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FEATURES He slept on my couch a couple of nights because he stayed late with the kids when I was out. But now he is coming every day and staying over every night. We often end up sleeping together. I told him to stop coming around with the expectation that we are get- ting back together, because we are not. But he refuses to listen, and now he has asked me to marry him again. He won't take ''no'' for an answer. What should I do? — Think I've Been Too Nice Dear Think: For starters, stop sleeping with him. By allowing him to spend the night in your bed, you are leading him on, encouraging him to believe there is hope. If you are serious about keeping him as an ex-husband, you must put an end to the couch sleepovers. When you return home, insist that he leave the premises. If you don't have the backbone for that, drop the kids at his place instead of letting him come to yours. Or hire a babysitter. You are creating this problem. You my ex-husband for 18 years before I divorced him. We have three children, and he hasn't been the best father or husband. Lately, howev- er, he has been nice and comes around to visit the kids. I appreciate the fact that he is doing this, but he is now saying things to me that make me uncomfort- able. Dear Annie: I was with can stop it. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar place, but don't want to cause a rift with my friends. — Annoyed Dear Annoyed: Does she do this with everyone, or only you? If it's just you, it could be that you take a long time to get to the point, or you monopolize conversations more than you realize. However, if she does it to everyone, you can say, ''I'm sure you have something to add, but I'd appreciate it if you would let me finish first.'' Many people who interrupt do not realize they are doing it and need to be reminded, nicely, when they over- step. My son and his fiance also set up a website for guests to con- tribute to certain categories of their honeymoon expenses. They did from ''Bring Back Wedding Eti- quette,'' who thought it was tacky that the bridal couple requested that guests contribute to their hon- eymoon. Dear Annie: I read the letter Dear Annie: How do you handle someone who con- stantly interrupts? She always knows more about the story and makes me feel inadequate. She's loud, abra- sive and obnoxious. We had a good group of friends, and this person ingratiated herself into our clique. Only one of the other women likes her, but it's enough to keep her around. I'd love to put her in her Tuesday, October 30, 2012 – Daily News 5A How to discourage ex-hubby's advances? this because they reside in a for- eign country, but the wedding cere- mony is in the U.S. They cannot carry gifts back with them, nor do they have a place here to store them. They are making the sugges- tion that if people want to give them a wedding gift, they can donate online. they came up with the fund in order to be helpful. It is in no way meant to coerce anyone into paying for their honeymoon. People should consider the circumstances of the couple involved before they criti- cize. — Proud Mom of a Consider- ate Couple Dear Proud: Couples who live It may seem tacky to some, but overseas, particularly those sta- tioned in the military, are given dispensation to request monetary gifts because otherwise it becomes complicated, if not downright impossible, to give presents. How- ever, honeymoon websites are deliberately specific categories, and when those are the only options available, it seems like pressure even if that is not the intent. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Foundation awards $683,000 for health Sierra Health Founda- tion has awarded 34 grants totaling more than $683,868 in this year's second funding round of the Responsive Grants Program. ern California funding region. Among the organiza- tions receiving a portion of the money is Califor- nia Youth Connections, which serves Tehama, Glenn, Sutter and Yuba counties assisting with adoption services. Funding commitments bring the 2012 year total to $1,209,900. The grants of up to $25,000 each will support pro- grams that improve health and well-being in 19 of the 26 counties in the foundation's North- will offer a broad range of activities to help build strong, healthy families and improve health out- comes for vulnerable populations. Funded pro- grams will serve seniors, low-income individuals, foster youth and children whose parents are in cri- sis. Selected programs will also address deter- minants of health by improving access to nutrition education and healthy food, increasing