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He has suggested counseling (which he never did in either of his marriages) and he has even suggest- ed that we have tracking apps put on our phones so I know where he is. Even with all of this, I do not know what to do. A part of me feels like saying "once a cheater, always a cheater," but the other part tells me to give him a chance because I still love him very much. —CheatedOn DEAR CHEATED ON » I can't say for certain, "Once a cheater, always a cheat- er," but I can say this: Not to put too fine a point on it, but if a 49-year-old man with a cheating his- tory can't manage to stay faithful to a young and fine woman he is in a new relationship with, then he is a chronic cheater. Do not marry him. Do not move in with him. Do not put tracking apps on your phone — this puts you in the position of trying to police his movements. A new relationship should not have the pres- sure of mutual surveil- lance in order to maintain trust. Your guy should pursue counseling for himself. Pulling you into counseling with him holds the assumption that you two have a relation- ship problem as a couple. You don't. He has a cheat- ing problem. If you want to main- tain contact with him, then he should demon- strate over a long period that he has gained insight into his own problems, is committed to change and has demonstrated very real change. There are so many good men out there who don't cheat. Don't sell yourself short, and make all of your future choices in service of your own self-esteem and worth. DEAR AMY » What is wrong with you? You advised "Bullied Hus- band" to stay in his marriage with an abusive wife. That is just patently wrong, and you should be ashamed of yourself. — Dismayed DEAR DISMAYED » "Bullied Husband" has been in this marriage for 30 years. My advice to him was to stick with therapy. I then suggested that "Libera- tion from this dynamic through leaving the mar- riage might ultimately be the only path." Relationship is strained by boyfriend's cheating problem You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Aquarius(Jan.20-Feb.19) — Let your emotions lead the way. If you feel strongly about something or someone, take ac- tion and reveal your intentions. Change will boost your morale. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Work quietly on the projects that interest you most. Finish what you start before you share or present what you have to offer. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Nurture important relationships and do your best to help a friend or an organization in need. Your ability to bring about positive change will be appreciated. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Don't give up your day job unless you have a better deal negotiated and in writing. It's best to play it safe. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You need to put more effort and energy into getting things done on time. Organization and preparation will help you avoid a mishap. A former co-worker will extend an invitation. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You'll be tempted to get involved in a joint venture. Con- sider the expense you will incur if you move forward. Get the go- ahead from someone who would be influenced by your decision before you say yes. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — If you share your emotions, it will be liberating. If you want to make alterations to where or how you live, start the process and enjoy the outcome. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Be honest about what you can and cannot do and ask direct questions to ensure that whoever you deal with is being straight with you as well. Fair play is essential. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Think big, but monitor your spending and be reasonable. Change can be a good thing if it doesn't put you in debt. Do the work yourself and cut your costs. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — If you avoid meddling in other people's affairs, you'll sidestep a troublesome person. Personal gains will be yours if you focus on self-improvement and physi- cal fitness. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Make your home a place of entertainment. Host a party or move things around to ac- commodate a new project you want to start. An encounter with someone from your past will be enlightening. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You should take some time to relax and spruce up your image. A new look will put a spring in your step and draw attention from someone special. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, JAN. 28 SATURDAY, JANUARY 28, 2017 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B