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Itisdifficultforparents to balance giving financial help to their adult children and allow- ing them in- dependence, even if in- dependence means hard- ship. I do not have all the answers. I struggle because I'm a mother and my mom heart wants to protect my children from every possible bump in the road of life. My head, on the other hand, says that is absurd. Giving my boys all I can to make their lives perfect would deprive them of the joy of making it on their own — that feeling of ac- complishment that comes when we figure out how to get through a difficult sit- uation. I know of a family that has a lot of money. They could not possibly spend it all in their lifetime. Con- sequently, out of love and generosity, the parents have provided everything for their children, who are now adults with kids of their own. These parents have of- fered unbelievable support for their brood. They've purchased all of their homes and cars. They pay all the expenses and bills every month. They give their grown children more than enough money to live — and live well. The children have never had jobs. They do noth- ing. They are takers be- cause everything has al- ways been taken care of for them. The parents have deprived their chil- dren of the gift of inde- pendence. They've turned them into greedy mon- sters for whom more will never be enough. So where is the bal- ance? Is it wrong for fam- ily members to help one another, especially during these difficult economic times? Of course not. But we need to set sensi- ble boundaries. Here are some. Do not go into debt to help. Whether it's for a col- lege education, to cosign a son or daughter's legal obligation or to help with the purchase of a home, if you have to go into debt to come up with the funds, watch out. That's a red flag that you're setting yourself and your offspring up for a future financial disaster. How can you give money to others that is not yours to give? Going into debt to help another is not a lov- ing thing to do. Do not do too much to help. This is the most diffi- cult for me to pen because I am the queen of doing too much. My motive is one of generosity and love. But that help becomes in- appropriate when it sti- fles financial maturity or precludes the need for my sons to become self-re- liant. How much is too much? I cannot make that determination for you. Your resources should be your first consideration, and then you must con- sider each situation care- fully. There's a lesson to be learned from the way steel is made strong. It must be stressed sufficiently to be- come tempered. The same goes for the human spirit: The stresses of life make us stronger and prepare us for the future. Shielding our adult chil- dren from financial stress is not always the most lov- ing thing to do. In the end, it might do more harm than good. Wouldyouliketosend a tip to Mary? You can email her at mary@ everydaycheapskate. com, or write to Everyday Cheapskate, 12340 Seal Beach Blvd., Ste. B-416, Seal Beach, CA 90740. EVERYDAYCHEAPSKATE Strikeafiscalbalance with your grown children Mary Hunt Williams:CindyWil- liams, 49, of Red Bluff died Tuesday, Jan. 17in Red Bluff. Arrangements are under the direction of Allen & Dahl — Anderson. Published Thursday, Jan. 19, 2017in the Daily News, Red Bluff, California. Williams: Mildred Chris- tine Williams, 102, of Red Bluff died Friday, Jan. 13at her home. Arrangements are under the direction of Allen & Dahl — Anderson. Published Thursday, Jan. 19, 2017in the Daily News, Red Bluff, California. Death notices must be provided by mortuaries to the news department, are published at no charge, and feature only specific basic information about the deceased. Paid obituaries are placed through the Classified advertising department. Paid obituaries may be placed by mortuaries or by families of the deceased and include online publication linked to the newspaper's website. Death notices power due to a tree branch falling onto a power line. Power was restored at 3:30 p.m., however at 4:03 p.m. the power went out again to those same 73 res- idences. By 5:33 p.m. power was fully restored and a cause to the second outage was not determined. At 4:30 p.m. another power outage was reported on Fifth and Yolo streets in Corning, with one customer affected, according to www. pge.com power outage map. Six minutes later a cus- tomer near Walnut Street and David Avenue in Red Bluff reported being with- out power. According to Nicole Beth- urem, administrative assis- tant with Tehama County Public Works Department, there were no floods re- ported during Wednesday's storm as of 4 p.m., however scanner reports just before 5 p.m. said water was going over the road at Hall and Foster roads in Corning. Two roads remain closed since last week's storm, in- cluding Second Avenue and Shasta Boulevard between Eighth and 68th avenues, both in Los Molinos. For information regard- ing road closures in the county visit http://www.te- hamacountypublicworks. ca.gov/closures.html. Outages FROM PAGE 1 grade, are competing on Friday while the Peewee team is set to compete on Sunday, Armstrong said. "Our community has been very generous in help- ing the teams," Armstrong said. The team representing the Red Bluff Junior Spar- tans Junior Midgets in- cludes Shelby Arellano, Nelly Avelar, Aubree Bach- meyer, Jamie Bailey, Mack- enzie Bailey, Emma Bell, Elizabeth Cannon, Aaliyah Chavez, Yasmin Chavez, Camryn Clement, Cassan- dra Criss, Badegech Dittner, Kadence Frackrell-Meyer, Patience Felix-Keeler, Kirra Ferriera, Anabel Gonzalez, Anjelica Martinez, Natalie Moore, Emily Rupe, Chrissy Stevens, Alexandra Strole, Allie VanOrnum, Emily Wagner and Abigail Zirkle. The Midget Team is Elyse Benson, Kaitlyn Callaway, Victoria Clark, Julia Mc- Donald, Aireona Scheffler, Alexandra Ramos-Torres and Lily Morales. Pewees include Jordyn Armstrong, Zoey Brundage, Nevaeh Chaffin, Ximena Chavez, Yaneli Chavez, Milan Daniels, Emma Doughty, Adalyn Grames, Cheyann Hogan, Anayah Magana, Baylee