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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Icomefroma large, opinionated family and we have a history of sibling rivalry and argu- ing, which is finally start- ing to subside as we start our own families. We also have a faith-based back- ground, so we also realize now that peace can't come from arguing. That said, I have one older, unmarried sibling who is constantly trying to give me parenting advice for my toddler, who occasion- ally throws tantrums and skips naps and acts like ... a toddler. Our parents' discipline method mostly involved spankings, a method I try to avoid. My sister doesn't understand this and always chides me for "giving in" and not being more forceful (yelling and spankings). I'm running out of patience and reason- able responses to her, but I don't want to "tell her what I really think" because she will be hurt, and it will foster the arguing atmosphere we grew up with. Any suggestions? —YoungerSis DEAR SIS » If you can't tell your sister what you really think without fear of arguing, then ask yourself: what is she do- ing? She is sharing her point of view. Did the sky fall? No. You found it intrusive, but perhaps you should assume that your relationship with her can survive this episode, and others where she shares her opinion. This is a very com- mon issue, especially with people who don't have children and yet have a point of view about how children should be treated when they are out of control. I heartily agree with you that you should not spank a child. A toddler who is in the middle of a tantrum is not in any position to understand the connec- tion between her own behavior and a harsh punishment. The parent sho uld r espo nd with compassion: "I know you're upset right now, and I'm waiting for you to settle down." When the child settles, the parent can review the behavior and deliver consequences, i.e. a very short time- out where the child sits quietly. When your sister weighs in, say to her, "I am trying to raise your niece differently than we were raised. You obvious- ly disagree, and I under- stand that, but I'm using my best judgment here and I would appreciate your support. I'm the par- ent, and this is the choice I'm making." DEAR AMY » Responding to "Had it Sibling," who was frustrated at the toll it was taking on her par- ents to visit her brother and take care of the chil- dren (while sleeping on the couch), this ungrate- ful brother doesn't seem to have gotten the memo that when older visitors come to stay with you, they should get the main bedroom. The brother should be sleeping on the couch. — Hospitable DEAR HOSPITABLE » I com- pletely agree. 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