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2A Daily News – Tuesday, June 19, 2012 Community people&events Neidig and Bell to wed The courage to forgive Have you ever been so angry with someone that years later you still can't be in the same room with them, listen to one good thing that may be said about them and secret- ly let what they did to you live rent free in your brain? Have you had moments in your life when you have tried to grow and change and become a more evolved human and instantly your mind travels to all the people who have wronged you and you let go of the dream of letting go and revisit the past in all its painful glory? Holding onto past grudges is like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Steeping in hate, anger, resentment and balanc- ing a chip of righteous indignation on your shoulder are wasteful activ- ities that are keeping you from mov- ing forward to all that life has to offer. Courtesy photo Dana Wheeler and Garry Neidig announce the engagement of their daughter Sarah E. Neidig, 25, of Corning to Chester J. Bell, 24, son of Renea Etzler and Joseph Bell of Red Bluff.The prospec- tive groom, a 2006 Mercy High School graduate, attended Northwest Lineman College in Oroville and is a transmission lineman for Wilson Con- struction in Washington.The bride to be is a 2004 graduate of Corning Union High School.The cou- ple will reside in Dallesport,Wash. The wedding is planned for Sept. 8 at Ponderosa Ridge Ranch in Anderson. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. One reason that people hold on to their angst about who did them wrong is that they have the misguid- ed notion that forgiveness equates condoning what happened. People can't seem to realize that forgiving someone for an action is for your benefit, not theirs. You were wronged, hurt, cheat- ed, or otherwise treated in a way that you did not deserve. That act left you feeling devalued and seemed to go unpunished. If you forgive the person who hurt you, aren't you, in essence, saying it is acceptable that it happened? Aren't you categorizing yourself as a door- mat? Absolutely not. Many things happen when you forgive someone. You feel lighter. You feel as though you have taken back your power. You may not have asked for what hap- pened to you and you know what, you have every rea- son to feel the way you do, but holding onto the badge of victimization makes you weak. Holding on to the need to be avenged leaves you always looking for love in all the wrong places. Whether you subscribe to God, karma, or some other dogma, the truth is that people reap what they sew. That includes you. If you live your life as a bitter victim, you are going to be looking for and finding people to victimize you over and over again. Let go of the anger. It sucks that something bad happened. It is unfair and stupid that someone somewhere treated you less than you deserved. The truth is that for the one person who did something stupid, self- serving and painful, you have count- less opportunities to be with people who won't. Things happen in life. How you deal with them is entirely up to you. Forgiving someone for jacking you up does not mean that anyone thinks what they did is acceptable. You can forgive them and never allow them into your personal space again, physically or mentally. It isn't Faydra Rector You Matter expected that you forgive and then host them for coffee. It isn't expected that you forgive them and allow them to do something again. It is recommended that you forgive them and then you allow them to be in or out of your life is a more neutral position. A stove can only burn you if you turn it on and place your hand on the burner. You can have a perfectly positive relationship with it by simply staying away from the heat. I urge you to practice forgiveness. It has helped me tremendously in life. I have even become friendly with people I thought I could never embrace. I was denying myself opportunities to know people better. I have also let go of people who really wanted to harm me and I have relegated them to the forgiven, yet neutral place in my heart. I used to be a powerful hater. If I can change, anyone can. I hope you find the courage to forgive too. Faydra Rector, MA is a mental health administrator, author, public speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@shasta.com or view her blogs at http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.co m/ and http://allaboutdivorce.blogspot.com/. Emblem Club serves refreshments on Memorial Day Courtesy photo Red Bluff Emblem Club provided refreshments for Memorial Day observance at the Northern California State Veterans Ceme- tery at Igo. Serving were, from left, Linnea Fletcher, Carol Anne Crowley, Mohler, Terry Kincaid and Lafe Kincaid, Red Bluff Elk Lodge mem- ber. At the June club meeting, $100 was donated to the ceme- tery. Food giveaway scheduled for Friday DAILYNEWS HOW TO REACH US RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY THE VOICE OF TEHAMA COUNTY SINCE 1885 VOLUME 127, NUMBER 157 On the Web: www.redbluffdailynews.com MAIN OFFICE: Monday-Friday, 8 a.m. - 5 p.m. Main Phone (530) 527-2151 Outside area (800) 479-6397 545 Diamond Ave. Red Bluff, CA 96080 ______________________ Fax: (530) 527-5774 ______________________ Mail: Red Bluff Daily News P.O. 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Spectacular Driving Marks First A kind and watchful providence cheated the Glooms out of a thrill at the auto races yesterday. The Glooms were cheated for a couple of reasons. Firstly, there were no tragical thrills, such as the Glooms had in mind, and secondly, if there had been, they could- n't have been seen for the dust. Professional Auto Races On Local Course — June 19, 1922 away is scheduled for Fri- day, June 22, at the Tehama County Fair- grounds from 9 a.m. – noon. A tailgate food give- teers at the event. The food giveaway will This event is made possible by the Tehama and Butte County Com- munity Action Agencies in partnership with the North State Food Bank (NSFB), Tehama Food Share and Northern Valley Catholic Social. 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"We try to move folks through the line as quickly as possible, but it may be warm outside," Tehama County Community Action Agency Supervisor Mike Baldwin said. "We want everyone to be prepared." The North State Food Bank is a partner in Tehama Food Share, a coalition of organizations dedicated to reducing hunger in Tehama County. "This is our second tailgate event and we appreciate that North State Food Bank has included Tehama County as their partner," said Amanda Sharp, Program Manager for Tehama County Com- munity Action. "We have a great need for food in our county. The partner- ship we have with the food bank has been a huge asset and support to those in emergency need of food assistance. Tehama Food Share reports that in partnership with North State Food Bank more than 500 fami- lies received meal boxes, 10,000 lbs of food have been donated with an additional 32,000 lbs of food transported through Tehama Food Share efforts since October 2011. away on June 22 is expect- ed to serve 1,000 in one day," said Camilla Delsid, Tehama County Director at Northern Valley Catholic Social Services. "We are also pleased to know that more tailgate food events are scheduled for Los Molinos and Corning later this sum- mer." "The tailgate food give- Information about upcoming Tehama County Tailgate Food Giveaway events is available on the Community Action Agency website at www.tehamacountycaa.or g. 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