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Friday, April 30, 2010 – Daily News – 5A Girl saw Mommy kissing man Liver spots unrelated to liver activity Dear Annie: Three years ago, our 7-year-old grand- daughter saw her mother kissing another man and told her father (our son). My question is: Was she right to tell him, or should she have spoken to her mother first? This grand- Annie’s Mailbox daughter’s actions created a situation in her family that no child should have to endure. She still feels guilty about exposing her mother’s affair. When she told our son, he did not react appropriately and lashed out at the child, as well as his wife. The fam- ily is still together, but my granddaughter suffers from stress and anxiety whenever our son reacts to the situa- tion, which he still does on occasion. So, Annie, what would have been the best thing for this child to do when she caught her mother cheating? — Concerned Grandparent Dear Grandparent: There is no ‘‘right’’ answer. The child was too young to do anything other than what she did, and your son was too blindsided to react in a way that would have been less damaging. However, since Dad is still unable to by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar control himself in front of his daugh- ter and she is suf- fering, please urge the entire family to get into counseling. He should ask the pediatrician for a referral to someone who can specifical- ly help his child. It’s long past time. Dear Annie: I recently began working with my cousin. He runs a small music studio and is training me to do the work. This is truly what I want to do with my life. The problem is, he does- n’t tell me whether or not he’s going to work on any given day. I’m left dressed and ready with no place to go. He also says he has no reason to go to work some days because he’ll have nothing to do — not think- ing that maybe I would like to train during his down- time. I don’t know whether he treats me this way because he doesn’t take me seriously or because we’re related and he doesn’t feel the need to treat me like the rest of his employees. How do I tell him I feel mistreated? — B.B. Dear B.B.: Your cousin may treat you this way Dr. Andrew PomazalD.O. Physician & Surgeon General Medicine Saturday Appointments Available • High Blood Pressure • Diabetes • Joint & Muscle Pain • Lung Problems We offer Osteopathic Manipulation 530 528-2066 2050 Main St, Red Bluff Accepting New Patients because it’s the nature of the job. Instead of talking about mistreatment, discuss your job training, hours and obligations. Ask him how many hours per week he expects you to be at work and if he will please let you know ahead of time when he doesn’t plan to go in. Ask if he wants you to be at work whether he’s there or not. See if you can get him to commit to a basic sched- ule. Tell him you’d appreci- ate as many hours of train- ing as he can spare, since you value his expertise and want to learn from the best. Dear Annie: This is in response to ‘‘Kentucky,’’ who didn’t know what to do with her mother’s custom- made vintage wedding dress that she also wore. She assumed no future daughter- in-law would want it since her marriage ended in divorce. FEATURES DEAR DR. GOTT: Some time ago, I began noticing dark discol- orations on my face. The condi- tion was diagnosed as hyperpig- mentation. Three dermatologists offered varying suggestions. One said to use facial products con- taining hydroquinone. One sug- gested chemical peels. The third indicated nothing will diminish the pigment. I’ve tried many facial products with no improvement. And, at age 70, I do not wish to try invasive treatments such as chemical peels. I have not found makeup or a concealer that provides good cover. Dr. Peter Gott Is there a product you would recom- mend, or should I just learn to live with these discolorations? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. May I suggest that she donate it to the local area museum or historical soci- ety in her mother’s memo- ry? I am on our local muse- um board, and we have some beautiful old wedding dresses. If ‘‘Kentucky’’ doesn’t want to donate it outright, she could give it to the museum on loan. This way, she can take her grand- children there and show them the dress. DEAR READER: As we age, it is common to see darkened spots on the face, backs of our hands and in other areas of the body exposed to sunlight. They are known as age spots or liver spots. The spots vary in size and are brown or black in appearance. They can range in size from that of a freckle to the size of a dime. As a general rule, they are harmless and do not require any medical care. Ultraviolet light increases the produc- tion of melanin, the pigment that gives skin its normal color. The production of additional melanin causes the darker color to appear. This generally develops over time — whether exposed to the sun’s rays or not. Corning Calif. Largest Selection In Tri-County • Herbal Medicines • Edibles (Foods) • Clones 1317 Solano St. (530) 824-4811 www.tehamaherbalcollective.vpweb.com PAID POLITICAL ADVERTISEMENT FOR JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT OFFICE TWO, 2010 William Murphy Experience and Temperament Count Paid for by the committee to elect William Murphy WilliamMurphy4Judge.com 30 years experience as an attorney including 23 years as a public servant has given Will Murphy the judicial perspective that long and diverse experience brings. 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There are creams available by prescription to bleach the spots; cryotherapy, which applies a freezing agent to the spot to destroy the pigment; dermabrasion, which sands down the area with a rotating brush; laser therapy, which destroys melanocytes that created the darker pigmented area; or chemical peel that involves the application of an acid that burns off the outer layer of the skin. Over-the-counter remedies include topical creams or lotions containing hydroquinone, glycol- ic or kojic acid, or deoxyarbutin. If you choose this route, speak with your pharmacist if you have any questions about which prod- uct is best. Keep in mind that pro- longed use can result in skin irri- tation. Readers who wish to avoid liver spots should take precautions when going out in sunlight by wearing protective clothing and appropriate sunblock. For example, a broad-brimmed hat should prevent direct exposure to the face. If there is any question of new lesions that appear on the skin or if any spot dark- ens, enlarges or changes, be sure to make an appointment with a general practition- er or dermatologist for clarification. DEAR DR. GOTT: A friend of mine cut his thumb on a piece of glass, and it bled profusely. His daughter took a piece of white bread and held it on the cut. The blood clotted and stopped the bleeding. Can you comment on this? How did the bread work, and would you recommend this as a remedy for a deep cut? DEAR READER: I can’t say I would recommend it for a deep cut because I have never heard of such a process. Read- ers do write in about all sorts of home remedies, but this one is truly a new one to me. Bread contains sodium, calcium, niacin, iron, B vitamins, folic acid, soy flour, wheat gluten and a host of other nutritious ingredients. One or a combina- tion of ingredients might have clotting capabilities, or direct pressure from the bread on the wound was effective. In any event, all is well that ends well. Thank you for writing. C M R O J T A V L E E C I