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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mysisterand I cannot agree on wheth- er to tell my 96-year-old aunt that my 92-year- old father (her brother) passed away. Our aunt is in a memo- ry care facility with some dementia. There are times that she is really with it, and then there are other times that I have to explain to her who I am. If we want to talk to her, she has to come to the phone in the common area. My dad was an execu- tor of her will, along with two of my cousins. My sister feels that she would freak out about the fact that my dad died. My sister feels that we should keep this informa- tion from her, to keep her from getting upset. I feel that we should tell her. She has a right to know. I don't believe in treating adults like chil- dren. I know that I would be hurt if my family kept information from me. But then again, I'm not elderly and suffering from dementia. I believe that we both want what is best for my aunt, but we are definitely coming at this from two very different directions. My sister and I con- stantly argue over things like this. Once our father's estate is settled, I don't think we'll have much of a relationship left. Your thoughts? —AtMyWits'End DEAR WITS' END » I come down on your side of this issue, but there are vari- ables. Your aunt is not a child; she is an adult with a cognitive illness. Surely her illness will have an impact on how she pro- cesses this information, but I do agree that she has a right to know. You (and/or your sister) should discuss this with your cousins (her children), and they should seek the counsel of a social worker where your aunt is living in order to arrive at the best way to convey this information. Your cousins (and you and/or your sister) should be with your aunt when she is told about this. Even if her memory is impaired, she needs and deserves personal contact. I hope your relation- ship with your sister survives this very tough period in your family's life. Everybody processes loss differently, and you both might be acting out of your own sense of grief. This is a time when everyone should soften as much as possible, in order to be gentle with your- selves — and others. DEAR AMY » "Torn" is a professional musician whose wife wants him to stop playing at night. I am in that jazz world. Our workplace is the clubs. These gigs can be hard to come by. Most of us have day jobs too. Torn's day job is caring for his daughter. His wife is essentially asking him to give up his career. His wife is being unreason- able. She knew he was a musician when she mar- ried him. — Nativesax DEAR NATIVESAX » I am hoping that with some compromise, they can both continue in their professions. 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