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Thursday, December 13, 2012 ��� Daily News 3B FEATURES Overweight wife becoming a burden one of the children taking Dear Annie: I have been Mom in. You, however, are married to ������Nancy������ for 51 stressed over this and having years. The day of our weda rough time. Please talk to ding, I was 167 pounds with your doctor about it. a full head of hair. Now I Dear Annie: My motheram 181 pounds and bald. in-law is not a true hoarder, Nancy was always a Rubens but she���s definitely a packtype, which was fine with rat. Her house has drawers, me. After giving birth to our first child, she lost more Annie���s cabinets and boxes filled with unfinished craft pieces, than 20 pounds, and even papers so old you can���t read her father was impressed. However, two more chil- by Kathy Mitchell the faded print, moldy magdren followed, and her and Marcy Sugar azines, dried paint, cracked pottery, broken candy dishes weight went up to what it and junk tucked into nooks and was before. Now, at age 75, she is obese. She crannies so deep no one has seen the has trouble with her ankles and can contents in years. She is the only one who knows barely move. She refuses to use a cane or a walker. We constantly where anything important might be argue. She is beginning to look ugly ������filed.������ She is widowed and retired to me. I want to leave, but I can���t and has the time and the physical ability to go through this stuff. Her because she cannot live alone. I am depressed. If I die before two children help with yard work she does, she will be on her own and home improvement, but they because our children work, are don���t have time to pick through her struggling financially and have their collections. My mother-in-law is not own kids to raise. They have spoken to their mother about the possibility depressed. She���s just lazy and has of a retirement home, and she says, poor organizational skills. She ������Absolutely not.������ What can I do? spends too much time watching TV and emailing. I am hoping she ��� West Valley Dear West: Some of this is not might recognize herself in your within your control ��� your wife���s column. How can I convince her to weight and what happens after you de-clutter before it���s too late? ��� die. It is selfish of her to put this Don���t Want To Pick Through the type of burden on her children, so Weeds Dear Don���t: If Mom has poor you might want to discuss it directly with them, making contingency organizational skills, the idea of plans in case she should outlive you. going through her vast collection There are alternatives to retirement of miscellany is both overwhelmhomes, including in-home care or ing and paralyzing. She needs Mailbox someone to assist her, one drawer at a time, perhaps once a week, to make it manageable. You could offer to do this or suggest it to another family member. Or hire a professional organizer. And it���s possible that Mom���s church or other community organization has volunteers who might help out. Dear Annie: This is for ������Devastated Daughter,������ whose father died suddenly. Now she is conflicted about going away to college, because she worries about leaving her mother alone. I agree with your advice that she should go as planned. Here���s my message to her: Dear Daughter: Your concern for your mother is a beautiful testament to your relationship. She is concerned for you, too. The best gift you could give her is to follow your dreams, live according to the values you have learned from a loving family and succeed as an independent young woman. Yes, she may occasionally break down. But she will go on, and it will be much easier if she knows you are OK. ��� Thinking of You in the South Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Court Round-Up The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney���s Office: ������������������ Recent State Prison Commitments ��� Augustine Reyes Morga was sentenced to 24 years in state prison for two counts of sexual penetration by force with a victim under the age of fourteen. Morga sexually molested the victim on two separate occasions. During both incidents Morga threatened the victim if she told anyone. ��� Cody James Woolbert was sentenced to 10 years in state prison for sexual penetration by foreign object, unconscious, oral copulation with a person under the age of fourteen and ten years younger. After an investigation was conducted deputies determined Woolbert sexually molested a six year old victim ��� Melanie Lynn Wold was sentenced to two years and eight months in state prison for failure to appear on own recognizance; sale of a controlled substance. Wold was released from custody on her own recognizance and failed to appear in court as ordered. She was originally granted formal probation. Wold violated her probation when she failed to contact probation, failed to complete her community service and moved out of the area without permission. ��� Shane Allen Holtzclaw was sentenced to two years and eight months in state prison for evading an officer, willful disregard, receiving stolen property, motor vehicle. Several officers had got into a pursuit with Holtzclaw who was driving a stolen motorcycle. Holtzclaw continued to drive recklessly at a high rate of speed until he eventually came to a stop after running out of gas. Holtzclaw was arrested and taken into custody. ��� Heath John Chaffin, was sentenced to two years and eight months in state prison for failure to appear while on bail; possession of a controlled aubstance. Chaffin was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to contact probation as required. Chaffin was arrested on an outstanding warrant and found in possession of methamphetamine. ��� Sherman Anthony Hatfield was sentenced to two years in state prison for possession of marijuana for sale. An undercover agent located an advertisement on Craigslist offering extra medicinal marijuana. Hatfield and the agent agreed upon a pound of marijuana for $2,500. When Hatfield arrived at the arranged meeting location he was arrested and taken into custody. ��� Joshua Ryan Dachtler was sentenced to five years in state prison for first degree burglary-person present with special allegation-prior felony. Dachtler broke into victim���s home while the victim was asleep and stole cash, credit cards and other items before fleeing the scene. ��� Jeffery Jack Sargent was sentenced to three years in state prison for