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He has been depressed. We had both started new jobs with a plan to improve our situation. I don't know what to do. We have gone to counseling, where he was told to move out, even though we told the thera- pist we have no money. I want to do what's best for our kids. —Scorned DEAR SCORNED » You have conflated two issues — your husband's emotional infidelity and your finan- cial situation, which you blame on him. You don't provide details about your husband's behavior, but unless he gambled away your mutual earnings, it is unclear why he is solely responsible for your debt. It seems that, in addi- tion to marriage coun- seling, you would both benefit from financial counseling. Selling your house now, during a healthy market, and rent- ing a house might be the best move for you. Tackling your finan- cial problems together without blame could help to pull your relationship back from the brink. For inspiration, read, "The Total Money Make- over: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness," by fi- nance guru Dave Ramsey (2013, Thomas Nelson). DEAR AMY » You receive lots of questions from old- er readers who complain about not being thanked for gifts they have given. While helping an 8-year-old boy write thank-you cards for gifts, he made an observation: He is always expected to write thank-you cards, but never receives them. He said that a relative told him it's important to write thank-you cards because it makes the giver feel appreciated. He suggested that, "If kids knew how special it felt to get a thank-you, we would be more excited to make other people feel that way." This has stuck with me all year long. — Thankful DEAR THANKFUL » I often wonder if the people who are so concerned about others' expressions of gratitude take the time to demonstrate this value in their own lives. Your young friend's ob- servation is wise, as well as profound. 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