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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iama 26-year-old woman. I've been in a relationship with a 29-year-old man for almost five months. We love each other and are very happy together. We believe in total trust. He said when we first got together that trust is vital in a relationship. We are in an exclusive, committed relationship. This weekend we had a fight and I felt insecure. I checked his phone (we have checked each other's phones be- fore — total trust, right?). Well, I looked at his messages and there are all these girls that he has been texting. One of them was his ex. He was calling these women "Baby" and sending them kisses. I felt heartbroken and couldn't stop shaking, I couldn't even look him in the eye. I told him how I felt. We talked about it and he said he didn't realize it would bother me. He assured me it would stop, and I believe him, but I can't forgive him. I asked why he thought that it was OK to talk to other girls while he is with me. I want to make it work. I love him and don't want our relationship to end. —TrustChallenged DEAR CHALLENGED » It seems to me that by age 29, a man would know that flirting with other women would bother his exclusive, committed girlfriend. You don't say how your boyfriend responded when you asked him why he was communicating with these other women. But the fact that he has agreed to stop tells you that he agrees that his behavior was wrong — or at least, wrong for you. Why is he still in touch with his ex? What do they communicate about? If he has an ongoing friend- ship with her, then is he willing to include you in this friendship? If not, why not? The other women he has been texting — does he know them personally? How did he meet them? What do they talk about? These are all questions you two should ponder, as you figure out whether you want to move for- ward in this relationship. It is impossible to have a healthy, commit- ted exclusive relationship if one of you maintains secret contact with oth- ers. Either this episode is a glitch, or it is a pattern. Only you can decide if you want to invest the emotional energy and the time to find out. DEAR AMY » I did not like your answer to "Confused Parent," whose young son was playacting a "wed- ding" ceremony with another little boy. You suggested this mom say to her 4-year- old son, " We hope you choose to marry a girl rather than a boy, but when you are a grown-up, you get to make your own choice." If this boy turns out to be gay, having this rat- tling around in his head will be damaging to him. — Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » Many readers responded the same way. Thank you. 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