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6B Daily News– Wednesday, October 24, 2012 Finding the words: What do you say to a friend who has been diagnosed with breast cancer? By Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz Chicago Tribune (MCT) Even the best-intentioned person can become speechless or tongue-tied when reacting to a loved one's breast cancer diagnosis. What should you say? And what should you not say? Several peer counselors at Y-Me National Breast Cancer Organization offered the statements they found most and least helpful to hear during their own breast cancer battles. HELPFUL "I'm here for you, and we'll see this through together." "I'll organize your friends to make dinners, drive car pools, shop, etc. — whatever would be helpful." "I know this is difficult for you, but please know I will do all I can to support you." "I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but I'm here to help in any way." "Would you like to tell me more about it?" NOT HELPFUL "You'll be fine." "You poor thing." "I know how you feel." "I know someone who died from that." "Call me if you need anything." "Will you be OK financially since you won't be able to work?" "I think you should …" AS FOR TIMING … Many friends and family members rush to offer support upon hearing news of a cancer diagnosis — but then the calls subside, even as the cancer treatment stretches on. Stay con- nected for the long haul, checking in with periodic phone calls or emails to see how she's doing or just to talk about something normal. Distributed by MCT Information Services Business of the Year 2012 E www.WesternOpenFiddle.com Western Open Fiddle Championships Oct. 25-27 Join Us at the 30th Reunion 423 Walnut St. 528-8000 Tues-Fri 10 am-5:30 pm Sat 11 am-4 pm facebook.com/redbluffgoldexchange www.RedBluffGoldExchange.com Consignement & Thrift... New Family Store • Gifts • Jewelry • Clothing Vintage Your Local New Location 707 Walnut St Red Bluff 530.527.3738 New Owner ~ Business New 223 Main Street, Red Bluff ~ 528-9292 RED BLUFF Flower Boutique NOW OPEN TheAll New Red Bluff Geo Growney Motors To Please We Aim 1160 Main St.,Red Bluff 527-1034 BUICK www.growneymotors.com DAILYNEWS TEHAMACOUNTY 545 Diamond Ave., Red Bluff (530) 527-2151 The Les Schwab Warranty: "If We Can't Guarantee It, We Won't Sell It!"® 522 Antelope Blvd. Red Bluff (530) 529-1654 92nd www.redbluffroundup.com also on facebook APRIL 19, 20, 21, 2013 visit us at: (530) 527-1000 1-800-545-3500 Call us any time for: • An extensive network of recruiting sources • Testing and training • Experienced recruiters • Full-time employees • HR expertise and support services • Temporary Workers • Evaluation hire • Carefully screened candidates • Dedicated service www.expresspros.com 530-527-0727 243 So. Main Street x d The Tire Place h Uniquely you & more money in your pocket e T g h n e a G c o l