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Thursday, December 6, 2012 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Ex is turning stepdaughter against me Draining blood can but I worry it is going to Dear Annie: My cause Christie to resent incredible husband of two me. years has a 4-year-old How can we handle daughter with his exthis? — Stepmom in the wife. I have actively Middle helped raise ''Christie'' Dear Stepmom: Many since she was barely a courts now recognize year. parental alienation. SugWe haven't communicated with the mother Annie's gest that your husband speak to his lawyer about since the time we took her this possibility. to court for refusing visiIn the meantime, when tation, but my husband by Kathy Mitchell and I have always provid- and Marcy Sugar Christie is with you, do your best to counter the ed for Christie in every way possible, above and beyond negative brainwashing. Let her know how much you the court-ordered child support. This little girl loves me. I have love her and always will; that a never tried to replace her mother, new baby means she will be more encouraged or expected her to important than ever, and the new call me ''Mom,'' or even so much baby will need a big sister; that as talked badly about her mother everyone in the household has chores to do, and you want her to in front of her. But lately, Christie has been learn to be a big girl. As she gets older, she will recquestioning my relationship with her father, saying the reason her ognize her mother's bitterness, so mommy and daddy are not please don't play into that drama. Dear Annie: I am a recent together is because of me. When I ask her to do something she does- widow in my mid-70s. I decided n't want to do, she says her after the death of my husband a mommy says she doesn't have to couple of years ago that I would listen to me because I am not her live out my life alone. I don't have much of a social mother. Even worse, she's been told that when my husband and I life, but I do attend church serhave a baby of our own, Daddy vices regularly. I find myself sitwon't love her as much as the ting next to a man who once spoke to me after the service. new baby. Christie is obviously too After several weeks, I could tell young to draw these conclusions he seemed interested in me. After on her own, so Mom is giving her a few conversations, I realized I these impressions or telling her am 10 years older than he is. He seems like a kind and polite these things outright. I don't know why any mother would man, and his wife has been dead want to hurt her child this way, for many years. I am flattered by Mailbox his attention and shocked at this chain of events. I would appreciate your input on the age difference. I am basically a happy, healthy woman, but this is a situation I could take or leave. So if you tell me to come to my senses, I will say ''Goodbye, Columbus.'' — California Dear California: The age difference is irrelevant as long as you don't mislead him about it. If you enjoy his company, we say go for it. There is nothing wrong with a companionable friendship, and if either of you is looking for something more, just be sure you are both comfortable with it. Dear Annie: You printed several responses to ''Looking for a Relationship, Too'' and included one from ''El Paso, Texas,'' who suggested that women take up shooting because ''guys like a gal with good aim.'' I laughed, thinking of a song from the Broadway musical ''Annie Get Your Gun,'' which was titled, ''You Can't Get a Man with a Gun.'' Thanks for a good chuckle. — Musical Lover Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. 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