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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iaminmy late 20s, and have been seeing my girlfriend, "Tami," for more than three years. We have been long-distance for the last year, but managed to get to a point where we were looking at rings. A couple of months ago, things started changing. She be- came less affection- ate. Even her fam- ily noticed a change. I found out that she was cheating with a co- worker. She confessed, and asked for another chance. I agreed to move past it, but the next day, she told me she was pregnant, and the baby was his. I was crushed. The other man said he would deny her and this baby any support, and insisted that she get an abortion. (He was also cheating). She plans to keep the child. She wants me to marry her and for me to be its father. She wants me to lie, so that our fam- ily and friends will believe that it is my child. Is it wrong for me to only want her, but not her child? I am not sure I could love it. I don't know if I could tell a lie my whole life, or if people would eventually find out. Is it wrong to feel upset that only she and I have had our lives turned upside down, while the other guy has a free pass? I am really confused about how I'm allowed to feel, while trying to control my heartbreak. —Devastatedand Confused DEAR DEVASTATED » You are "allowed" to have any and all of your feelings, whenever you feel them. Don't ask permission. You are not allowed to lie about your feelings, her actions, this baby's parentage, or any other aspect of this situation to family members. Doing so will have a direct and negative impact on all of you. Being discreet is one thing. Choosing how to disclose this (and whom you should tell) is differ- ent from actively lying. You are not allowed to accept "Tami" but reject her child. They are a package deal forever. She is panicking, and enlisting you in her ill-conceived (excuse the pun) plot, in order to make her anxiety go away. Don't make any su d d e n m ov e s b ec au s e of her panic. Pregnancy lasts for many months, and over the course of this time your views (and hers) could change. She should name the father of this child and pursue financial support from him through the court. You should not have to "control your heart- break," nor should you be with her if you don't wish to take on the entirety of this family situation, which — so far — you ob- viously do not want to do. DEAR READERS » Some- times people who dispense advice run out of answers. If you've ever been curious about the life behind my advice, read my new book, "Strangers Tend to Tell Me Things: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Coming Home" (2017, Hachette). 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An opportunity will arise, but make sure you can afford the cost. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Refuse to let anyone dump his or her responsibilities in your lap. Let your anger spur you to work harder. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Don't let your personal life interfere with your job. If you have taken on too much, you must step up and work hard to get things done on time. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — A change in your personal finances is apparent. Be careful how you deal with tax matters and people trying to take advan- tage of you. Focus on personal gains. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You'll attract interesting people. Be careful what you get drawn into. Change can be good, but not if you can't afford it. Temptation will drag you down. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — The choices you have will excite you, but will probably leave friends or loved ones worried about the outcome. Reassurance will help you gain support instead of negativity. 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