opportunities for physi- cal activity, improving job readiness and reduc- ing bullying. "We are inspired by SACRAMENTO – In February, the Bureau of Reclamation released the Draft Feasibility Report docu- menting draft findings of the poten- tial costs, benefits and impacts of enlarging Shasta Dam and Reser- voir. Reclamation has been study- ing the feasibility of alternative dam and reservoir sizes and water opera- tions, in addition to a No Action alternative. Selected organizations the ingenuity of our com- munity partners who continue to be creative and steadfast in their commitment to serve their communities despite ongoing reduc- tions in program admin- istration and direct ser- vice funding," said Sierra Health Foundation Presi- dent and CEO Chet Hewitt. "Sierra Health Foundation is proud to do all it can to support their efforts to make innovative and proven ideas a reality." awarded in this funding round, 35 percent is directed to programs serving rural areas of the region. Since launching sidered as we complete the remain- ing engineering, environmental, economic and financial studies and related reports. Of the $683,868 the Responsive Grants Program in 2008, the foundation has awarded 226 grants totaling $5.4 million in support. Final grantee selection is based on the Respon- sive Grants Program selection criteria, quality of the applications, diversity in types of pro- grams and populations served, and geographic representation across the funding region, with a minimum of 30 percent set aside for projects serving rural areas. More information about Sierra Health Foundation and the Responsive Grants Pro- gram can be found at www.sierrahealth.org. Comments sought on Shasta water investigation The Draft Feasibility Report is Reclamation has received com- ments since the Draft Feasibility Report was released in February and is now requesting any addition- al written comments from all inter- ested individuals, agencies and organizations by Friday, Dec. 28. All comments received will be con- Reclamation is also preparing a formal Draft Environmental Impact Statement and will estab- lish a separate formal public review and comment opportunity once that document is distributed to the public. A decision to raise the dam and enlarge the reservoir requires complex and intricate analyses. As the decision-making process continues, Reclamation will address public and agency concerns and comply with all applicable federal, state, and local law and policy. Arthroscopy makes surgery quick, easy TOR K: I'm a life- long runner with severe knee pain. Can you tell me about knee arthroscopy? How do I know if I'm a good candidate for it? DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: Arthroscopy is a technique used to diagnose problems in the knees and other joints. If a problem requir- ing surgery is identified, arthroscopic surgery can be performed. To appreciate how Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. valuable arthroscopic surgery is, you have to understand what things were like back in the "old days" — as when I was in medical school. normal, day-to-day liv- ing during the first week. By the second week, you can return to work if your job is not physically taxing. By the third week, you can begin light exercise. Physical therapy is not usually needed. type of anesthesia used varies; it can be general (you go to sleep), regional (the leg is numbed) or local (just the knee area is numbed). Recovery from arthroscopic surgery is rela- tively quick. You should be back to If you had bad knee pain, the doctor might have been able to diag- nose the problem by phys- ical examination. If not, X-rays were not much help: They could spot bone problems, but most knee problems involve the "soft tissues" — tendons, ligaments, meniscuses. So the doctor might have needed to perform surgery to open up the knee joint, look around and surgically repair the problem. It took quite a while to recover from that surgery. Arthroscopy has made much knee surgery easier — for the doctor and the patient. The arthroscope is a flexible tube with a light at its tip and a cam- era that flashes images on a video monitor. The doc- tor needs to make only a small hole to insert the arthroscope and get a good view of the inside of the knee. If surgical repair is necessary, the doctor can perform the surgery by placing tiny surgical instruments inside the knee and watching the images on the video mon- itor. He or she can locate and remove torn cartilage, debris and loose material from the joint. The knee does not need to be opened up. available on Reclamation's website at