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I believe her wor- ries about not having a boyfriend or husband are causing her to project her insecurities onto us. I would always be available to help her out, whether she's single or married, or has kids of her own, but in my "gold- en years," quite frankly, given a choice, I'd rather live by our son, who is more emotionally stable. He's also our legal repre- sentative, and we want to enjoy being around our grandchildren. I'm afraid about hurt- ing Carol's feelings, but I feel we need to let her know our plans about moving to be near her brother. My husband and I had recent health scares, which is creating more of a sense of urgency. Our kids are not close, so I doubt they've dis- cussed this. Should we talk to them to g et h er , or se p a ra te ly ? What would be the best way to tell Carol that we love her but but given her uncertain situation, we plan to live by her brother? —MakingChoices DEAR CHOICES » "We love you, but given your un- certain situation, we plan to live by your brother," puts your choice squarely in "Carol's" corner — as if your choice of where to live is somehow her fault or responsibility. The decision of where to live is up to you. It is completely your respon- sibility. If your decision causes your daughter to feel ignored or ne- glected by you, please remember that your job is not to take care of your capable and successful daughter for the rest of your lives. It is natural to worry about hurting her feelings, but you are not responsible for managing her feelings — she is. Make your plans like the capable adults you are. Let your daughter know in person or by phone. Present your plan in a positive, no-nonsense way. Don't fill in any details about why she is an inadequate caretaker, but say to her, "This is the best option for us, and of course we'll continue to visit you and welcome visits from you as long as possible." If she wants or needs to be near you, per- haps she would consider relocating, too. Retired couple makes touchy choice to relocate near son You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Leo(July23-Aug.22)— Check out your options and work hard to ensure that you have time to enjoy someone or something that makes you happy. Learn from the past. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — A last-minute change will be to your advantage, so don't make a fuss. Self-improvement will be more rewarding than trying to change others. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Helping others will make a difference to the way you live. A partnership will bring you closer to reaching your goals. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Putting in too many hours at work will cause problems in your personal life. Make plans to do something special with children or a loved one. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Emotional matters will escalate quickly. Stick to the truth and refuse to let indul- gence or overspending lead to loss or regret. Arguments will erupt. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — An emotional matter is best dealt with rationally. If anger erupts, you are best off backing away and doing your own thing. Joint ventures will be riddled with problems. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — If you let others do as they please, you will be given the same in return. You will ac- complish the most if you work at your own speed using your own methods. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Emotions will surface if someone disagrees with your plans or interferes in your prog- ress. Don't give in to bullying or selfish demands. Spend time with people who appreciate you. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Saving and investing wisely will give you leverage when an opportunity arises. Show what you are capable of doing and don't be afraid to take the reins. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Traveling and socializing with like-minded people will be enlightening. The connections you make and the information you gather will help you reach your goals. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Avoid organizations or people trying to take advantage of you. Making donations or offering your time and services will not bring you what you expect in return. Cut your losses. Charity begins at home. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Short trips will yield experi- ences that will give you food for thought and different ideas about how to live your life. Ro- mance is on the rise. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, AUG. 18 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM THURSDAY, AUGUST 18, 2016 4 B