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6B Daily News ��� Friday, December 14, 2012 FEATURES Beau���s ties to family strain relationship loves me. What should I do? Dear Annie: I���m a 54��� From a Boardinghouse year-old single woman and Dear Boarding: When a part-time college profesJoe found his own apartsor. I have three grown, ment, it was a step in the successful children. At the right direction. But whenevtime I met my boyfriend, er the chips are down, he ������Joe,������ I was living in a nice goes right back to his family. boardinghouse in an affluThis is not unusual, but if it���s ent area. Joe, 63, was divorced and for five years Annie���s a long-term pattern, it could prevent him from making had been living with two of any commitment to you. his sisters in the old family home in a working-class by Kathy Mitchell Until Joe is ready to become neighborhood. Joe had a and Marcy Sugar independent, the two of you don���t have much of a future. great job as a contractor. After a year, my friends and I But you also seem overly focused on finally convinced Joe to move out of affluent vs. working class. If you the family house, and we got an want someone more ambitious, look apartment together. Life was great elsewhere. Dear Annie: Would you please until I found out he was giving the rent money to his youngest son, 24. settle an etiquette question? When My income alone wouldn���t cover one hosts a party and guests bring a the rent, and we were evicted. Joe dish to share, do they take home moved back to the family nest. I was whatever is left over, or do the hosts get to keep it? not invited and was left homeless. I was taught that what one brings After six months, I got back on my feet. Joe wanted to repair our to a party is left with the hosts. Now relationship and got an apartment in we wonder whether this is correct, the city. Meanwhile, his eldest son because we recently moved, and all and his daughter (along with her of our new friends pack up whatevbaby) moved into the family house, er remains and take it home with although they both have good jobs. them. ��� Wondering in Maine Dear Maine: If all the guests are After a year in his apartment, Joe lost his job and moved back in with asked to bring a dish because the dinner is potluck, they may take his sisters. I begged him to find a place their leftovers home. Guests who where we could live together, but he bring a dish or a bottle of wine as a made excuses about the money. I hostess gift, shared or not, should think the problem is that the familial definitely leave it. The only excepneed to live together is permanently tion is when the hosts do not want instilled. I love him, and he says he the leftovers and ask that people Mailbox please take food home with them. That said, however, if the custom within your group of friends is that everyone brings a dish and they each take their leftovers home, it���s best to cooperate. Dear Annie: This letter is in response to ������Grateful Mama of Little One,������ who wanted to know the proper way to ask that no toys be given at her 1-year-old���s birthday party. Although I agree that birthday invitations should not come with ������wish lists,������ saying ������no toys, please������ is a courtesy. As someone who spends a great deal of time selecting the perfect gift, I would feel miffed if I discovered the child���s mother had marched the gift right back to the store. There is no harm in putting ������no toys������ on the invitation. Everyone may be grateful. ��� Grand Island, Neb. Dear Grand: A gift is just that and should not be dictated. But we do like the idea of parents creating a ������theme party,������ where guests are asked to bring a book or another item to be donated. Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Central Valley Project meeting moves SACRAMENTO ��� The Bureau of Reclamation and the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service have rescheduled their public meeting to present the Central Valley Project Improvement Act Annual Work Plans for Fiscal Year 2013 (Oct. 1, 2012 to Sept. 30, 2013). The meeting, which had been set for Thursday, Dec. 6, in Sacramento, was postponed due to a scheduling conflict and has now been set for 1-4 p.m. Jan. 17, 2013 at the Red Lion Hotel Woodlake Conference Center 500 Leisure Lane, Sacramento. At the meeting, presentations will be made on CVPIA fisheries revisioning; Anadromous Fish Screen Program; Anadromous Fish Restoration Program; Clear Creek Restoration Program; Comprehensive Assessment and Monitoring and Refuge Water Supply, Conveyance, and Construction Program. The CVPIA Annual Work Plans for FY 2013 will be available in hard copy at the meeting and online after January 2013 a t : http://www.usbr.gov/mp/c vpia/docs_reports/index.h tml. Under the heading, ���Draft CVPIA Annual Work Plans,��� please click on ���FY 2013.