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Thursday, November 29, 2012 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Husband still suspicious following affair Physical therapy is a devices have codes, and she Dear Annie: A few refuses to let me see anymonths ago, I discovered thing. that my wife was having an Am I being played for a affair with her boss. She fool? I've been in therapy works for a small company and will continue. While it's that requires long hours helping me deal with my and some traveling. feelings and moods, the When I confronted her, therapist can't tell me she didn't deny it. When I asked her why, she said it Annie's whether or not to stay with my wife. What do you was all the long hours, think? — Need Some Help, traveling and a little drinking that made it happen. by Kathy Mitchell Please Dear Need: Ideally, your She took full responsibility. and Marcy Sugar wife would quit her job or at She claims she doesn't love him, it was a mistake and it will least refuse to travel with this man. But if the job is a necessity, she never happen again. I confronted her boss, who is needs to be completely transparent also married with grown kids and in all dealings with her boss. You grandchildren. He, too, said it was a should be able to look at her text mistake and that in his 30 years in messages and emails and even lisbusiness, nothing like that had ever ten to her phone conversations. If happened before. He said he loves she insists on keeping things from his wife and family and feels terri- you, it means she has something to ble, and acknowledged that sleep- hide. Sorry. Dear Annie: I am asexual, ing with an employee is unethical and immoral. He insisted he would which means I am not interested in do everything he could to rebuild sex and am not sexually attracted to men or women. my trust. I am tired of having to explain I chose to forgive both of them, but for months now I have not been myself to everyone, tired of people able to enjoy my life. My wife con- judging me and tired of defending tinues to work for this company, myself. Why does everyone feel the and all the conditions that existed need to tell me it's ''just a phase,'' before are still there. My wife does- or that I am ''only trying to be difn't understand why I am so suspi- ferent''? I am 22, and I know who I cious or why I don't want her to am. Why can't people accept me? travel with him. They both reassure — Tired in Maine Dear Tired: You really aren't me that nothing is going on, but it's hard to believe. They are constantly required to discuss your sexual on the phone, sending emails or preferences or feelings with anytexting. She insists it is all work one. These things are personal and related, but all of her electronic don't require justification. Please Mailbox contact the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network at asexuality.org for support and assistance. Dear Annie: May I say a few things to ''Unhappy Grandmother,'' whose son died two months ago and her daughter-in-law is already dating? The loss of a child is very different from that of a spouse. Many people get involved in relationships right away, and some remarry within a year. For some widows and widowers, it is a need not to be alone. Others marry again because they want to recapture the happiness they felt. Some might remarry because a child has so much grief that they want to fill that space and help the child heal. I lost my husband when our son was 3 years old and started dating six months later. Please don't allow your grief to get in the way of your daughter-in-law's happiness or ruin your relationship with her. She means no disrespect to your son. Her love for him will always be there. Consider it an honor that she is trying to find someone as special as he was. — Been Down that Road Myself Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Utility offers tips to prepare for power outages In preparation for adverse weather this week, PG&E is providing the following safety tips. Stormy weather throughout the North State will bring gusty winds starting Wednesday and continuing throughout the week. 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This would confirm if an outage has occurred in just your residence or within the neighborhood area. • If only your residence is without power, check circuit breakers and/or fuse boxes to see if the problem is limited to the home electric system. • After performing the steps above, single or neighborhood outages can be reported to: PG&E's 24-Hour Emergency and Customer Service Line: 1800-743-5002 • Once your outage has been reported, you can call PG&E's Outage Information Line at 1-800-7435002 to get a status report on your outage and the anticipated time your power will be turned back on. • If you lose power overnight, you can call PG&E to request a wakeup call. We'll be happy to give you a wake-up call, as well as up-to-date information on your outage and time of restoration. torn ACL solution two or three DEAR DOCmonths. That's TOR K: I tore my compared with ACL. Is surgery about six months inevitable? for surgery DEAR READpatients. 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