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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband of 29 years has been working as a contractor for the last nine years. His last stable position was in 2007. He finished two graduate degrees in the next couple of years, but that was when the economy had a downturn, and he never could find a job that would pay him adequately. He's dili- gent about applying and inter- viewing. When he does work, he makes two to three times what I make, but only once in the last nine years has he worked all 12 months of the year. When he's not working he does all of the house- work. He cooks. He's a wonderful husband. I'm just resentful that he has four to six months off a year, and I don't know how to get over it. I'm sure it's no fun for him not to be work- ing and to worry about how long he's been out of work. He recently took a position with a company that will sell, so even this job will end abruptly. Since I can't depend on him to keep steady work, we've had to move out of our home after 11 years and into a mobile home. When we were talking I told him that I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. He said that I was being nasty and that I say mean things to him. I don't think I do. He always does his best and I've been supportive, but his income isn't steady. He doesn't appreci- ate the fact that I'm not big on working, but have always worked over 40 hours a week, year in and year out. But he doesn't understand that I'm in my 50s and that I feel this isn't what I signed up for. I wish we had money for counse ling, bu t we have to save up what he earns, and he doesn't want to spend any extra. What to do? —TiredandAnxious DEAR TIRED » You say that your husband "always does his best," and yet you obviously don't think this is his best, because you also say you resent him for having "four to six months off each year." But — if your husband pulls in two or three times what you make when he's working, and does all the housework and cooking when he isn't working, then it seems that he really is pulling down an equal income and does more housework than you do. There is no question that his work pattern is stressful, but you seem to think that what you "signed up for" is a hus- band who should work harder outside the home than you do, and should make more than you. In short, your as- sumptions are that your husband will support the family, while your income will be supplemental. You are the primary breadwinner in your household. This might not be what you signed up for, but you should be proud of your role, and perhaps more aware of how you cast your hus- band's relative success. You both sound responsi- ble an d succe ssfu l. I hop e you can find a way to give yourselves — and each other — a break. Wife frustrated by husband's very sporadic employment You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Rely on your experience to help you avoid making the same mistake twice. An emotional sit- uation handled with finesse and certainty will ensure success. 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