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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iamajazz musician. I'm married with a child. My wife has a stressful 9-to-5 job. I play at a club several nights a week. My wife and I make OK money, and hav e al ways sp lit th e bills evenly. Playing jazz has not made me rich, nor is it likely to, but I get by. My wife's work is re- ally getting to her, and the stress is affecting me and our daughter. I have always had days free, and take care of our daughter, make dinner, etc., but I am often not home in the evenings. Now my wife says she is tired of this life. She would like to get a new job, which may pay less. She wants me home at night, and wants me to have more stability. When we got married, she was fine with our life, but now it seems things have changed. I can give up the music and get a stable job, but that would be giving up what I love to do the most. Music has been my passion all my life. I fear that if I did this, I would wind up resent- ing my wife, but if I stay the course, she will wind up resenting me. I love my family and want us to stay together, but I don't see any way out of this. Any thoughts? —Torn DEAR TORN » You and your wife agreed to this challenging lifestyle. But then something changed: You had a child, and realized that life is not all improvisation. You are fortunate to have the passion, as well as the talent, to make a living as a musician. Your assumption that you would have to drop all of this in order to capitu- late to your wife is faulty thinking. Are there ways for you to transition away from playing at clubs several nights a week and perhaps work as a session musician, teaching, or taking music-related jobs during the day? If you adjusted your schedule by even 30 percent, it might have a huge impact. S ur el y so m e of th e mu si - cians you work with also have day jobs. Two parents resigning themselves to make some life and work changes are better than two parents refusing to adjust and resenting one another. You and your wife both have the right to try to get what you want most in life. And — like every other family with children — you'll both have to compromise in order to serve your needs and also the needs of the family. DEAR AMY » "Only Child" was asking how to make the relationship with her father "right again." Maybe it IS right. He raised her as a single dad and spent plenty of time with his granddaughter. Now he wants to live his life. Let him live his life! It sounds like he deserves it. — Supportive Reader DEAR SUPPORTIVE » This father's biggest crime was when he decided (after decades of single-dad devotion) to marry. I'm with you. Jazzmandiscoverslifeis not all about improvisation You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Pisces(Feb.20-March20) — Don't feel compelled to share personal information. Only offer what will encourage others to help you reach your goals. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Emotionally charged issues will lead to trouble. Don't overreact if you want to avoid a battle with a loved one. Concentrate on getting things done. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You will have difficulty figuring out whether to make a move or sit tight. Make sure that you have every detail in place before you proceed. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't feel you must demon- strate your validity. If someone you are dealing with doesn't get what you are trying to do, proceed on your own. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Take a course that will help you live life your way. Step outside your comfort zone and you'll discover that unfamiliar territory isn't as scary as you anticipated. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You should make self- improvement your goal. If you are proud of your accomplish- ments, others will recognize and honor what you achieve as well. Romance is highlighted. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Someone will try to involve you in a dubious plan or pressure you into buying something you don't need. Be firm and you will avoid reckless behavior. Choose personal benefits. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't let minuscule problems spiral out of control. Address is- sues head-on, and do whatever needs to be done so that you can continue down your path of choice. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Refuse to be a follower. Do your own thing and don't feel left out if no one joins you. The solitude will bring you peace of mind and insight into what's best for you. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Networking can bring about change if you are concise and only promise what you can deliver. If you nurture relation- ships with those close to you, you will always have someone to lean on. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — A trip or conference will cost more than anticipated. Don't jeopardize your financial position just to keep up with your peers, relatives or neighbors. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Join forces with someone as talented and intelligent as you are. A physical change will add to your appeal. Romance is in the stars. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, MARCH 1 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM WEDNESDAY, MARCH 1, 2017 2 B