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NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD Fern Cooper, 65, and 13 other cataract-surgery patients arrived at Ontario's Oakville Trafalgar Hospital on June 25 to learn that they would not receive the usual anesthesia because the hospital had decided to schedule an "experimental day" to evaluate how unsedated patients responded. (The Ontario Health Insurance Plan had recently cut anesthesiologists' fee.) A topical numbing gel, plus doctors' reassurances were provided, but Cooper, previously diagnosed with severe anxiety, told the Toronto Star of the terror she felt when, fully awake, she watched the surgeon's scalpel approaching, and then cutting, her eyeball. [Toronto Star, 7-6-2012] WEEKLY HOROSCOPES BY HOLIDAY For the Week of August 26, 2012 ARIES (March 21-April 19) It's entirely pos- sible that when Leonardo da Vinci put the fi nal touches on the Mona Lisa, he was thinking, "This could be better." At some point you have to stop working the masterpiece and let it be what it wants to be. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) Someone will want you to jump into the fi re and shoot from the hip instead. Maybe this person is being impatient, or maybe they correctly sense that you'll make stellar decisions when the pressure is on. GEMINI (May 21-June 21) Your knack for riding trends effectively has something to do with knowing just when to get in and, more importantly, when to get out. And though you'll lean on this awesome talent this week, don't discount the power of tenacity. Some gains will only be obtained by fi ghting the good fi ght and staying at it. Chuck Sheppard CANCER (June 22-July 22) Internally, you may feel like you don't know what you're doing or have no idea what to do next. Start with the "why." When you know why you want to do something, it will be easier to fi nd concrete goals that are a good fi t. recently in Ratanakiri province, Cambodia, according to a June report in the Phnom Penh Post, as up to 80 percent of the population has given up the traditional Theravada Buddhism (mixed with animism) as too demanding. According to local officials, traditional priests typically prescribe expensive offerings, such as a slaughtered buffalo, as the price of improving a relative's health. Said one convertee, with the money saved using Western medicine instead of traditional sacrifices, she was able to build a house for her family. [Phnom Penh Post, 6-12-2012] According to a June lawsuit by a former student, Western Nevada College's course in human sexuality was so over-the-top that it might be described as a collection of instructor Tom Kubistant's erotic fantasies about college-age kids. Among Kubistant's demands, according to "K.R.," were keeping a masturbation journal (and ramping up the activity to twice the student's pre-course level), disclosing one's uninhibited sexual fantasies that in some cases were described by the instructor to the class at large, and conducting discussion groups on the uses of sex toys and lubricants. By the fifth week, K.R. claimed, Kubistant had abandoned his schedule of topics and begun to dwell extensively on "the female orgasm." Kubistant's instructions appear to fit the faculty handbook's definition of sexual harassment. [Courthouse News Service, 6-28-2012] The Continuing Crisis Christianity has grown in acceptance LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) Someone may seem as though they are judging you, but really they are just reacting to the world as they see it. It's nothing personal. You could take what you learn from their reaction and play things differently if you so choose. Or you could just move on. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) It's unusual for you, but you may not feel like working on your mind as much this week, as your body cries out for more attention. Whether it's pampering, human touch or exercise that you need most, focusing your self-care on your mortal coil will lead to higher thoughts and clarity in the later week. ADVICE GODDESS The Dark Mite LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) Fishermen are precise about where they fi sh, what they fi sh for, how they fi sh and with whom, because precision of approach makes all the difference between salmon and mackerel. You'll spend most of your time this week deciding what you'd like to hook. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21) Sometimes you have to coax yourself out of some snarly historic scene in order to join what's going on now. Though living this moment is not always second nature, it's where the joy is. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) There's something about the group dynamic that makes everything easier for you this week. When you share with others — whether you are sharing work, stories, food or support — you feel more vital and capable of making a positive difference in your own life and the world at large. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) Positive thinking isn't always the way. Acknowledge your true feelings whatever they may be. Dealing in what is gives you real power. You'll be able to ratchet up your mood one notch at a time. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) You've heard many wildly successful people say, "I started from nothing." Everyone has something. Gather, account for and be grateful for your many resources this week. This ensures that you'll have the best start of all on your journey toward a gleaming goal. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) The typically easy task of discerning between what's crucial and what's not will be your biggest challenge as nonessentials go masquerading as luxuries and vice versa this week. Your success depends on accurately projecting the future outcome of possible actions. By Holiday Mathis Serving Fayetteville and Sanford for over 25 years…. for three years, but I fi nd myself craving her. I say "crave" because I don't think I ever really loved her. We only got together 15 years ago because she asked me out. I would never have approached her, as I'm not attracted to her. She is overweight, has a 10th-grade education, and is wildly irresponsible with money. I've been in fi ve one-sided relationships that started like this one, with my fear, insecurity, or laziness allowing me to be led in. I've been spending time with my wife and realized that nothing about her has changed, and there's little chance of our being happy together. I guess I should've had a bunch of dates and physical intimacy with attractive single women, but I haven't been with anyone since our separation. What is my problem? I've been separated from my wife — Chained The Declaration of Independence talks about "the pursuit of happiness." Hint: You actually have to chase it. That takes having the guts to go after what makes you happy instead of going home with Amy Alkon J. Wayne Riggins, OD, MD Beatrice Brewington, MD Ophthalmologist /Optometrist practice 2011 *Voted Fayetteville's Best Miles W. Whitaker, MD & , Edward Kenshock, Jr., OD *Voted Greatest Around Fayetteville 2012 S. Scott Stapleton, MD www.CapeFearEye.com 800.829.2284 Sheel Patel, MD Cynthia Toth, MD COPYRIGHT 2011 CHUCK SHEPHERD WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM 1.800.829.2284 • 910.484.2284 Experience You Can Trust 1726 Metro Medical Dr. Fayetteville, NC 1629 Owen Dr., Fayetteville, NC 910.484.2284 8hrArh@r p E erience You Can Trust Exxperience You Can Trust Chad Tisdale, OD John Krempecki, OD Your one-stop family eye care specialists from pediatrics, to LASIK, to cataracts. J whatever plucks you off the dessert table and drops you in her purse like a miniature cupcake among men. Unfortunately, on the alpha male scale, you're pretty much Hello Kitty. In The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (a book you need to read), therapist Nathaniel Branden writes that self-esteem — feeling worthy of happiness and competent to deal with what life throws you — comes out of self-acceptance: choosing to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect, and to stand up for your right to exist. If you're shipwrecked on one of those little islands in a New Yorker cartoon and you ask the lone woman there "You wanna climb the coconut tree with me?" and she says no, you have a problem. Otherwise, a no is just reason to ask the next woman out — and the next, and the next — until one you like says yes. Statistically, if you approach a lot of women you want, you should eventually get one — and, in the meantime, get to the point where rejection is something you mostly fi nd boring. Yes, you do need to work on your self-worth, but you can't wait for it to be all shiny and great. Fixing yourself takes time. Acting fi xed takes only guts and a clean shirt, and then, if all goes well, making moves that suggest you'll be an animal in bed, and not the kind that stands frozen in headlights in the middle of a country road. Amy Alkon all rights reserved. AUGUST 22-28, 2012 UCW 23