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4B Daily News – Tuesday, December 18, 2012 FEATURES Dude deems damsel's drawl disturbing Pelvic scarring can linked to her identity, and be Dear Annie: For the resistant to change. If she past 18 months, I've been has other qualities that you dating a woman who appreciate, we advise first resides two states south. We speaking to her to see are planning on her moving whether she is receptive and north to live with me. My then being patient. problem is her thick southDear Annie: I recently ern accent. hosted a bridal shower for a ''Beth'' habitually holds the last word of a sentence Annie's dear friend. Of the 30 women we invited, only five and draws it out. Her voice bothered to RSVP. Several slides up and down when saying a simple word such by Kathy Mitchell people told the bride-to-be as ''town'' so that it has and Marcy Sugar that they may not be coming. Not surprisingly, the multiple syllables. A couple of my friends have also noticed bride assumed (incorrectly) that they had also RSVP'd to me directhow pronounced her drawl is. I have hinted to Beth about it on ly, so she didn't pass that on. You can imagine how frustrating, occasion, but it hasn't made a difference. I have to admit, this speech not to mention wasteful, it was to pattern is both repulsive and abra- prepare enough food for 25 people sive to me. Beth has many loving when only a handful arrived. My qualities, but I worry about the point is this: When asked to RSVP drawl. I can barely tolerate it now, to an event, DO SO. Don't ignore it and I fear it will eventually drive me or ask the bride to pass on your regrets. She has enough details on crazy. Should I confront Beth about it? her plate right now. It takes just a I don't want to hurt her feelings. — minute to respond to an invitation, and it is just plain rude not to. — Need Your Input Dear Need: There are other fac- Too Many Leftovers Dear Leftovers: We agree, but tors to consider. If Beth moves north, her speech will adapt to her this problem has been around so surroundings, and over time, she long, we suspect your words of would likely lose a lot of her accent. warning will go unheeded. So this You also could speak gently and is for the hosts: If someone has not lovingly about this. Don't say her RSVP'd to an invitation by the date drawl gets on your nerves, even if requested, please phone them and it's true. Say that if she is going to find out whether they plan to come. be living in your neck of the woods, (We hope invitees will be embarshe might want to shorten her words rassed enough that it will inspire them to behave better next time.) so she fits in better. Dear Annie: I read the letter Of course, she may become protective of her accent, believing it is from ''We Are There and It Hurts,'' Mailbox the parents of an adult daughter who is grossly overweight. It's possible she has binge eating disorder. If so, dieting may not help. She needs therapy with someone trained in the treatment of eating disorders. Please tell this couple to go to the National Eating Disorders Association website (nationaleatingdisorders.org) or call the NEDA Helpline at 1-800-931-2237. It may be the best thing they could ever do for their daughter. — Been There Dear Been: Thank you. Binge eating is a psychiatric disorder characterized by loss of control of the amount of eating, distress over binge episodes, and episodes that occur at least three times a week for three months or longer. It usually involves eating more rapidly than normal, eating until uncomfortably full and/or when not hungry, eating alone due to embarrassment, and feeling disgusted with oneself, depressed or guilty after. Other resources are the Binge Eating Disorder Association (bedaonline.com) and the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders at anad.org. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Snow Goose Festival registration opens Experience the wonders of the Pacific Flyway at the 14th Annual Snow Goose Festival on Jan. 24-27 in Chico. This four-day event celebrates the local and migratory waterfowl of the Northern Sacramento Valley and offers over 60 field trips, workshops and activities for birding and nature enthusiasts of all ages. Admission is free to the festival headquarters and various events on Saturday and Sunday, Jan. 26-27, located at the Masonic Family Center, 1110 W. East Ave. in Chico. Bring the entire family and enjoy exhibits and a variety of free activities including free junior naturalist activities, All about Bats, special film showing on Sandhill Cranes, and much, much more. Online registration is now open for all events including field trips, workshops and the Gathering of Wings Banquet. This year's banquet will feature a keynote address from "Chico's Own" Roger Lederer and Carol Burr, who will present "The Amazing in the Familiar: Surprising Facts About Common Birds." Event fees range from $5 to $45. For more information or to register online visit www.snowgoosefestival.org or call the Snow Goose Festival office at 345-1865. College offers free English classes for non-native speakers Free English as a Second Language classes will be offered at Shasta College for those interested in learning the English language. These classes are offered in Anderson, Redding and Red Bluff locations. Citizenship classes are also offered in Redding and Red Bluff. Classes begin on Jan. 15. For more information, please contact Idalia Huckman-Crye at 2427711 or e-mail: ihuckman@shastacollege.edu. lead to infertility still be present DEAR DOCafter the sympTOR K: I have toms disappear. pelvic inflammaStopping treattory disease, and ment early may I'm worried this leave you with an could affect my ongoing infection. fertility. You may not have DEAR READsymptoms, but the ER: You're right to be concerned. Dr. K continuing infection can damage Pelvic inflammaby Anthony L. tory disease (PID) Komaroff, M.D. your tissues. If your infecis the most common preventable cause of tion is more severe, you infertility in the United may need to be hospitalStates. The more often a ized and given antibiotics woman gets PID, the intravenously. You can greater her risk of becom- relieve pain and discomfort with pain medication, ing infertile. Most cases of PID hot baths and heating develop from sexually pads. If the infection caustransmitted diseases es an abscess, or collec(STDs), usually gonor- tion of pus, you may need rhea or chlamydia. These surgery. PID can cause infertilitwo different kinds of bacteria can be passed by a ty by producing scarring man to a woman during that damages or blocks the sex. First, they infect the fallopian tubes. If an egg cervix, the part of the released by the ovary uterus that extends into can't pass through the falthe vagina. From there, lopian tubes, it can't get to they can move through the the uterus to be fertilized. How can you prevent opening of the cervix into the uterus. Then they can future attacks of PID and enter the fallopian tubes, the infertility that it can which carry an egg that potentially cause? If you has been released by the are in a relationship with ovary into the uterus. The one uninfected partner, bacteria can work their you are unlikely to be way up the tubes to the reinfected. If it's not clear ovary. (I've put an illustra- whether your sexual parttion of this on my website, ner or partners are free of these infections, always AskDoctorK.com.) PID is insidious: Not use a condom during sexall women with PID have ual intercourse to prevent symptoms. This is particu- another episode of PID. larly true for infection And make sure your sexuwith chlamydia. Those al partners have been who do get symptoms treated for STDs. If you and your partner may experience: — pain in the pelvis want to have kids and you are having trouble getting and lower abdomen — vaginal discharge pregnant, see your gynecologist. You may need to with an unpleasant odor have special testing to see — fever and chills — nausea and if your tubes have been scarred by PID. If they vomiting — pain during sexual have, there are surgical procedures that may help. intercourse If you have symptoms Finally, in vitro fertilizathat might indicate PID, tion can be an answer for it's important to see a doc- infertility due to scarring tor right away. If the doc- from PID. tor diagnoses PID, you Dr. Komaroff is a should begin treatment physician and professor immediately. Harvard Medical PID is treated with at To send antibiotics. Most cases School. go to clear up after 10 to 14 questions, or days. Finish the entire AskDoctorK.com, course of antibiotics, even write: Ask Doctor K, 10 after your symptoms go Shattuck St., Second away, as the infection can Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Community Clip? e-mail: clerk@redbluffdailynews.com or Fax: 527-9251 Support our classrooms, keep kids reading. 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