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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»WhenIwas a freshman in college, 17 years ago, my roommate and I went to a house party. My roommate disap- peared into a room with a guy. He locked the door. I banged on the door, but she didn't come out. When she did emerge, she said she wanted to leave. On our walk back to the campus bus stop, she broke down sobbing, saying that he had forced her to have sex with him. At the time, I had no way of comprehending that this was rape. I am pretty sure I reacted poorly. I was in complete shock. I do remember saying that we should go to the clinic, and that we should tell someone. She didn't want to. When we woke the next morning, she didn't want to talk. We never talked about it. Given all that is now coming to light around rape culture on campuses, and the wisdom that comes with age, I am riddled with guilt. This must have shaped her college experience and her life in an awful way. I feel so ashamed and guilty that I didn't help her. We are still friends and I really want to tell her I am sorry, but I don't know how, or if I should. —Ashamed DEAR ASHAMED » Accord- ing to recent statistics gathered by the National Crime Victimization Sur- vey and published by the National Sexual Assault Hotline, for female col- lege students, only an es- timated 20 percent report their assault. Your friend is in the great majority of women who do not report being raped. Because you still have an active friendship with her, you should be open and honest now. Tell her how you feel about what happened, share your regret that you didn't do more to help her, and of- fer her your loving kind- ness and support. She may say she doesn't want to discuss this or that she doesn't remember the episode in the same way that you do. She may ask you never to bring this up again. Respect all of her choices, and remember the wisdom of Maya Angelou: "I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." DEAR AMY » I'm respond- ing to "Left Out," who was executo r of h er fat her' s will, only to learn that she had been left out of it. I perform this function for my father, age 92. I have access to his lawyer and with the exception of being somewhat at odds with my other siblings, the will is in the best order it can be. If I could give any advice to this daughter I would say that she needs to rescind her position as executor. To harbor the animosity she seems to have toward her father's decisions makes it a very unhealthy situation for what she will be respon- sible for after his death. — Dave DEAR DAVE » Good advice. Thank you. 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