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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavebeen with my husband for 30 years. We are both in our 70s and this is a second marriage for both of us. I was widowed, and he was divorced. My husband is not an easy person to be with. He treats me like a child and I can't make any decisions without having to give an "ac- counting," whether buying items at the grocery store, reading a certain book or magazine or purchasing personal wear. He is so hypercritical about everything, none of his siblings talk to him; his adult children don't talk to him and his grand- children only call him a couple times a year. He was an educator and he is always correct- ing people, even in social gatherings. If a person makes a mistake about something, he will make it his business to correct them. He also does this with me; it is like I'm always in a classroom. We don't do anything for fun and don't go anywhere. We just stay at home and I am miserable. I am a "people person" and if I get a phone call, he questions why that person is calling, or he'll tell me if and when to call them back. He doesn't have any outside activities. I try to get him involved with the neighbors and he criti- cizes them. I need some peace of mind. —Trapped DEAR TRAPPED » The behavior you describe is controlling. If someone you cared about described being locked into this sort of dynamic, would you tell them to stick it out? You've invested a huge chunk of your life in this relationship, but must you stay in it? Just because your husband treats everyone the way he treats you, doesn't make it accept- able. You paint a picture of someone who is intent on controlling every aspect of your life. You are a "people person," and yet you describe sitting at home. Realistically, your husband is unlikely to change. And so — if his attitude and behavior never changes, you need to think about what change you can make. You can try to push back, by simply going where you want to go and being active and happy outside of your home, but if you being you makes your home life untenable, then you should liberate yourself from your home life. Counseling could help you to clarify your mar- riage's dynamic, as well as your options now. DEAR AMY » I used to be annoyed about noisy babies on planes until I flew back from China on a plane full of newly adopted orphans. There were probably 75 babies on that plane, and I'm sure some of them cried, but I didn't mind a bit. One of them was my new granddaughter. — Proud Grandma in Tucson DEAR PROUD » Now I'M crying. Husband's controlling ways make his wife miserable You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Bring about change instead of waiting for it to come to you. Set the standard and don't stop until you are satisfied. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You'll be tempted to brag and make promises that you won't be able to keep. Take a step back and rethink your mo- tives and strategy. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Deal with your responsibili- ties as best you can before you embark on an adventure. You'll have a better time if you've taken care of business. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Lending a helping hand will also give you the upper hand. Bring about positive changes that will make your work less stressful. Invest in yourself. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Benefits will result if you have the courage to make the changes that are necessary to achieve your goal. Use your in- telligence to win favors. Refuse to argue. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Get moving and stay active. Do your own thing and avoid interference. Celebrate your accomplishments with a loved one. A romantic gesture will improve your personal life. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Going on a daytrip or taking on an intellectual challenge will encourage you to add to your qualifications. Live within your means in order to ease your stress. Don't let uncertainty weigh you down. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You can bring about change if you are passionate and dedi- cated to a cause you believe in. An interesting relationship will bring additional opportunities. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You can mix business with pleasure in order to improve your relationships all around. Take any opportunity you get to share your ideas and promote some- thing you want to pursue. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A trip or retreat will do you good. Take your health into your own hands and make a point to get fit and improve your diet. Ro- mance is highlighted. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Rely on your knowledge, expertise and skills to help you make an important choice. A partnership will require special attention and compassionate words. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Live and learn. Test the waters and try something that has always been of interest to you. Don't give someone a false impression. Put more time and effort into personal change in- stead of trying to change others. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, NOV. 3 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2016 4 B