Middleton, Denise Mojarro-Estrella, Kimberly Nunez, Elina Pe- tit, Lacey Rocha, Justice Sorrells, Lauren Terrell, Myliah Wagner and Sierra Warren. Nationals FROM PAGE 1 PHOTOS BY JULIE ZEEB — DAILY NEWS The Red Bluff Jr. Spartan Junior Midget cheer team performs for parents Wednesday in preparation for leaving Thursday to compete in the Jamz Nationals in Las Vegas. The Red Bluff Jr. Spartan Pewee cheer team prepare to compete in the Jamz Nationals in Las Vegas. The Red Bluff Jr. Spartan Junior Midget cheer team performs for parents Wednesday in preparation for leaving Thursday to compete in the Jamz Nationals in Las Vegas. dances got kind of wild." Blomquist recalled a time when he and another re- serve were responding to an incident with an intoxicated man who mistook the yel- low Pontiac one of them was driving at the time for a taxi and they didn't correct him. He also remembers the days before work involving mar- ijuana eradication involved helicopters. "We had to pack the stuff onourback,"Blomquistsaid. "We'dhave50-80,sometimes 100poundsofmarijuanaand we'dhavetohikeoutthecan- yons. It was tough. The he- licopter made a big differ- ence." Blomquist joined the re- serve program in 1976 as a way to gain more law en- forcement experience, he said. At the time he was working for the US Forest Service, which started its law enforcement program in the 1980s. In his work with the Forest Service he came into contact with Bill Hoofard, who talked him into joining the reserve pro- gram and the two worked together for about 20 years. "I would work eight hours with the forest service and thenanothersixhoursinthe evening," Blomquist said. "We had all kinds of inter- esting situations over the years." Blomquist moved to Corning as a child, attend- ing third grade through his senior year of high school there, and following grad- uation attended Shasta and Butte colleges, earning an Associate Degree in Liberal Arts from Butte College in 1971. He continued his ed- ucation at California State University, Chico where he earned a Bachelor's in Rec- reation Parks and Resource Administration in 1973. Blomquistgraduatedfrom the third Butte Police Acad- emy in 1974, going on to be- comepermanentlyemployed with the Forest Service, and his son graduated from the 103rd Butte Police Academy class. During his time with the forest service he assisted in fighting wildland fires, pro- vided camp security dur- ing fires, investigated things from timber theft to large and small sales of forest productsandworkedinmar- ijuanainvestigation,eradica- tion and surveillance, earn- ing himself the status of being declared and expert witness in the federal dis- trict court. In addition to being a reserve deputy, Blomquist has worked as a member of the Mineral fire depart- ment where he has been the fire chief for 31 years, he said. Blomquist's favorite part of his experience as a re- serve has been the camara- derie with the officers and the abilities to work with so many agencies, he said. Blomquist looks forward totravelingmoreandspend- ing time with his family, in- cluding watching his grand- children play ball, he said. He and Betty, who married in 1978, have three children, Jack, Augusta and Jason. Blomquist FROM PAGE 1 An article in the Jan. 7 edition regarding site cleanup of a former gas manufacturing plant owned by PG&E listed an incorrect address. The cleanup is taking place at 600 Rio St. in Red Bluff. The Daily News regrets the error. It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you believe a factual error has been made in a news story, call 737- 5042. CORRECTION Wrong address for cleanup site be completed by the city, in addition to the already com- pleted mitigations, to reduce theodorsinthearea,accord- ing to the agenda report by Kampmann. According to the assess- ment done in the area it ap- peared that the current hy- draulic profile for the sewer force main may also be re- sulting in increased deten- tiontimes,whichcouldallow for the flow to turn septic. Plans and specifications are completed and the proj- ect is now ready to be adver- tised for construction bids, Kampmann said. The issue was first pre- sented to city staff on June 17, 2014.Citystaffwasdirectedto continuetomonitorthesitua- tion and to bring back addi- tional information or options for the council to consider. Local resident Kathy Nel- son, who lives near this area, said at the meeting there is often a terrible smell in her homeduetothesewerissues. Nelson is looking forward to getting the project done, as shesaidshehasbeenwaiting a long time for it to happen. Sewer FROM PAGE 1 JULIE ZEEB — DAILY NEWS Betty Blomquist and her granddaughter Brittany cut the cake for a retirement party for Al Blomquist on Wednesday a er almost 41years as a Tehama County Sheriff's Department Reserve Deputy. ILABOYD September 21, 1921 ~ January 17, 2017 A funeral will be held for Ila Boyd, 95 of Red Bluff, on Saturday, January 21 at 11a.m . at Brusie Funeral Home in Chico. She passed away on Tuesday, January 17, 2017 in Redding. Ila was born on September 22, 1921 to Ira and Lillian Vincent. In 1967 she married Everett Boyd. Ila enjoyed many years of china painting, playing golf, traveling and spending time with friends. She is survived by her husband Everett of Redding; niece Sherry and three nephews Danny, Nels and Jerry. Burial will take place at Glen Oaks Memorial Park in Chico. Obituaries Smog Check (MOST CARS & PICK-UPS) 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. starting at $ 29 95 + $ 8 25 certificate Shop Equipped With 4SmogMachines For Fast Service No appointment Needed Combining Quality and Low Cost is what we do. www.affordablemortuary.net•529-3655 FD1538 LocatedinChico,CA R ed Bluff Simple Cremations and Burial Service FD1931 527-1732 Now open longer hours 722 Oak Street, Red Bluff Patrick's Pumping SepticPumpingServices Red Bluff, CA Garet Patrick Owner/Operator 530-366-6899 4patricks@att.net Available 24/7 THURSDAY, JANUARY 19, 2017 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |NEWS | 5 A