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WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM 16 UCW JANUARY 13-19, 2021 STEVE COOK, Author, Founder of Lifeonaire. COMMENTS? Editor@upand- comingweekly.com. 910-484-6200. In January, we typically look back over the pre- vious 12 months and contemplate what we intend to do differently in the upcoming year. (Curiously, these resolutions are often the same ones we made and abandoned the year before). With 2020 behind us — and none too soon, you'll probably agree — you have a chance to take a different ap- proach this year. Rather than adding to your already jam-packed to-do list, look for what you've been doing that isn't serving you well. en quit doing it. Many people found that 2020 stripped away their illusions and showed them the parts of their lives that aren't working. Wherever you're suffer- ing — finances, lifestyle, relationships, spirituality — if you dig down to the root you might find the problem is you've bought into a cultural narrative that tells you to hustle, grind, stay busy and keep pursuing more. Not only does blind pursuit of "the American Dream" not lead to happiness, it actively detracts from it. us, it stands to reason that we need to slow down, take an honest look at our choices, and stop the proverbial madness. We are taught that quitters never win. Well, sometimes they do! We all need to challenge ourselves to consider what we really desire out of life. Many Americans blindly pursue financial wealth — thinking that money will reward them with what they want. But we may discover that our heart's desire is to become more than just a millionaire … what we really desire is to become a Lifeonaire. at said, here are seven things you should quit doing in 2021: QUIT using money as a metric to measure how successful you are. You should not stop doing smart things with your money, but do stop mea- suring your success on it. Chances are there are many people that have much more than you yet are still not happy. At all. One thing I have discovered in my years of coaching wealthy people is that they never seem to have enough. ey measure their success based off of how much they have and consequently they never have enough. is measure itself leads to discontentment. QUIT taking on debt. Most every person that I talk to would like to eliminate all of their debt, however most of those people will go deeper into debt in the following year. ey will convince themselves that they need something enough that it is worth going into debt for. Make it a point to stop borrowing money this year. You will find that there are things that you can actually live without, and it is the first step toward becoming debt free. QUIT trying to keep up with the Joneses. It's a game that you cannot win! Whenever you com- pare yourself to someone else, you will always find someone that has something bigger, better, pret- tier, or newer than what you have. Instead, learn to be grateful for and content with what you have. Keeping up with the Joneses often means keep- ing up with a pretty picture that doesn't represent what is going on behind closed doors. You don't see the amount of work they do to maintain it, the stress they are hiding, and the disfunction in their relationships that comes along with the pretty picture. QUIT surrounding yourself with people who try too hard to impress you (and others). Most people are too busy worrying about their own lives to really care about you. at is not an indictment of people, instead it suggests that the same inse- curities that you may have about how you look, what you have, or how successful you are, may be shared by many. Make this the year that you sur- round yourself with people who have come to a place of contentment — those who aren't trying to impress anyone. QUIT taking financial advice from people who are not better off than you. It is amazing how often people take advice from others who are doing no better, if not worse, than they themselves are. I've seen people get marriage advice from divorced people, and business start-ups getting advice about how to do things from struggling business- es. e only advice you should get from those who are struggling is what NOT to do. QUIT working so many hours. e most suc- cessful people work less, often make more, and love their life. eir business complements instead of competes with their personal life. ey experience freedom and independence with their time, finances and choices. Years of conditioning have us believing that hard work means working a lot. e truth is, short periods of efficient hard work are much more pro- ductive than "overdrive" 60-hour work weeks. And if you have young children, long work hours and lots of business travel are especially dangerous. Now is when they need you in their lives. Work will be there later. QUIT putting off living life until someday when you have more wealth. Let's face it, in 2020 many people realized how short life can be. It's time for you to start experiencing life to the fullest. When you are trying to live life with money as the mea- sure, you will never have enough. You will put off doing the things you could do right now in hopes that someday you have more available to enjoy life. Live it today. e Lifeonaire approach is to change the rules of the game of life. Rather than playing life the way the world around us expects us to, we go against the grain and live life to the fullest. If you stop doing the things above, you will begin to have the space and time to do the things in life that really matter the most to you, which will also give you the time to grow and experience life to the fullest. "Lifeonaire: An Uncommon Approach to Wealth, Success, and Prosperity" is available from major online booksellers. For more information visit https://lifeonaire.com. The year of the quitter: seven things to stop doing in 2021 by STEVE COOK LITERATURE 24 hour ez access 427 FRANKLIN STREET HISTORIC DOWNTOWN FAYETTEVILLE 910-988-6396 Boats • RV's • Cars UPTOWN VEHICLE STORAGE Safe Secure Bonded FREE HEALTH CARE • for uninsured Adults call 910.485.0555