��� For additional information please contact Cesar Blanco, USFWS, CVPIA Implementation Division, at 916-9786190 or email cesar blanco@fws.gov; or Richard Woodley, Reclamation, Division of Resources Management, at 916978-5201 or email rwoodley@usbr.gov. Blood drive scheduled for Wednesday in RB Red Bluff Community blood drive will join in BloodSource's month-long Season of Giving on Wednesday, Dec. 19. Red Bluff Emblem club will sponsor the drive at the Veterans' Memorial building, Oak and Jackson streets, with registration from 2 to 6 p.m. No appointment is necessary. Participants will receive a festive holiday T-shirt showing Drippy, the BloodSource mascot, strolling through a winter background. They will also receive their BloodSource Rewards to redeem online. Basic requirements for donors include general good health, minimum weight of 110 pounds, and minimum age of 17 or 16 with parental consent. Participants are encouraged to eat and drink plenty of fluids before their donation. BloodSource, which has been not-for-profit since 1948, encourages "Making Spirits Bright-Give Blood". Red Bluff Emblem club volunteers supplement professional staff from BloodSource. London Olympic Team USA medal winner to Sacramento The public will have a chance to see an Olympic medal from the 2012 London Games is coming to Sacramento on Feb. 2. The Sacramento Invitational TKD Championships is bringing a world class Olympic medal winner from Team USA to partici- pate in showcasing the world���s most taught martial art. This Olympic Medalist joins hundreds of black belt martial artists eager to fight in the Sacramento Invite! Hundreds of trophies are up for grabs in the sparring circles of the 11th Annual Taekwondo martial arts competition. Thousands of people will come to participate and enjoy this annual competition being held at the Sacramento Memorial Auditorium for the first time. Tickets will be available in advance thru the Convention Center Box Office and at the door of Memorial Auditorium Saturday, Feb. 2. Community Clip? e-mail: clerk@redbluffdailynews.com or Fax: 527-9251 Ask the right questions before a clinical trial ��� Why is the DEAR DOCstudy being done? TOR K: I have ��� Have other prostate disease studies evaluated and treatment hasthis drug or procen���t worked. My dure? 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Clinical trials currently Some people don���t like the fact that they might enrolling patients are listtake a placebo. Here���s ed online at www.clinicalwhat I tell my patients trials.gov. Readers may be who feel this way: If the surprised to learn how new treatment being test- many trials are going on in ed turns out to be effec- their community that tive, you���ll ultimately ben- could help with a condiefit ��� and you���ll have tion they have. helped many others. On Dr. Komaroff is a the other hand, if the new physician and professor treatment turns out to be Harvard Medical ineffective, and maybe at To send also to have bad side School. go to effects, you���ll have been questions, AskDoctorK.com, or lucky. Before you make your write: Ask Doctor K, 10 decision, ask these ques- Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. tions: Utility pays $157M in property taxes Pacific Gas and Electric Co. (PG&E) announced Tuesday it is making property tax payments totaling over $157 million to the 49 counties in which it operates. This amount, being paid this week, is the first of two annual installments and represents full and timely payment of property taxes due for the period BUSINESS OPERATORS! 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This includes upgrades to improve electric and gas safety, reliability and capacity, as well as energy-generating-station development. In Tehama County, property taxes were paid in the amount of $960,738, which is up $63,838 from a year ago. Property taxes paid to the remaining North Valley counties include Butte, $2,878,157, which is up $210,415 from a year ago; Glenn, $567,044, up $42,980; Plumas, $1,876,985, up $65,865; Shasta, $4,099,255, up $213,277; Siskiyou, $110,015, up $7,697; and Trinity, $95,303, up $6,877.