouse. Eventually, the experi- ences you two have to- gether will become "We" memories. DEAR AMY » My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. A major issue is her house. I have terrible allergies; she has cats and dogs that shed. I feel miserable when I am there. I feel horrible. I had not taken allergy medication in years, but have to use it now when I stay at her place. She has done things to accommodate my irrita- tions, but aside from the allergies, her house is a mess. I feel like a jerk for saying that but I never feel clean when I'm there. Hair is in the bowls in the cupboards, the carpet is stained and cat puke has dried on the stairs. She wants me to move in, but I am grossed out by her house. When she is not there I spend most of my time cleaning. We've tried discussing this issue but she gets offended. I don't know how to say I would move in if the house were cleaner, because I would. — Allergic DEAR ALLERGIC » Your health is on the line, and so you should be frank: "I would love to live with you but I can't live in your house, especially when you don't clean up after the animals. Every time I get on top of it, the house reverts right back to where it was. I don't want to clean up after you and the pets; it is making me sick. Plus — I don't want to live this way." You know, of course, that the pets are not the (only) problem. Many people have pets and live in a clean environment. If she wants you to move in, she should make changes. Hiring cleaning help would be a start, but only a start. Newly separated man must move from being 'We' to 'I' You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Capricorn(Dec.22-Jan.19) — Accept inevitable changes and move forward without looking back. Let your intuition lead to a better future. Trust in yourself. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Consider what you've done and what you still want to ac- complish. With a little ingenuity and discipline, you can start putting your plans in motion. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — An interesting professional opportunity is within your reach. 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