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Thursday, October 25, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Mother-in-law doesn't like me few years ago, I met the most amazing man. ''Jim'' is the love of my life. I fell in love with his fam- ily, too. Dear Annie: A The problem is, after a year of mar- riage, I received a text message from my mother-in-law (Jim's stepmother) stating that his fami- ly has never wanted me around and they don't like me. I get along with Jim's siblings, all of whom live out of town, and they have assured me that they do not feel this way. Jim works away from home for weeks at a time. When he is away, I am not invited to family dinners and out- ings the way I am when he is here. Then, I feel unwelcome when they do include both of us. I have told Jim that I will no longer attend his family func- tions. But is this fair to him? Is there anything I can do to rectify the situa- tion? Should I ask Jim to speak to his father? I would hate to cut this good man out of my life. — Hurt in Penn- sylvania Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar you've married into. Even if Jim's step- mother is the only one who dislikes you, the others are following her direc- tives. Your husband should make it Dear Hurt: What a nasty bunch clear to all of them that you are his fam- ily now, and they should treat you with respect and consideration, or they risk losing both of you. Meanwhile, have you invited his siblings and parents to your home? Hospitality works both ways. Do your best to ingratiate your- self and see whether it helps before you throw in the towel. Dear Annie: My cousin's bat mitz- vah was held at a resort in the middle of nowhere. Getting there would have involved a long train ride, plus the hotel costs, and I would have had to share a room with my parents (I'm 35). I politely declined. My aunt and uncle are well off, and I only work part time. I prefer to save my money. Recently, I received an invitation to their daughter's wedding. This would mean a tremendous amount of money on my part, plus I'd have to take off from work. So I RSVP'd that I couldn't come. Now my aunt thinks I'm being unreasonable. She says I'm alienating my family. I say my aunt and uncle aren't being fair to their guests. Should- n't we be allowed to save our money and vacation days for our own leisure? These ''destination weddings'' can be a problem. When another cousin mar- ried, I attended, but didn't give a gift because it cost me $150 just to get there. Isn't that enough? — New York Dear New York: Not really. We agree that destination weddings are often a burden on the guests, so if you cannot afford to attend, it's OK to decline. But you should send a gift or a card with your sincere good wishes. And when you do come to these events, a gift is expected. It doesn't have to be expensive. Offer to take can- did photographs for the couple. Or get them a bottle of inexpensive sparkling wine. Write them a poem and frame it. Use your imagination. Dear Annie: ''No Name Any- where'' wanted to tactfully ask her boyfriend to remove the personal effects of his late wife. You suggested she offer to help and said, ''If he has children, perhaps they would like to go through her belongings.'' She should insist on it. passed away, my father-in-law's new wife promptly donated everything to a thrift store. Dad didn't care. The chil- dren, however, were not pleased that so many treasured items were gone with- out their having had a chance to go through them. This put additional strain on forging a relationship with a new stepmother. — Been There 3B Keloids that are surgically removed sometimes return When my dear mother-in-law DOCTOR K: I have a keloid on my shoulder that makes me very self-con- scious. Are there treat- ments other than surgery? DEAR Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Batter up! Giants, Tigers walk-up music BY JIM HARRINGTON Bay Area News Group There's an old saying in baseball — "never waste an at-bat." Everything about the moment is important, from a batter's initial stance to his final swing. Yet, it all starts with the walk-up music, which, as far as we're concerned, is always of the utmost importance. A batter's walk-up music is self-descriptive — it's the snippet of a tune played as the batter walks from the on-deck circle to the actual batter's box. The term -— or a variation on it, like "walk- in" or "entrance" -— also is used for the music played when pitchers, usually closers, take to the mound. These songs are frequently chosen by a team's music director (or someone filling that role), often with input from individual players. Ideally, these songs should say something about the player — describe his ferocity or ability or background. The most famous walk-up of all might be Mariano Rivera's use of Metallica's "Enter Sandman," which signifies that when this New York Yankees closer takes the mound, it's nighty-night for the opposing team — and, more often than not, that's the case. appropriate choice. 3. Pablo Sandoval (No. 48, 3B) Drake Drake quite well -— it sold more than 2 million copies in the U.S. alone — and it certainly works for Pablo's walk-up music. Song: "The Motto," This 2011 cut served 28, C) 4. Buster Posey (No. Song: "Me Myself and I," De La Soul Was Buster even born when this song came out? It's an oldie, a No. 1 R&B hit from the hip-hop band in 1989, but it's certainly a goody. We wish more bat- ters would go old-school with their walk-ups. 5. Hunter Pence (No. 8, RF) Call," Volbeat; "Breakn' a Sweat," Skrillex Song: "A Warrior's This Hunter splits his time between heavy metal (Volbeat) and EDM (Skrillex) — and both are appropriately energized walk-up tunes. Plus, we like what the titles say about Pence — certainly a warrior who's not afraid to break a sweat. 6. Brandon Belt (No. 9, 1B) Maybe he prefers to listen to the crowd? 