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MARCH 22-28, 2017 UCW 31 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS A World Of Blurt I'm in love with my married female co-worker. I'm married and have no intention of leaving my wife, and I doubt she'd leave her husband, even if she shared my feelings. I love how caring and kind my co-worker is -- how she understands that you show love through action. I do this by often giving my wife romantic cards and by cleaning the house and doing the dishes every night after I get home from work and school. Feeling my wife wasn't reciprocating, I started fantasizing about being in a relationship with my co-worker, who also feels unappreciated by her spouse. My feelings for her have become overwhelming, and I feel a pressing need to tell her. I understand that this could make work very awkward. Best-case scenario, she's flattered. Is it selfish to want to unburden myself? — Boiling Point Consider our basic biological needs —like for food, water, and sex. When we feel the urge to satisfy these — like when we're hungry or hungry for a co- worker — our emotions kick into gear, pushing us into a motivated state, a state of tension. That's an uncomfortable state to be in, so we look for the quickest, easiest way out — like "To hell with my job and my marriage!" — which conflates a powerful evolved urge with a wise modern course of action. Understanding this need to reduce emotional tension should help you realize that what's driving your obsession is more mechanical than magical. But there's another problem. Our motivational system comes up a little short in the brakes department. We have a "GO!" system to push us to do things, but we lack a comparable "STOP, YOU IDIOT!" system. This makes inhibiting a feeling (and whatever course of action it's pushing you toward) terribly hard and uncomfortable work. And as social psychologists Daniel Wegner and James J. Gross have independently pointed out, doing this on a continuing basis can have damaging effects on your physical health. Trying to quash some recurring thought also tends to backfire, making you think the unwanted thought more than if you hadn't tried to stop. For example, in Wegner's research, subjects told, "Try not to think of a white bear," failed every time. Wegner suspects the mind sweeps around to see that we aren't thinking of the thing — which means we're thinking of the thing in the process. Copyright 2017 Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD In February, two teams of South Korean researchers announced cancer-fighting breakthroughs — by taking lessons from how two of medicine's most vexing, destructive organisms (diarrhea-causing salmonella bacteria and the rabies virus) can access often-unconquerable cancer cells. In journal articles, biologist Jung-joon Min of Chonnam National University described how his team "weaponized" a cancer-fighting invader cell with salmonella to stir up more-robust immune responses, and nanoparticle expert Yu Seok Youn's Sungkyunkwan University team coated immunizing cells with the rabies protein (since the rabies virus is remarkably successful at invading healthy cells) to reach brain tumors. [ArsTechnica, 2-9-2017] [Science Magazine, 2-10-2017] Unclear on the Concept Gemma Badley was convicted in England's Teesside Magistrates' Court in February of impersonating British psychic Sally Morgan on Facebook, selling her "readings" as if they were Morgan's. (To keep this straight: Badley is the illegal con artist, Morgan the legal one.) [The Gazette (Middlesbrough), 2-21-2017] Michigan is an "open carry" state, and any adult not otherwise disqualified under state law may "pack heat" in public (except in a few designated zones). In February, an overly earnest Second Amendment fan, James Baker, 24 (accompanied by pal Brandon Vreeland, 40), believed the law was an invitation to walk into the Dearborn police station in full body armor and ski mask, with a semi-automatic pistol and a sawed-off rifle (and have Vreeland photograph officers' reactions). (Yes, both were arrested.) [Detroit Free Press, 2-6- 2017] Wells Fargo Bank famously admitted last year that employees (pressured by a company incentive program) had fraudulently opened new accounts for about 2 million existing customers by forging their signatures. In an early lawsuit by a victim of the fraud (who had seven fraudulent accounts opened), the bank argued (and a court agreed!) that the lawsuit had to be handled by arbitration instead of a court of law because the customer had, in the original Wells Fargo contract (that dense, fine-print one he actually signed), agreed to arbitration for "all" disputes. A February Wells Fargo statement to Consumerist.com claimed that customers' forgoing legal rights was actually for their own benefit, in that "arbitration" is faster and less expensive. [Consumerist, 3-1-2017] Copyright 2017 Chuck Sheppard ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, you will likely experience a week of thoughtfulness and reflection. It can be a very "zen" experience for you, as you're not typically used to slowing down. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, keep your cool in the week ahead, which might be more tumultuous than you're accustomed to. Don't take things personally, and rest assured things will blow over soon. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Old stories from your past may resurface, Gemini. These could be humorous, so approach them with a positive attitude and enjoy the fun- filled trip down Memory Lane. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, this week you may feel as if your energy doesn't go as far as it once did. Speak up if you find yourself battling exhaustion. Others can help. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, others see you as witty and a good storyteller, so you might be called on to make a speech or emcee an important event. Make it your own. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, you may have to play the role of peacekeeper this week when bickering between others gets out of hand. Step in and negotiate a truce. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, be your own person, even when someone else tries to guide you into his or her line of thinking. Don't fall for any subterfuge or get carried away. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Cooperation instead of competition may be the way to get ahead this week, Scorpio. Take a look at what others are doing and see if you can combine your efforts. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, meeting new people is often exciting and you could have the opportunity for new introductions this week. Just remember that first impressions last. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Simple pleasures will offer you the greatest rewards over the next few days, Capricorn. You don't require a lot of fanfare or extravagance. Relish in creature comforts. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, you are becoming more attuned with how others may be able to help you advance your career. Don't hesitate to seek advice. The time for change could be upon you. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, make an effort to communicate more with those around you. Life can feel isolated without a good foundation of friends. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard