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4B Daily News – Thursday, August 30, 2012 Ready to remarry right away Check out recurring headaches Dear Annie: My wife and I are in the final stages of a divorce after 25 years of mar- riage. We have two w onderful teenagers. We both realize that we had a part in the break- down of the mar- riage, and we are trying to keep the process as friendly as such things can be. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar moved out, I met a wonder- ful lady with whom I have much in common. Once the divorce is final, I would like to ask her to marry me. Is that fair? I don't want my soon-to-be-ex to think that she meant nothing to me and is being traded in. I also don't want my new ladylove to think I'm sim- ply replacing one wife with another. I don't mind living alone. It actually has been quite peaceful. The biggest worry is the kids. I think my son would understand, but my 13- year-old daughter will be a different story. She tries to put up a good front, but isn't succeeding all that well. Shortly after my wife I guess the real question is: Should I let my concerns for other people get in the way of my own happiness? How can I help my daughter under- stand that I am not disrespecting the years of my mar- riage? I am simply taking the next step in my life. — Ready To Move On Dear Ready: Your main focus right now should be your kids' adjustment, not your per- sonal contentment. You are rushing things. They are teenagers. The parents they love are divorcing, and this is enough trauma in their lives for the moment. Please don't make things more stressful by remarrying so quickly. Let the dust from the divorce settle, and then slowly introduce the new woman into your chil- dren's lives and let them get to know her. They may still object, but they will have less reason if they don't feel she is being shoved down their throats. We think all of you could benefit from speaking to a family therapist. Dear Annie: Like FEATURES DEAR DOCTOR K: I'm a 47-year-old ''Single Too Long,'' I am 55, divorced with grown children and can't find a long-term relationship. The difference is, I'm female. I have tried dating sites and church groups (full of women). I did meet men when I briefly worked at Home Depot, but I had to quit. You told him to go where the women are, but where are the men? — Looking for a Relation- ship, Too Dear Looking: In bookstores, grocery stores, hardware stores and laun- dromats. At sporting events, taking college courses, playing golf, soft- ball and basketball, doing volunteer work and travel- ing. Readers? Help us out here. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net , or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. woman. Lately I've been getting headaches several times a week. Should I see a doctor? — is accompanied by constant, severe, throbbing pain in the temple region; — awakens you at night, is present on awakening, and improves when you get out of bed; neck. DEAR READER: I think any- one who is having frequent headaches can benefit from medical attention. That's especially true if they're interfering with your ability to function. I'm assuming that you have not been bothered by frequent headaches earlier in your life. In a person who's 47 and is having fre- quent headaches for the first time, it is very important to get them evaluated. Headaches are rarely signs of a serious disease, like a brain tumor. But once in a while they can be. These "red flag" signs should lead you to call your doctor sooner rather than later, if your headache: — is accompanied by neurological impairment, such as difficulty speaking, seeing or walking; — slowly but relentlessly gets worse over weeks or months; — How long do they last? — How severe are they? (Are they so severe you can't really function?) makes them worse? — What relieves them; in par- — What brings them on or ticular, do any medicines help? — Are there major stresses in Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. your life? any, do you have along with the headaches? — What other symptoms, if — feels like a blow to the head; — is accompanied by fever and a stiff When you see your doctor, be prepared to describe your headaches in detail: — If you haven't had headaches before, when did these recurring headaches start? — Where in your head do you feel them? — How often do they occur? ily get headaches frequently? Your answers to these questions can help your doctor determine what type of headaches you are having and how best to treat them. Your physical exam should include a blood pressure check. Your doctor should look inside your eyes with an ophthalmo- scope, which can detect signs of a brain tumor. Your doctor may also check for tell- tale signs of certain types of headaches, such as tender areas at the back of your head. Since you're over age 40, also see an ophthalmologist. Glaucoma can cause headache-like pain. So can squinting from eyestrain. Simply getting new glasses can help. To exclude more serious causes, your doctor may perform imaging tests such as a computed tomography (CT) scan or a mag- netic resonance imaging (MRI) scan. We have more information on diagnos- ing and treating headaches in our Special Health Report, "Headaches." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) — Do other people in your fam- The busiest local information website in Tehama County! RedBluffDailyNews.com Please support these businesses that support 590 Antelope Blvd. Suite B-30 Red Bluff 26 Sale Lane, Red Bluff (530) 529-2192 www.Claytonredbluff.com Respecting People. Impacting Business 530-527-0727 243 So. 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