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4B Daily News – Friday, August 24, 2012 FEATURES Mom tired of obsession with girl's size year-old daughter has had weight issues for years. "Barbara'' weighs 80 pounds more than she should. Dear Annie: Our 21- and that I won't go along with his approach. It is caus- ing stress in our marriage. Please help. — In the Middle Dear Middle: You should I cannot remember a time when Barbara's weight wasn't a big deal to my husband. His mother also puts in her two cents with regular comments to Barbara concerning her diet. So do other family members. I find their obses- sion with her weight nauseating. I know they are concerned about Bar- bara's health, but I believe they are expressing it the wrong way. My daughter is beautiful and cre- Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar ative and has a huge heart. I offer healthy food choices in the house and make balanced meals when she is home. She has seen a doctor and has information on proper nutrition. We have offered to pay for gym memberships and diet programs, which she has declined. We bought her a bicycle, which she rides, and I have invited her to go on walks with me. She always starts with a real effort and then stops. I believe her family should accept her as she is. I have become the buffer, trying to be encouraging and positive while filtering out the harshness of others. I have told my husband that Barbara must make lifestyle changes herself, and that his comments and pressure tactics have a negative effect. But he can't help himself. He is frustrated that he cannot control his daughter's size no longer be involved in his issues with Barbara, and when he brings up her weight, simply reply, ''Yes, dear,'' and then ignore him. Dear Annie: I received perma- nent custody of my cousin's 14- month-old son because of his moth- er's neglect. The boy is now 4. He has called me "Mommy'' from the beginning. I refer to his bio mom by her first name. However, when we are at family gatherings, she insists on calling herself "Mommy.'' She gets in his face and says, "Who am I? What's my name?'' And then he looks at me, totally confused. remove yourself from the equation altogether. Barbara is an adult, and not only are her choices her own, but so are the consequences. Instead of protecting her, advise her on how to handle her relatives' negative com- ments, and then let her do it. Tell your husband you will My cousin and her family are struggling with the fact that I am the only mommy he knows. I will tell him the truth when I feel he is mature enough. But shouldn't they have more respect for me and not confuse him? — Mommy that Mat- ters they respect you, they should respect the child and not do things that will confuse and disturb him. Still, you cannot control what these relatives do, so we recommend you inform your son about his origins in an appropriate manner as soon as possible. He needs to understand that this woman is his biological mother, but she was unable to take care of him and you wanted him very much, and you both love him deeply. Talk to your pediatrician about the best way to handle this, and perhaps get a referral to a fami- ly therapist. to ''Crying in Ohio,'' whose hus- band of 46 years told her she is ter- ribly obese. My father suffered from demen- tia in his later years. We were all hurt and confused by the mean-spir- ited comments he made, but after his diagnosis, we realized those remarks were the first sign of the disease. Dear Annie: This is in response If this behavior is out of the norm, she should take her husband to a doctor and find out whether there is a medical cause. There may be medication to help, and she won't waste precious years being angry with him for something he can't control. — Omaha Annie's Mailbox is written by Dear Mommy: Whether or not Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Public invited to duck calling contest COLUSA — Ducks Unlimited is "calling" the public to come enjoy the 2012 California State Championship Duck Call- ing Competition on Satur- day, Aug. 25, at Kittles Outdoor & Sport Co., in Colusa. DU is a proud sponsor of the annual event, which attracts dozens of callers, all vying for the title of state champion. The public is invited to this very popular, family friendly event where men, women and children will showcase their duck- and goose-calling skills. The winner of this state-sanctioned event will go on to compete for the World Championship in Stuttgart, Ark., on Nov. 24. Registration for com- petitors begins at 8:30 a.m. secutive year Kittles will host the calling event, which includes several levels of competition: Junior, Intermediate Duck and Goose, Open Speck, California State Duck and Two Man. This is the second con- In addition to the call- ing, there will be a huge and you could help pets that have been abandoned in our community vendor tradeshow, Tommy's BBQ conces- sion, new product dis- plays, local artists, wildlife exhibits and a variety of educational items showcasing sports- men and the great out- doors. Kittles will also be holding their annual preseason waterfowl hunting gear sale that weekend. It will be a day of waterfowl fun for all ages in a safe, tobacco- and alcohol-free environ- ment. For more information, visit www.californiaduck- calling.com or contact Kittles at 530-458- HUNT (4868) or patrick@kittlesoutdoor.co m. Edema is a symptom with many causes TOR K: What can I do about my edema? The diuretics my doc- tor prescribed haven't helped. DEAR READ- ER: Edema is swelling caused by a buildup of extra fluid. Edema most often affects the feet and legs, but it can affect the hands and even the face. The skin becomes puffy and swollen. DEAR DOC- particularly the right side of the heart. