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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfamily hates my husband be- cause he cheated on me. I took him back and chose to forgive him — and not throw away 23 years of togetherness. This was four years ago, and my family doesn't invite us as a couple to family gatherings. I don't go to Christmas or Thanks- giving be- cause he is not invited. My family misses me as I miss them. What can be done? —Missing DEAR MISSING » The ele- ment that is really miss- ing here is your husband. Perhaps your family members are waiting for him to acknowledge his behavior and apologize for the impact his be- trayal of you has had on them. Infidelity has an ancil- lary impact, especially in close families such as yours. Your family mem- bers also spent 23 years with your husband. He hurts you, he hurts them. He needs to express: "I hope it's not too late to apologize for how much I hurt your daughter/sister. She and I are in a good place now; she has for- given me and I hope you would, too. She misses you very much, and I realize that I bear some responsibility for that." If he acknowledges his actions, this gives your family members the op- portunity to forgive him. He should do this out of compassion for you. DEAR AMY» After being married for 35-plus years, without warning my husband announced that he wanted a divorce and had papers for me to sign to divide our assets. I wasn't going to sign papers without a lawyer. At first, our communica- tion was fine but quickly turned nasty because I wasn't doing what he wanted quickly enough. We have been divorced for almost 15 years. When I was cleaning out my old files I found our written communications. I started to read them, but after the first page I stopped. Now I don't know what to do. Do I want to review that crazy time again to put it to rest? Do I want the kids to see these papers? Your advice would be much appreciated. — Clean Jean DEAR JEAN » You would like to prove something to yourself. If so, there is no greater teacher than fac- ing the printed reality. The evidence may be appreciably different from what you remember, and it could be a good thing to view this event from two perspectives: From a distance and through documents. If it were me I would review each page as I fed it into the shredder (un- less there are legal rea- sons to keep them). When contemplating sharing this with your children you have to ask yourself, "What good would come of it?" Wife wants to reconcile family to cheating husband (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's mem- oir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.) Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22) — Change can be daunting, but also necessary if you want to get ahead. By starting now, you will reap the rewards sooner rather than later. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A past partner will find his or her way back into your life. Now is the time to follow that dream you shared long ago. It's never too late to start over. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Someone you care about is likely to be on edge. Be patient and understanding. He or she will appreciate your support. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't be caught off-guard. You may have to decipher what's fact and what's fiction before you can make an informed choice. Be persistent. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You are to be congratulated for your sincerity and generos- ity. Someone you help today will turn out to be a very meaningful associate as time goes by. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Business and personal relationships will be on shaky ground. Keep your distance from partners or co-workers if you want to meet your deadlines and avoid gossip. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Your appeal has never been stronger. You will silence your critics and dazzle your col- leagues if you promote your ideas today. You can make a difference, so speak up. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Pay close attention to money matters. You will uncover some valuable information by keeping a close watch on economic and financial trends. An in- novative idea will turn into a moneymaker. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Keep your feelings hidden. Romantic woes will occur if you confess your attraction for someone else's partner. Make the effort to meet new people through a shared hobby. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You are highly regarded in the workplace, but don't become complacent. Keep on top of the latest developments regarding anything that can influence your business or your position. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Something that had you confused in the past will be- come clear. You could meet your career goals if you make time to do things you enjoy with people who inspire you. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Speak the truth, but be careful about who is listening. Letting your feelings become known to the wrong individual could work against you. Protect your reputation. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol WEDNESDAY, JULY 2 WEDNESDAY, JULY 2, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B