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16 www.DesertMessenger.com June 14, 2017 UPCOMING EVENTS AT THE VFW VFW MEMBERS AND GUESTS NOTE: VFW Auxiliary is collecting coupons you may have that you won't use. These go to the military families who can use them up to 6 months after expiration. Please help us in this endeavor to assist our Veterans. Coupons can be left at Post. We are also collecting labels for the school and National Home for Children. You can leave items at Post Lobby. VFW Post 769 VETERANS OF FOREIGN WARS 305 N. Central, Quartzsite, AZ, 928-927-7697 FRIDAYS – 5:00 PM TO 7:00 PM – Hamburgers -- $5.00 donation Cheeseburgers -- $5.50 donation. New York Steak Sandwich -- $7.50 Includes choice of fries or green salad JUNE 14-18 VFW State Convention at Ft. McDowell JUNE 18 FATHER'S DAY - Check with Post JULY 4 - PICNIC AT THE PARK - VFW Volunteers will be serving hamburgers & hot dogs. JULY & AUGUST - No Auxiliary meetings. Next Auxiliary meeting Sept. 9 VFW Comrades will be having regular scheduled meetings in July & August. PLEASE CHECK AT POST AS ADDITIONAL EVENTS MAY BE SCHEDULED Check at the Post or on the VFW Post 769 website for information on additional activities being planned. www.vfwpost769.org Comrades meet –2nd Saturday each month –10:00 a.m. at Post House Committee meeting – 2nd Saturday each month -9:00 a.m. at Post Wives who talk too much The guy-in-the-garage is in the wrong profession. He should have been an astronaut. This his body could stay at- tached to his mind – in outer space. When this guy has a project going, there is no talking to him. Well, I can talk, but there is no listening going on. For instance, at the gas station I ask if he wants me to get him a soda as he starts pumping the fuel. But he's almost done fi ll- ing a completely empty tank before he can think of an answer. Communication gener- ally presents a challenge for us. He is a ponderer and I am neither a ponderer, nor equipped with the patience neces- sary to wait for a ponderer to respond. The problem is I think and talk in su- per fast forward speed and he thinks and talks in super slow motion. So by the time he answers a question, I've usually covered 17 other topics and then we're both totally confused about what the other one is now talking about. One of the other challenges we have occurs regularly in hardware stores. He looks for items he needs the same way he talks and thinks and responds. Very slowly. While I, on the other hand, am quickly scanning every item in the aisle we're in and looking over his shoulder at his list in an attempt to help him fi nd what he needs. He's concentrating on an item in his hand, fairly oblivious to me standing by, ready and willing to of- fer my "help." I see him pick up an item, ponder it and then put it in the cart. My instincts tell me he has the wrong quantity, and I feel compelled to ask him why he's getting that amount. But I know, I just really know, if I ask the ques- tion, it will annoy him, so I try to resist. But then I think about what will happen if we get home, two hours away, and he doesn't have enough. So I jump in and mention that I think he needs more of that item. There are times I've even been so bold as to suggest he has the wrong item. He tries to hide his annoyance as he pa- tiently explains why he has chosen the parts and then I realize once again that he knows what he's doing and when am I going to learn to just leave him alone and let him make his own decisions? Apparently no time soon. This time we weren't shopping for parts for his projects, we were building a shelter for a trailer. Well "we" weren't actu- ally building it. He was doing all the work. I just showed up now and then to use my walking stick to push up on the metal siding while he slid the piece into place. It had been going really well and only took a few minutes each time he needed my help. Then came the diffi cult piece on top. He was balancing on a make-shift scaf- folding, the wind was blowing hard as it will do in the desert, and I was push- ing as hard as I could but the piece wouldn't budge. I noticed that if we put it underneath the piece he was attaching it to, I wouldn't even have to push on it and we could be done. I quickly discovered that was a most un- welcome suggestion. A few days later while we were having lunch with the son-in-the-garage we were talking about the shelter. When the guy-in-the-garage told him about my suggestion, the son-in-the-garage looked equally disgusted and they both looked at me like I had commit- ted a cardinal sin. "You know how it is when you know how something needs to be done," the guy-in-the-garage says to him "and someone is telling you it needs to be a different way?" Wow, talk about male bonding. They both stared at me while simultaneous- ly groaning. I once told the guy-in-the-garage that Dr. Laura says that women talk way too much to their husbands. She says that women imagine they need to tell them every detail about everything in their lives. I told him that she said they shouldn't do that. I expected him to disagree with her because I know he enjoys listening to everything I say. Instead he said "Why don't you listen to her?" I was shocked and humili- ated and right then made a new rule for myself. Never again was I going to talk so much as to be annoying. The only problem, I'm just not real good at following rules. Sherri Kukla is the edi- tor and co-publisher of S&S Off Road Magazine. She along with her hus- band, the guy-in-the-garage, are also the founders and directors of Thunder- ing Trails off road camp for inner city kids in Southern California. She can be reached at ssormag@gmail.com or www.ssorm.com Sherri's Turn In Memoriam Frank Mooring was laid to rest at the local Hi Jolly Cemetery on May 10th. Frank was a resident of Quartzsite for the past 30 years. He enjoyed nature by off-roading in his ATV and Jeep in our Sonoran Desert. He died at home here in Quartzsite on April 29, 2017. Frank was born in a farm near Golds- boro, North Carolina on February 22, 1922. After serving in the U.S. Navy in World War II (on ships in both the Atlantic and Pacifi c oceans) he turned back to his roots of farming in the Goldsboro, North Carolina area. Sever- al years later he and his family moved to a group in the state of Sonora, Mexico. After an unsuccessful trek in Mexico, a move was made to the San Diego, Cali- fornia area where Frank obtained work at Rohr in the aerospace industry and retired from Rohr there. He ultimately moved to Quartzsite. He is survived by 8 sons: Stephen, Timothy, Duanc, Neil, Jack, Benjamin, Jonathan and David as well as 1 daugh- ter, Shari, Carroll. Also surviving are step-daughter Brenda Archer, and step-sons Rick & Michael Eicksteadt, many grand-children and 2 great grandchildren. His fi rst wife, Kate, mother of his children, as well as his loving wife Kay survive. Frank Mooring

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