7. Gregor Blanco (No. Song: N/A? 7, LF) In honor of the World Series opening this week, here's a look at some of the walk-up music used by the two teams battling for the championship — the San Francisco Giants and the Detroit Tigers. (Note, walk-up music is known to change — so this might not reflect exactly what will be heard at the games.) We'll go by projected batting order: San Francisco Giants: 16, CF) 1. Angel Pagan (No. Song: "Blue," Gemini Electronic Dance Music (EDM) is all the rage these days. It's even made it to the realm of the walk-up. This is a hip choice, courtesy of the British DJ known as Gemini. 2. Marco Scutaro (No. 19, 2B) also favored by the Tigers' Jhonny Peralta, is a fine reggaeton anthem. But, given Scutaro's perfor- mance in the playoffs, maybe R.E.M.'s "Super- man" would be a more Kuduro," Don Omar This tune, which is Song: "Danza Song: "Welcome to Jamrock" -- Damian Mar- ley This was one of Big- gie's biggest hits — and it fits as a walk-up song. Berry has many weapons in his arsenal (notably, his speed), but the Giants might be in trouble if hyp- nosis is one of them. 3. Miguel Cabrera (No. 24, 3B) This was arguably the most memorable hit of last year — a surefire crowd-pleaser from the two kings of hip-hop. It's the perfect choice for the best hitter in baseball — who this year became the game's first triple-crown winner since 1967. 4. Prince Fielder (No. Paris," Jay-Z and Kanye West Song: "(Expletive) in 28, 1B) Love," Art of Noise; "Down For My (Exple- tive)," C-Murder Art of Noise's experi- mental electronic love ballad, which moves along at a strikingly glacial pace, is no doubt dramatic — but it's a Songs: "Moments in Wayne weird one for a walk-up. C-Murder's hip-hop blast is a much safer bet. 5. Delmon Young (No. 21, DH in the Tigers' park, LF at AT&T) Song: "I'm Raw," Lil Young probably has a lot of time to consider walk- up material. We applaud the choice of Weezy. 6. Jhonny Peralta (No. As a designated hitter, Song: "Energia," Alex- is Y Fido: "Danza Kuduro," Don Omar The shortstop gets his game on by turning to a pair of Puerto Rican reg- gaeton acts. 7. Alex Avila (No. 13, 27, SS) C) Song: "I Got Mine," the Black Keys The modern blues-rock duo, which has been com- pared to the White Stripes, provides the right punch for a walk-up song. 8. Omar Infante (No. 4, 2B) Shick Song: "Prendelo," El Keloids are raised over- growths of scar tissue that usually appear at the site of a skin injury. They are harmless and do not become cancerous. But once a keloid develops, it won't go away unless it is removed or treated. Unfortunately, none of the existing treatments give completely satisfying results. What's more, keloids that have been removed or treated often return. Keloids usually occur where trauma, surgery, blisters, vaccinations, acne or body piercing have injured the skin. Some people are prone to keloid formation and may develop them in several places. Keloids appear most commonly on the shoul- ders, upper back and chest. They are shiny, smooth and rounded, and may be pink, purple or brown. Keloids can be doughy or firm and rub- bery to the touch. They often feel itchy, tender or uncomfortable. (I've put a photograph of keloids on my website, AskDoc- torK.com.) You'll have the best results if you start treat- ment soon after the keloid appears. Available treat- ments include: • Conv entional DEAR READER: surgery. Keloids return in nearly half of patients when they are removed surgically — and these keloids may be larger than the original. Combine surgery with other treat- ments to reduce this possi- bility. • Dressings. Moist wound coverings made of silicone gel sheets may reduce the size of keloids over time. This treatment is safe and painless. • Corticosteroid injections. These can often reduce keloid size and irritation, but the injections are uncom- fortable. • Compression. A bandage or tape is used to apply continuous pres- sure 24 hours a day for six to 12 months. Compres- sion can cause a keloid to shrink. • Cryosurgery. This freezes the keloid with liquid nitrogen, but the treatment can cause skin color to lighten. • Radiation therapy. This is controversial because radiation increas- es the risk of cancer. Radi- ation may reduce scar for- mation if it is used while a surgical wound is healing. • Laser therapy. This is an alternative to conven- tional surgery. But keloids are just as likely to return after laser therapy as they are after regular surgery. The two mysteries about keloids are: (1) Why do some people form keloids when their skin is cut, such as during surgery (I'm one of them), whereas other people do not; and (2) what stimu- lates the cells at the site of injury to grow in exces- sive numbers? I'm optimistic there will be future diagnostic tests that can predict whether a person is likely to form a keloid after surgery. I'm also opti- mistic that we will figure out the chemical signals that encourage the over- growth of skin cells — and figure out treatments that neutralize those sig- nals and stop keloids from forming. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Through a Child's Eyes … rockers to come along in many a moon, this cut from Bob Marley's son — Damian "Jr. Gong" Mar- ley — is a rollicking choice for the walk-up. 8. Brandon Crawford (No. 35, SS) Song: "Writer's Block," Royce da 5'9 On principle, we are against anything that uses the term "Writer's Block" -- which puts the Fear of Editor into every journal- ist. Plus, this song fea- tures Eminem, a proud Detroit guy. So, maybe, Crawford should get a new walk-up song for this series. Detroit Tigers: 1. Austin Jackson (No. 14, CF) Young Jeezy; "Ambition," Wale Young Jeezy's "Ballin'", featuring Lil Wayne, is a good selec- tion for a leadoff man — since it's his job to get the party started. And, clear- ly, it's also his "Ambition" to get on base. Songs: "Ballin'," 52, LF) 2. Quintin Berry (No. Song: "Hypnotize," the Notorious B.I.G. 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