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. pinch off the veins carrying blood from the legs to the heart. The fluid in your body is in three places: inside each of the 13 trillion cells in your body; in the blood (which means inside all your blood vessels); and in the space between your cells and your blood ves- sels. Edema occurs when unusual amounts of fluid leak out of the blood ves- sels and into the space between your blood ves- sels and cells. as water pills, are often used to treat edema. They help your kidneys elimi- nate excess fluid in your body. Diuretics, also known Edema is a symptom that may be caused by many conditions. Your doctor will need to identi- fy and treat the condition that is causing it. Possible causes include: — Pregnancy. The enlarged uterus with the fetus inside can heart failure. The left or right side of the heart can no longer pump effi- ciently. — Congestive — Pre-eclampsia. This serious condition can occur during pregnancy. — Low blood-protein levels. These can be caused by malnutrition, kidney and liver disease. As for treatments, increasing the dose of your diuretic might solve the problem. A low-salt diet usually helps, since salt causes the body to retain fluid. You also should avoid drinking too much fluid. — Prolonged standing or sitting. This can cause edema in your feet and lower legs. That's because gravity is pulling more blood into the blood ves- sels of your legs. When the blood vessels swell with fluid, some of from varicose veins. Valves inside the veins of the legs weaken, making it more difficult for the veins to pump blood back to the heart. This leads to fluid buildup. — Severe chronic lung diseases. Emphysema and chronic bronchitis weaken the heart's ability to pump, fluid leaks out of the ves- sels and into the tissues. — Venous insufficiency Development Center (SBDC) presents "Using QuickBooks Everyday/Quick- Books Basics II." from 9 a.m.-1 p.m. on Thursday, Aug. 30, at the Butte College Small Business Development Center, 332 Pine Street, Red Bluff. The cost of the workshop is $50 each prepaid or $60 per person at the door. This workshop will focus on working with lists, bank accounts, using other account types, entering sales information, receiving payments & making deposits, entering & paying bills, as well as an overview of other features related to these activities (downloading bank and credit card activity, scanning and attaching doc- uments to payables, issuing 1099s, mem- orizing transactions). We will run related reports for these areas as well (i.e. A/R Aging, Unpaid Bills Detail & Missing Checks). Includes manual. The trainer is a Certified Public Accountant and Quick- Books ProAdvisor. to Providing Essentials for the Tehama Shelter to benefit the Tehama County Animal Care Center make a $500 donation If we receive 1,500 "likers" on Facebook by Sept. 15 we will NOW AT $1,000+ LIKERS Go to www.facebook.com/rbdailynews in the look-up bar near the top of the page, then click to "Like" our Facebook page when you get there duction to QuickBooks I Pre-registration is required. Please call the Butte College Small Business Devel- opment Center (SBDC) at 895-9017 to register and for more information. Prerequisite: Intro- advanced The Butte College Small Business Development Center (SBDC) Quickbooks "QuickBooks Advanced III." from 9 a.m. to noon on Thursday, Sept. 6, at the Med- ical Specialty Center, 284 Spruce, Grid- ley. The cost of the workshop is $50 each prepaid or $60 per person at the door. This workshop is a more advanced approach to QuickBooks. It will focus on analyzing financial data, setting up inven- tory, tracking and paying sales tax, esti- mating and progress invoicing, tracking time, customizing forms and reports, as well as an overview of advanced features (i.e., importing data, fixed asset list, sync- ing contacts, and sharing your file elec- tronically with your accountant). Includes manual. Pre-Requisite: Introduction to QuickBooks I and QuickBooks Basics II. Pre-registration is required. Call the presents Butte College Small Business Develop- ment Center (SBDC) at 895-9017 to reg- Using Quickbooks The Butte College Small Business the If the edema is in your feet and legs, prop them up whenever you are sitting. This counters the effect of gravity and encourages more blood to move out of your legs. Compression stockings can help squeeze the edema fluid out of your tissues. Finally, if your edema is caused by vari- cose veins, traditional surgery or newer laser pro- cedures can treat the condi- tion. It's important to protect feet and legs swollen by edema from pressure, injury and extreme temper- atures. The skin over swollen legs becomes more fragile over time. Cuts, scrapes and burns in areas that have edema take much longer to heal and are more likely to get infected. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Small Business Development Center offerings ister and for more information. Development Center (SBDC) is present- ing a series of workshops for start-up and new businesses from 8:30-10:30 a.m. on Wednesdays, Sept. 12th-Oct. 3, at the Butte College Small Business Develop- ment Center, 2480 Notre Dame Blvd., Chico. The cost for the series is $50 per person prepaid or $60 at the door. This 4-part training series provides essential information for individuals thinking about starting a new business and new business owners. include: New Business Orientation, Mar- ket Analysis, Cost Analysis, and Business Plan Overview. You will learn the legal requirements for business start-up, how to assess your market and calculate start-up costs, and how to plan for direction and to obtain funding. Call for detailed flyer. Pre-registration is required. Please call the Butte College Small Business Devel- opment Center (SBDC) at 895-9017 to register and for information. Topics Development Center presents "ServSafe Food Safety Training & Certification" workshop from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Thursday, Oct. 4, at the Butte College Small Business Development Center, 2480 Notre Dame Blvd. Chico. The cost is $120 each prepaid or $130 at the door including ServSafe textbook, or $80 pre- paid and $90 at the door without book. California Uniform Retail Food Facili- successfully passing this required test is necessary to renew your certification. This course includes the National Restau- rant Association ServSafe® exam, ServSafe Essentials, manual, Scranton (test sheets) & certificate. The training is recognized by the State of California Health Department & fulfills State Certi- fication obligations. Pre-registration is required. Please call the Butte College Small Business Devel- opment Center (SBDC) at 895-9017 to register and for more information. Re-taking & Food safety The Butte College Small Business Start-ups The Butte College Small Business ty Law requires re-testing and re-certifi- cation of competence in Food Safety and Sanitation every 5 years.