criminal threats. Sargent went to the victims home with a knife and threatened to kill them. Sargent proceeded to get on a back-hoe and threatened to run over one of the victims who was standing in the driveway. The victim fired warning shots in the air with his pistol at which point Sargent backed away and left the scene. ��� Randall Dean Crow was sentenced to two years in state prison for second degree burglary of vehicle. Crow was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to report to the probation office as directed. ��� Thomas Victor Williams was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for vehicular manslaughter without gross negligence. Williams was driving a vehicle while under the influence of alcohol when he lost control and the vehicle overturned. One of the passengers in the vehicle received minor injuries while the other passenger was pronounced dead at the scene. Recent County Jail Commitments ��� Roberto Junior Diaz was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for unlawful sexual intercourse; second degree commercial burglary. Diaz was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation based upon his offense in NCR84095, in which Diaz and his companions entered a convenience store on three separate occasions and stole items. ��� Tanner Jack Walden was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree commercial burglary. Walden entered a store and attempted to leave without paying for the items in his possession. ��� Neil John Korodi was sentenced to 60 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of ammunition. Officers conducted a probation search at Korodi���s residence and located ammunition. ��� Kayla Marie Farrell was sentenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree commercial burglary. Farrell and a companion were caught on a store surveillance video purchasing items with counterfeit money. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments Note: All cases wherein a defendant is sentenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attorney���s Office. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, a defendant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on probation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. In the event the defendant violates a non-drug related term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney���s Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in certain, specific, cases a defendant should be sentenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defendant has an extensive criminal record and/or a history of noncompliance with either previous grants of probation or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. ��� Stephanie Marie Ables was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of a controlled substance. Ables was contacted by officers and arrested on an outstanding warrant. A small bag of methamphetamine was found in her possession. ��� Ronald Maurice Anderson was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of a controlled substance. A deputy contacted Anderson and a companion inside a vehicle. In plain view in the vehicle the officer observed a bottle of prescription pills with the name removed from the label. A search was conducted and the deputy located methamphetamine. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Preliminary Hearings(PX) and Pre Trial Conferences(PTC): ��� Gary Dean Belcher will appear in court at 1:15 p.m. on Monday, Dec. 17, in Department 2. He is facing the charges of second degree robbery with special allegationpersonal use of a firearm, second degree robbery with special allegationpersonal use of a firearm, attempted second degree robbery with special allegation-personal use of a firearm. Belcher entered Bank of America in Corning and demanded money from the teller at gunpoint. The teller filled Belcher���s bag with the money she had in her drawer. Belcher then fled the scene before officers arrived. During the course of this investigation officers learned Belcher was also responsible for the pervious robberies that occurred at the Subway restaurant in Corning and the attempted robbery at the Chevron gas station near Rolling Hills Casino. ��� Clifford Manuel Palmer will appear in court at 10 a.m. on Jan. 17 in Dept. 1 for a pretrial conference and at 1:30 p.m. on Jan. 8 in Dept. 1 for a preliminary hearing. Heis facing the charge of voluntary manslaughter. Palmer and victim began arguing over who was going to bring firewood into the house. Palmer became angry and hit the victim over the head with his breathing machine and punched him in the face. Victim fell to the floor and stopped breathing. The victim was unable to be revived and died as a result of the incident. Best ways to control resistant hypertension short-acting medDEAR DOCications. TOR K: I���ve made ��� Beware lifestyle changes other pills and and take three potions. 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In 2011, nearly 300 Christmas tree and holiday decoration fires were reported to the CalFire Office of the State Fire Marshal. ���In just seconds, a dry Christmas tree can become fully engulfed in flames,��� said State Fire Marshal Tonya Hoover. ���By practicing a little extra fire safety this holiday season, you can help reduce the number of holiday decoration-related fire tragedies.��� CalFire offers these safety tips to ensure a safe and happy holiday season: Christmas Trees When selecting your live Christmas tree, choose a fresh one with green needles. Before placing the tree in the stand, cut two inches from the base of the trunk for better water absorption. Check the water level in the tree stand every day. Keep both live and artificial trees at least 3 feet away from any heat source including fireplaces and heating vents. Decorate Christmas trees with lights that have been tested and labeled by a recognized testing lab. Never use lit candles to decorate any tree. Unplug Christmas tree lights when leaving home or going to bed. Holiday Decorations Choose decorations that are flame resistant or flame retardant. Use indoor lights indoors and outdoor lights outdoors. Replace any light strings that are worn or have broken cords or have loose bulb connections. Use clips, not nails, to hang lights so the cords do not get damaged. Keep your exits clear by keeping decorations away from windows and doors. For more holiday safety tips, please visit the CalFire website at www.fire.ca.gov.