www.usbr.gov/mp/slwri/index.html . Written comments can be submit- ted via email to BOR-MPR- SLWRI@usbr.gov or by mail to Katrina Chow, project manager, Bureau of Reclamation, 2800 Cot- tage Way, MP-720, Sacramento, CA 95825-1893. For questions, call Chow at 916- 978-5067 or fax a request to 916- 978-5094. For additional information about the Shasta Lake Water Resources Investigation, visit http://www.usbr.gov/mp/slwri/inde x.html. sity, Chico will host a spe- cial event paying tribute to veterans Saturday, Nov. 10, from 10 a.m. to noon at the Bell Memorial Union Auditorium on campus. "Honoring Our Veter- ans," which takes place the day before Veterans Day, is a free event and open to the public. All veterans—from students, faculty and staff on campus to alumni and RED BLUFF CSI, Chico hosts 'Honoring Our Veterans' event California State Univer- community members— will be honored for their service to our country. The event will feature a color guard comprised of veterans in the community, exhibits on veterans made by Chico State students, and refreshments. Patriotic music will be played by the Chico Community Band, under the direction of Ellen Pastorino. Among the guest DAILYNEWS TEHAMACOUNTY T H E V O I C E O F T E H A M A C O U N T Y S I N C E 1 8 8 5 Your "Local" Daily Newspaper Since 1885 To Subscribe Call Today! 527-2151 FAX 527-3719 545 DIAMOND AVE. RED BLUFF CA 96080 Website: redbluffdailynews.com DAILY NEWS — PO BOX 220 speakers will be President Paul Zingg and Major General USAF (ret.) Mary J. Kight, a 1973 alumna of Chico State. In addition, a new interpretive display telling the story of Vets' Village—a one-time cam- pus housing complex for returning GI's—will be shown and a tour of the Student Veteran Center will be offered. For more informa- surgery, you probably won't have to stay in the hospital overnight. The If you do have the Depending on the con- dition of your joint, you can expect mild to moder- ate improvement. The results may last several months or perhaps a few years. However, if you have severe osteoarthritis, arthroscopy is unlikely to help much. Most arthroscopies are performed on patients between 20 and 60 years of age. Good candidates are active people in their 30s and 40s who are start- ing to have knee pain resulting from decades of running, skiing, basketball or other sports. The majority of people who undergo arthroscopy — and who are most like- ly to benefit from it — include patients with knee pain caused by torn carti- lage or ligaments, and those with mechanical knee problems such as locking, catching or giv- ing out. We have more informa- tion on treatments for knee pain in our Special Health Report, "Knees and Hips." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Red Bluff Fire lifts burn ban Due to the reduced threat of wildfire, the burn ban within the city of Red Bluff has been lifted as of Oct. 23. Residential burning in Red Bluff is limited to small piles of leaves only in the cement portion of the gutter. An adult must be in attendance with tools to control the fire. Residents must call air pollution control at 527-3717 prior to burning to determine the burn day status for that day. For more information call Red Bluff Fire at 527- 1126. tion, go to www.csuchico.edu/125 and to RSVP, go to www.tinyurl.com/hon- oringourvets . Informa- tion is also available on a Facebook event page, which can be found by searching for Chico State Honoring Our Vet- erans. You can also call the Alumni and Parent Relations office at 530- 898-6472. 4-H Program Tehama County Enrolling new members for the upcoming year. Enrollment deadline is the November meeting of the club you are joining. 4-H is open to youth members ages 5-18. Wide variety of projects! More information is available: http://cetehama.ucanr.edu and 527-3101 TEHAMA ASSEMBLY OF GOD CHURCH 3rd and D Street, Tehama HARVEST FESTIVAL OCTOBER 31ST Come Join Us At The 5:30PM **FREE – FREE – FREE – FREE** HAYRIDES FOOD, GAMES, PRIZES AND LOTS OF CANDY KIDS LOVE TO CREATE THEIR OWN "SANDY CANDY" EDIBLE ART sweet and sour Mix & Match) (Choose from lots of different flavors – Tehama County Reading Council & Association of California School Administrators "HEROES for LITERACY!" Sip & Nibble: Thursday, November 8, 2012 4:30 - 6:30 pm Carlino's Event Center- Rolling Hills Casino Appetizers, Wine Sampling Silent Auction Featuring Themed "Book Baskets" Music $15-Non-Members $10-Members $40-Includes Membership in TCRC TICKETS AVAILABLE AT THE DOOR!!! Proceeds of This Event Go to Literacy Projects and Scholarships for Tehama County Children For Information Contact: Karla Stroman, TCRC President, 528-7381