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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mysister recently died suddenly. My husband does not like my late sister's husband. My mother invited my sister's husband to share our holiday dinner. I have a problem with him right now because after 35 years to- gether (she even waited for him while he was in prison for more than a decade), he announced that he had met someone two months after my sister's death. We all believe he was dat- ing this woman before my sister passed. Currently, my mother, brother in-law and I are in grief therapy. Our counselor suggested we do things together that my sister liked, as a form of healing. My mother believes this could be an exercise for healing. My husband refuses to go and has said I am being disloyal to him if I go. He said I should put him before all of them. My husband and I have gotten into huge arguments over this and have even talked about divorce. I want to go to my mother's house to be with her after my sister's death, but I don't want my husband to be un- happy and alone, either. My husband knows the reason why I want to go to my mother's. I told him he is being controlling. I don't know what to do. I am torn and feel miserable. Your advice? —Tornand Miserable DEAR TORN » My reaction is that you should share this dinner with your family and your husband should do this with you — for you. Including your late sister's husband in this meal makes this chal- lenging for everyone, but you can assume that this is likely the last holiday meal you will share with him, and if this helps you and your mother find peace with this huge loss, then your husband should try to be helpful. Yes, married couples should put one another at the center of each other's lives. Right now, this applies to him. He should be kind and gentle toward you, even if it causes him some discomfort. I'm glad you are getting grief counseling, but I also think that a tension-filled holiday dinner is NOT necessar- ily going to help all of you. I think if you and your mother took a walk together and visited one of her favorite places together, this might help you both more than plow- ing through the awkward- ness of this high-stakes holiday meal. You can say, "Honey, I'm hoping that you can do this for me. If you don't want to go, or if you don't think you can behave well, then it would be best for you to make other plans for that day. I'll be back by six and I'd be happy to bring you some pie." Grieving family struggles to come together after death You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. 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